Meeting for the first time

[Mackenzie]

Hi Everyone,

You know when you've been talking with someone and you're excited to meet up, but you're just not sure where a good place would be?

I'm not too sure if a hotel is where I want to start because I need to feel comfortable in person first. What if you pay for a room and then have trouble getting the tickling going? Or, even after you've talked on the Net and the phone, you are a bit awkward together in person?

Since I'm asking, does anyone have any advice on how to get a session started when one or both parties involved may be shy?

Please let me know what you think! I sure could use the help.

Mackenzie

 

[badreligion]

Hi Everyone,

You know when you've been talking with someone and you're excited to meet up, but you're just not sure where a good place would be?

I'm not too sure if a hotel is where I want to start because I need to feel comfortable in person first. What if you pay for a room and then have trouble getting the tickling going? Or, even after you've talked on the Net and the phone, you are a bit awkward together in person?

Since I'm asking, does anyone have any advice on how to get a session started when one or both parties involved may be shy?

Please let me know what you think! I sure could use the help.

Mackenzie

personally i think you should start off slow , like instead of meetin at a hotel , meet at restruant or a bar to talk for a bit , then take it from there

its really just one of those things you just go with the flow of how you two are feeling

 

[Mastertank1]

Speaking as a long time, highly experienced 'ler/dom;

I expect a 'lee sub to be cautious about a first meeting, and i will NOT be offended AT ALL if she is.
I never suggest that the first meeting be in a hotel room. I always suggest that we meet at midmorning or midafternoon for coffee or at noon for lunch. The plan is always to spend two-three hours and then part. I always leave the rest of that day free so that IF we really click we can spend a longer time.
I try to set the second meeting for dinner and some kind of entertainment, and then drinks and quiet discussion. In general, I establish compatability and we become lovers vanilla style before I get into tickling with her, and bondage comes later and seperately.
Why do I go so slowly? I am asking her to put herself in my hands, helpless in bondage. That kind of trust has to be built and earned, if you want it to last.
There have been occassions when I met with an experienced 'lee/sub who knew what she wanted and trusted her instincts and we went faster, but I never go in expecting that, I'm just grateful if it happens.
Anyway, that's my advice; take it slow and careful.
Mitch
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[Bugman]

Hi Everyone,

You know when you've been talking with someone and you're excited to meet up, but you're just not sure where a good place would be?

I'm not too sure if a hotel is where I want to start because I need to feel comfortable in person first. What if you pay for a room and then have trouble getting the tickling going? Or, even after you've talked on the Net and the phone, you are a bit awkward together in person?

Since I'm asking, does anyone have any advice on how to get a session started when one or both parties involved may be shy?

Please let me know what you think! I sure could use the help.

Mackenzie

No matter where you meet for the first time one on one,you are going to be nervous.No matter how many times you have talked on the net or even on the phone,its going to be akward at first.

I speak from personal experience here.You might want to meet at a coffee shop or some other public place and visit for a while,then perhaps go for a drive or just walk around togeather.

But when you get right down to it,trust takes some time,and the first time you tickle or are tickled it might not be that great.The more time you have togeather,the better things will go for the most part.

The first time i met someone from the forum in person she was ticklish,but it was much better the next day,and we had been in contact with calls and online visits for sometime first.

I hope this helps,and best of luck to you! 😀

 

[simulated]

Hi Everyone,

You know when you've been talking with someone and you're excited to meet up, but you're just not sure where a good place would be?

I'm not too sure if a hotel is where I want to start because I need to feel comfortable in person first. What if you pay for a room and then have trouble getting the tickling going? Or, even after you've talked on the Net and the phone, you are a bit awkward together in person?

Since I'm asking, does anyone have any advice on how to get a session started when one or both parties involved may be shy?

Please let me know what you think! I sure could use the help.

Mackenzie

I'd reccommend meeting for coffee/lunch/whatever first, and see how things go from there.

 

[Mackenzie]

Thanks guys for your replies!

I agree that you have to build trust first and that it will take time. I just feel so anxious and impatient!!

I'm not looking for a relationship with this person, as I'm already involved with someone else. It's just a tickling thing and I'm DYING to get it going!!

 

[ticklesenseless]

I agree with everyone that says meet at a coffee shop or some place public. Then chat. Instinct will tell you how fast you can move. In my experience, you know when to play and when to just walk way.

Both parties should also make sure they tell at least one close very good friend where they are. It is important that someone knows to contact the police if one of you doesn't call in at a designated time.

Overall though, use common sense and have fun.

 

[jaba]

VERY good advice.....

Both parties should also make sure they tell at least one close very good friend where they are. It is important that someone knows to contact the police if one of you doesn't call in at a designated time.

Overall though, use common sense and have fun.

VERY good advice, especially for our ladies here......

thank goodness most ladies here have a pretty good intuition about prospective play partners, but it's probably best to be sure by at least letting a third party know you are going out with someone new...you don't necessarily have to get into the private, sordid, salacious details of your planned tickle encounter, but it's good to have a third party contact, just in case.....

 

[minerva]

Thanks guys for your replies!

I agree that you have to build trust first and that it will take time. I just feel so anxious and impatient!!

I'm not looking for a relationship with this person, as I'm already involved with someone else. It's just a tickling thing and I'm DYING to get it going!!

That's some fantastic advices you got here.
The trust issue is such a big one for us girls and I can only say, should I ever consider meeting up with anyone I met online, he would have to act just as thoughtful and sensitive as the guys who posted their advices here.

I understand how excited and impatient you are, but I'd really suggest not to push too hard. Make sure she's really comfortable with the idea of meeting and with anything going on as soon as you have met. It will make her feel so much better and will make the experience for both of you better eventually, if she feels that you really care for any concern she might have.

Good luck and lots of fun to both of you 🙂

 

[Mackenzie]

Hi All,

Yes, you guys are great with the advice - thank you! Just also let me clarify that I am the female in the situation. 🙂

I know all of you are right and I need to take a step back and put my safety first. I would most definitely give somone his information and do a check in while I am out with him. I agree that the hotel is probably not the best place to start until I am completely comfortable and trusting of my new friend. I should know better than to put myself in a possible bad situation.

It's hard to get to know someone when you are not able to meet on a regular basis because of your personal situations. It makes you want to push things a little so you can get to where you want to be.

Thanks again!
Mackenzie

 

[Chuck D]

I'd say take it deep in the woods, where there will be no one to disturb you

 

[NavelTickler75]

As I do not get out too much, I probably would met people from here, by accident, like going through a bookstore or something.