njjen3953
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Humans are born with hardware and software. That hardware might be considered to be the physical body and the 'direct' physical triggers and responses that are built into it. These can be the 'automatic' responses such as the rhythmic contraction of muscles used to breathe and pump blood through the heart, the blinking of eyes to keep them moist and a myriad of other maintenance tasks that the body performs continuously. The hardware is also governed by the limitations of its creation, or, it has finite dimensions due to the nature of the materials used to make it.
The software might be considered to be the mental programming platform within the brain itself. It appears that we are born with an informational base. This base is expanded by 'all' of the informational imput that we receive, this includes information we may gather prior to actual birth while still being carried inside the womb. The existence of this base as an actual structure becomes evident by the individual's 'innate' ability to evaluate information and respond or make choices based on that evaluation. An example of this is when a newborn infant learns that through making sound they receive attention. Most infants evaluate this response as 'positive' and incorporate that information into their software as a usage tool. The determination of 'positive or negative' appears to be part of the base software program and not 'imposed' or learned by environment or socialization after birth.
In many ways BDSM explores the 'way' hardware and software work and interact together. Exploring the underlying preexistent built in response codes or informational bases is at the very heart of the relationships between a Dominant and a submissive. Some of the information within this base appears to be an accumulation of species survival encoding, things we as a species have learned and integrated in our effort to continue to exist. We appear to 'pass' this information in our genetic code or in some manner encourage it to exist intact as part of the necessary 'equipment' built into a new life. The strength and intensity of this encoded information does appear to vary from one bloodline to another and within that bloodline itself when certain members of a family appear to get a 'stronger mix' than others.
This software contributes to the automatic response structures of the individual. Reactions that the person does not consciously think about. A Dominant often taps into the undersurface of a submissives mind, that area where these identical responses are held. This is an area where a submissive will react in situations where they perceive an element of 'threat'. The element of 'threat' or 'risk' often triggers them past their thought directed voluntary response chain into the area of innate responses. In many ways the 'desire' or 'need' to respond in a submissive fashion is housed in these responses. The innate 'software' of the submissive tells them that this manner of response and behavior is correct or most liable to lead to success or even more basically survival. The more often that a submissive is 'triggered' into this area the stronger their connection with these responses will become. They are not developing new responses but using ancient ones that they already possess.
A Dominant does not teach a submissive how to be submissive. A Dominant may encourage or condition preexisting responses, aiding a submissive in embracing these responses within themselves. In general you condition responses by positive reinforcement (compliments or approval) and discipline by negative reinforcement (removal of approval). A submissive knows 'how' to do everything. Reaching that information beyond all the current societal and environmental blockades is often difficult and painstaking. A Dominant has the ability through 'expression of presence' to trigger a submissive beyond or through that barrier. On each penetration the submissive will be able to connect more strongly with their underlying self. An example of this type of conditioning training is when a 'brand new submissive' is told simply to 'present' and they instinctively alter their body to an open stance of some kind. A Dominant 'reading' this information is given clues as to what type of information is possible within that submissive. An extension of the simple 'present' may be a unique enormously erotic movement of designed seductive presentation by that submissive after many sessions and experiences of positive encouragement. The Dominant simply encourages the submissive to go into their responses further. If that submissive naturally extends their arms over their head when lying down, the Dominant expresses approval of this reaction and possibly suggests a 'furthering' of the movement such as in the crossing of the submissives wrists. This is a subtle and slow process. Attempts to force a submissive into responses not inherent within them will produce lack of comfort and a display which is inferior. Follow or Direct the clues so presented. A Dominant often has an 'instinctive' or 'innate' understanding of what they are viewing (part of their software informational base)!
Ahh, back to the topic at hand... The mental orgasm. Many submissives have the built in capacity to orgasm through mental command. To access this reaction the Dominant needs to watch and follow the signs of intense erotic arousal within the submissives natural responses. When the submissive is in a highly aroused state the Dominant needs to encourage the submissive in identifying where they are in their mind. This command tells the submissive to 'mark' the area. To some extent when the Dominant later tells that submissive to 'find' that place - the mind of the submissive searches (much like a computer) to obey the command.
Locating the area of physical orgasmic control is the first step. Developing the further conditioned response of triggering on command is done through repeated access of the area to strength the connections. It is important to understand that 'when' a submissive orgasms on command that it is not purely a physical release of orgasmic material, their entire body will respond, nerve endings reacting along the entire skin surface and internally as well. The experience can be so intense and 'primal' that it can be frightening for the submissive at first. In some ways it is a letting go of the full potential. The mind orgasms as well as the body. It is also important to remember that a submissive who is mentally triggered into orgasm may continue to orgasm for hours, their body cycling up and down as the button is pushed over and over inside their mind. This can become painful and even dangerous so it is important for the Dominant to remember to tell the submissive to stop.
Many submissives can bond to the command presence of their Dominant so strongly that achieving the ability to orgasm on command becomes simply part of the daily fabric of their lives. In some ways they present to their Dominant 'access' to this most intimate of pleasures by coupling the trigger to the command. This command can be utilized when the Dominant and submissive are not physically together and may be managing part of their relationship at a distance (via phone) and allow both to enjoy a direct/indirect powerful connection which separation does not inhibit. It can also serve to reinforce the bonding within the relationship.
Source- http://www.steel-door.com/mental_conditioning.htm
Jen
The software might be considered to be the mental programming platform within the brain itself. It appears that we are born with an informational base. This base is expanded by 'all' of the informational imput that we receive, this includes information we may gather prior to actual birth while still being carried inside the womb. The existence of this base as an actual structure becomes evident by the individual's 'innate' ability to evaluate information and respond or make choices based on that evaluation. An example of this is when a newborn infant learns that through making sound they receive attention. Most infants evaluate this response as 'positive' and incorporate that information into their software as a usage tool. The determination of 'positive or negative' appears to be part of the base software program and not 'imposed' or learned by environment or socialization after birth.
In many ways BDSM explores the 'way' hardware and software work and interact together. Exploring the underlying preexistent built in response codes or informational bases is at the very heart of the relationships between a Dominant and a submissive. Some of the information within this base appears to be an accumulation of species survival encoding, things we as a species have learned and integrated in our effort to continue to exist. We appear to 'pass' this information in our genetic code or in some manner encourage it to exist intact as part of the necessary 'equipment' built into a new life. The strength and intensity of this encoded information does appear to vary from one bloodline to another and within that bloodline itself when certain members of a family appear to get a 'stronger mix' than others.
This software contributes to the automatic response structures of the individual. Reactions that the person does not consciously think about. A Dominant often taps into the undersurface of a submissives mind, that area where these identical responses are held. This is an area where a submissive will react in situations where they perceive an element of 'threat'. The element of 'threat' or 'risk' often triggers them past their thought directed voluntary response chain into the area of innate responses. In many ways the 'desire' or 'need' to respond in a submissive fashion is housed in these responses. The innate 'software' of the submissive tells them that this manner of response and behavior is correct or most liable to lead to success or even more basically survival. The more often that a submissive is 'triggered' into this area the stronger their connection with these responses will become. They are not developing new responses but using ancient ones that they already possess.
A Dominant does not teach a submissive how to be submissive. A Dominant may encourage or condition preexisting responses, aiding a submissive in embracing these responses within themselves. In general you condition responses by positive reinforcement (compliments or approval) and discipline by negative reinforcement (removal of approval). A submissive knows 'how' to do everything. Reaching that information beyond all the current societal and environmental blockades is often difficult and painstaking. A Dominant has the ability through 'expression of presence' to trigger a submissive beyond or through that barrier. On each penetration the submissive will be able to connect more strongly with their underlying self. An example of this type of conditioning training is when a 'brand new submissive' is told simply to 'present' and they instinctively alter their body to an open stance of some kind. A Dominant 'reading' this information is given clues as to what type of information is possible within that submissive. An extension of the simple 'present' may be a unique enormously erotic movement of designed seductive presentation by that submissive after many sessions and experiences of positive encouragement. The Dominant simply encourages the submissive to go into their responses further. If that submissive naturally extends their arms over their head when lying down, the Dominant expresses approval of this reaction and possibly suggests a 'furthering' of the movement such as in the crossing of the submissives wrists. This is a subtle and slow process. Attempts to force a submissive into responses not inherent within them will produce lack of comfort and a display which is inferior. Follow or Direct the clues so presented. A Dominant often has an 'instinctive' or 'innate' understanding of what they are viewing (part of their software informational base)!
Ahh, back to the topic at hand... The mental orgasm. Many submissives have the built in capacity to orgasm through mental command. To access this reaction the Dominant needs to watch and follow the signs of intense erotic arousal within the submissives natural responses. When the submissive is in a highly aroused state the Dominant needs to encourage the submissive in identifying where they are in their mind. This command tells the submissive to 'mark' the area. To some extent when the Dominant later tells that submissive to 'find' that place - the mind of the submissive searches (much like a computer) to obey the command.
Locating the area of physical orgasmic control is the first step. Developing the further conditioned response of triggering on command is done through repeated access of the area to strength the connections. It is important to understand that 'when' a submissive orgasms on command that it is not purely a physical release of orgasmic material, their entire body will respond, nerve endings reacting along the entire skin surface and internally as well. The experience can be so intense and 'primal' that it can be frightening for the submissive at first. In some ways it is a letting go of the full potential. The mind orgasms as well as the body. It is also important to remember that a submissive who is mentally triggered into orgasm may continue to orgasm for hours, their body cycling up and down as the button is pushed over and over inside their mind. This can become painful and even dangerous so it is important for the Dominant to remember to tell the submissive to stop.
Many submissives can bond to the command presence of their Dominant so strongly that achieving the ability to orgasm on command becomes simply part of the daily fabric of their lives. In some ways they present to their Dominant 'access' to this most intimate of pleasures by coupling the trigger to the command. This command can be utilized when the Dominant and submissive are not physically together and may be managing part of their relationship at a distance (via phone) and allow both to enjoy a direct/indirect powerful connection which separation does not inhibit. It can also serve to reinforce the bonding within the relationship.
Source- http://www.steel-door.com/mental_conditioning.htm
Jen
I'm thinking low self esteem isn't one of your failings.
