Mental scars

[AquaFeline]

I am curious who else has gotten mental scars/sexual hangups/etc. from their tickling fetish within relationships, and how they have dealt with them.

 

[BigBrownEyes]

I caught hell a couple times from girls I was dating due to the fact that I tickled them too often. I can't say that it actually left any mental scars. I just got embarrassed.

How to deal with it? Just chalk it up to experience and hope for a better day.....and hope for a tickle partner 🙂

 

[AffectionateDan]

My ex used to do a great job of making me feel like a sicko for this, hence her being the EX (amongst other reasons, obviously). Until I got free and discovered that I not only wasn't alone in this, but one of legions! Now, Life Is GOOOOOOOOD! Birds of a feather 🙄 play MUCH better together, eh Gang?

 

[tickleshotel]

I caught hell a couple times from girls I was dating due to the fact that I tickled them too often. I can't say that it actually left any mental scars. I just got embarrassed.

How to deal with it? Just chalk it up to experience and hope for a better day.....and hope for a tickle partner 🙂

BBE you sure could tickle me anytime,as often as your
little heart desires 😱 😀 😛

 

[BigBrownEyes]

You know I'd love to, Tickleinahotel 😉 But once again I'm a victim of poor geography...

 

[tickleshotel]

You know I'd love to, Tickleinahotel 😉 But once again I'm a victim of poor geography...

awwww 😀 yes I know BBE about the geography issue but remember
where there is a will,there is a way!😉

 

[BigBrownEyes]

...that's true, TH! Plus, we're still young 🙂

 

[tickleshotel]

...that's true, TH! Plus, we're still young 🙂

Yep 😀 laughter adds youth to any ticklee,Ler😀

 

[AquaFeline]

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ok, knowing that I'm not one of a kind, I've known that for seven years, but that hasn't helped me any. Having trouble thinking of how to explain it. I've had people get annoyed at me because I didn't get horny from what they thought should get me horny; people complain I had no sex drive (because they didn't tickle me) ; frustration that they wouldn't; and these for upon years, not to mention some other stuff from BDSM. How does one put this behind. I suppose this is a more generic question and does not have to stem from tickling.

*begs for thread not to be hijacked further*

 

[BigBrownEyes]

I hope I'm not misunderstanding your question. But it sounds to me like you just haven't got together with a lover who wanted to indulge your desire for tickling, and other activities you might like. Your answer to that might lie right here at this forum. I couldn't help but notice there're lot of CA residents around here.

As far as ways to cope with past disappointments, I think you just have to put it behind you. When I say don't lose hope, I mean it. One really good experience will go a long way to make you forget about the disappointments. But I don't think there's any perfect way to block out the memories that we could do without. You just have to learn not to dwell on the bad stuff, and keeping looking for what's going to make you happy.

Sorry if it seemed like we hijacked your thread. We get a little excited around here sometimes.

 

[TickledToDeath]

No scars here. I too caught a bit of hell from past girlfriends but... call me the "Teflon Tickler".......it all just slid right off.😛 😉 😀


TTD

 

[MrMacphisto]

AquaFeline, it's funny that you mention the sex drive thing. I find that my drive is heavily effected by the sensitivity of my lover. What I mean is... if the girl I'm with isn't significantly ticklish, then it takes a lot more to turn me on during intimacy. I suppose this is the counterpart to what you're talking about? Please elaborate on what you mean though.... that is, if you don't think I'm being too nosy....

 

[tickleshotel]

No scars here. I too caught a bit of hell from past girlfriends but... call me the "Teflon Tickler".......it all just slid right off.😛 😉 😀


TTD

TTD wait a min...Teflon is the stuff they put in pans so
the food doesn;t stick?? You mean,you had teflon on ,ohhh do
tell........

 

[BigBrownEyes]

Hey, now, Ticklesinahotel, are you hijacking this thread again?

Just for that, I'm getting out my handcuffs and giving you my bad cop ticklish interrogation treatment! You asked for it! 😀 😀

 

[AquaFeline]

I know that there are lots of people in CA (I've met 3 already!) but this won't cause me to suddenly feel more comfortable. Learned behavior, such as discomfort or self-doubt, is not unlearned immediately by the force of sheer reason. I knew my shyness was unreasonable for years but it still took me that long to unlearn it. I was curious if people had found any shortcuts.

Oh well. Guess I'll have to ask somewhere else where people are more fragile. 😉 🙄

 

[steph]

Aqua~
I think you're in for a pleasant surprise when you get out here. I can think of one FANTASTIC "scarred" person, a fem who you'll totally relate to~she's out little "babygirl" as Dan would say!
(Damn I'm pissed to be missing this Munch!)
😛

 

[the_Baron]

i know exactly what you mean.

i can't get too excited about intimacy unless there is a mutually enjoyed tickling experience.

this hang up, and the inability to satisfy it, wreck havoc on the psyche - but no answers yet.

 

[tickleshotel]

Hey, now, Ticklesinahotel, are you hijacking this thread again?

Just for that, I'm getting out my handcuffs and giving you my bad cop ticklish interrogation treatment! You asked for it! 😀 😀

Aquafeline, Sorry 🙁 It won;t happen again ..

BBE! that comment you said should be discussed further
by PM 😀 😉

 

[BigBrownEyes]

I thought you'd like that one, Tickleinahotel! It's one of my favorites. I'll have to get back to you on that one... 😀