mourning

[HOLLYWOOD]

the hollywood brother was recently reminded of a ficitonal character who was called mr. bogangles. this dude would sing and dance all along the country with his trusted and loved doggie. after the dog lived to ripe old happy age of 15, the dog up and died on this mr. bogangles. the legend in the song has it that after 20 long years, the main hero in the story still grieves. Well the question that this posed to the hollywood brother is how long do you grieve for a loved pet like a dog for example. The hollywood brother knows someone who is going on about 8 or 9 years already. so the hollywood brother wonders how long people grieve and if you ever get over it enough to open your heart to another pet.

 

[Gilbert1]

Lost my cat which was nearly 17 years old. That was back around 1990. Cried for days. Ended up getting a cat a few weeks later.

 

[Bashiku]

I recently lost my pet parrot... no pet is such a harsh word... brother and I had him in my care since he was hatched from the egg... before he had feathers. I had him by my side for 10 years and now he is gone, and I will never forget him, but I will probably find another one, but not as replacement, but as a new experience...

 

[Budweiserbob!]

I consider pets as "part of the family" so when they go I always give them the same attention as I'd give any other person in my family.

In essense, mourning is all about remembering the life of something close to you. And for that reason I don't really seperate pets from human. Mourning is mourning. >.<

 

[Ave_Luna]

I believe that the length of your mourning period depends on how close you are to that friend, be it animal or human. Personally, I have had animal companions that I grieved over more than human companions.

In the end you'll start to cope (no matter how long it takes) and you will be able to open your heart again. You'll get a new companion and they'll win over your heart in a different way. Pets are definitely like people in the fact that everyone of them that you get close to is going to have a place in your heart.

The best thing I can really say is.....when that time comes, as it inevitably does for all of us, don't rush into getting a new companion. You don't have to wait until you are no longer mourning but it's best to give yourself some time to adjust to the fact that they are no longer here.

 

[Timewarp]

i'd say a few hours if you were really really lonely.

None if you don't care about pets at all.

I just can't compare pet life to a human's. regardless of relationship or lack of thereof.

 

[Budweiserbob!]

Well, I didn't mean comparing pets lives and human lives on a priority level. Humans will always take priority.

But I get what you're saying. Just depends on who you are and how close you are to them. ^_^

 

[Senshi1]

My dog died last year, and I had him since I was five years old. I was truly gutted. Actual grieving went on for a couple of weeks, maybe a month or more even, but even now it's got the potential to be upsetting if I think about it for too long.

Although it's not so bad now, as Gizzie has finally looked up from his neverending pile of meat, realised he's dead, and has taken to haunting the stairs in my house. 😛

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

Hell, I still think about our dog from when I was a kid from time to time. I don't currently own any pets, but seem to possess an innate cat-attraction gene for other people's pets. 😛aw:

 

[BigNorm]

My dog, Cheyenne, a few years back, had her for 2 years, she was a Finnish Spitz, and looked like a Dingo. she was hit and run by a car right in front of our house when i was away, and i rushed home when i got the news from a neighbor. aparently Cheyenne was still alive and suffering when she died and when i got home, she had passed. so i had to get her off the street and i took her to the vet to get her cremated.

So yeah, i mourned for a month and got a new dog, but i never forget her. She was THE best dog i've ever seen.

I think your grieving depends on how long the dog lived and the circumstances of the death. All in all, death is never easy.

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

for the hollywood brother he thinks of wanting another dog but there is still a part of him that is not ready. now as far as people vs. pets, well some people like or terrorist do not deserve the same affection that a loyal dog deserves. it can be tough but the hollywood brother think it easier to have a lifetime with a pet than with a spouse. after all a pet will love you no matter what. humans do not possess that ability

 

[Camel26]

Oh great and wise Hollywood Brother...

As a pet mommy to two pups, may I offer a suggestion? Try going to a shelter...and see if you meet anyone who pulls at your heartstrings...if you don't find one you want to make a part of your life, then it's not the right time...if you meet a new companion, you'll know it, and you'll know if you're ready...

Just take the first step...you can do it!!!

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

Equally wise words, Camel26. 😛aw:

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

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