Sorry it didn't work out. Hopefully this won't deter you from trying again and that the next guy will show a little more respect for the married element.  My wife and I are in the midst of getting with another couple ourselves and we've all agreed that everything from the meeting to tickling will have all 4 of us involved.  Lots of trust to be had here.  Good luck with your search. To bad you weren't  closer to us. I'm 45 and she's 46 and I'm sure we'd all have a blast.