My Mom gave us all the best gift she could think of...

[QBWeaver]

I've shared before that my Mom had been very ill suffering with Brain Cancer. All during this situation my brothers and I stayed with her. We worked out a schedule so we all got lots of quality time with her.

Mom hated that we spent so much time away from our own homes and our own families. She was crying yesterday morning about it and has been wishing she could go so we could get back to our homes. We kept telling her that we loved being with her and we did! We wouldn't give up one moment not to be with her. When I left her home yesterday she had been napping soundly. Just before she took her nap she and I were laughing so much about everything. She was truly joyous yesterday. I told that I would be going home and one of my brothers was coming to be with her. He was going to bring her up to Christmas at another brother's home.

Tonight, Christmas Eve, Mom gave us the gift she most wanted. She never woke up this morning and her breathing was quite labored. My brother called all of us and we all came to her house. As we each visited with her we all told her it was ok to go. I called the priest to come bless her. We surrounded her bed with the Father, made the sign of the cross, and she let out her last breath. It was such a wonderful way for her to pass on. It seemed she waited until we were all there with her and the priest was there to bless her. Then it was ok for her to go.

This is exactly what Mom had wanted. She wanted to be done with this life so we could all get back to our families. So tonight Mom gave us her last, ultimate Gift and God answered her prayers and ours... to take her into his loving arms and welcome her into Heaven. She went so peacefully and just looked so serene.

We will get together, as planned, tomorrow for Christmas. The whole family will be there as Mom wanted it. And I know we will be joined by our Christmas Angel.

God Bless you Mom! Thank you for giving me life and allowing me to be with you tonight as you left this life and moved into eternity.

I Love you!

 

[venray]

God rest her soul.....

Ray & Tracy

 

[Armpit_licker]

All I can say is... WOW..... This just brought back so many memories for me. My Grandma went the EXACT same way your Mom did just 7 months ago. With the entire family and priest around her bed, the day before worrying about the family not being close enough after she dies.

I'm sorry about your loss QB and your post was very touching, especially for me. I hope you and your family can still have a good Christmas knowing your mom will be watching down on you all with a smile.

 

[TKpervert]

When I saw the title of your post, I knew what was coming.
Bless you and yours QB.

 

[tickleshotel]

Qbweaver,I am happy and sad at same time. I myself know the sadness of knowing that this person you care about so much has been taken so they won;t be around in a physical sense but they will be around youn a spiritual sense.
I myself have lost a old grandpa and grandma that I loved dearly that really were role models to me meeting each other as high school sweethearts and actually I have no positive recollection as far as years but say about 9 years ago I would estimate that my family all the way down the family tree witnessed a celebration that we named as" renewal of the vows" after so many years and sadly they are both gone but I know that they are together.

 

[tickleshotel]

qbweaver I wish to say that those epcial moments with her will always remain in your heart/memories and please know you do have friends here that do care about you and will try anyway we can to have you smile ...
To this day qbweaver, you have no idea I don't think of how much it meant to me when I met you in person that one evening at my first gathering in Sacramento and you recognzed me without a doubt and you welcomed me with a wonderful hug..Jan,that meant alot to me and I am so thankful,I wish that I could give you the same comforting,warm & affectionate hug you gave me but right now this is best I can do

 

[ticklishscribe]

QB... I feel for your loss and totally understand where you're coming from.

My mother passed away last august of a stroke, which lasted a week and so I would like to share something with you.

As she was dying, I was with her and had the chance to reflect and remember all that we had been through and what we meant to each other. Thinking of her as I looked out her hospital window at the starry sky, I knew that one of those stars would be hers. I knew that she would be up there to comfort me and to help guide me. When her final moment came, she gave me the memory of her walking up a far away hill, stopping at the top for a brief moment to turn and wave goodbye to me one more time, then walking down the other side. I will always cherish that.

QB, feel free to chat with me at any time as I say that I will always be there for you. BTW my name is the same on yahoo messanger.

 

[TklDuo-Drew]

Hard to respond to this post, Jan. Except to say your mom was quite a woman with a loving family. Our best wishes to all of you. She's at peace now.


Drew and Ann

 

[giantfan121262]

Jan:

All I could say is that there was a proper closure between you and your mom (along with the other siblings). That makes it a little easier to cope. I know when my father died in 1993, it was very sudden and unexpected. To this day, it bothers me that I didn't get a chance to properly say "goodbye". I guess if I had to find a silver lining, this has to be it.

All the same, I am very sorry for your loss. Your mother sounded like an incredible woman, and, from what I saw in meeting you over the summer, you are a direct product of her. When I met you, it seemed like I knew you for years. My deepest condolences to you and your family. FWIW, I hope you make the best of your holidays.

God rest her soul.

 

[JPie1]

Jan,

You and your family are an inspiration to all of us. God Bless you and your family on this Christmas morning, may your Christmas angel rest in the enternal peace and joy that is your family.

With my deepest thoughts and prayers.

Judy

 

[milagros317]

I am sorry for your loss, but glad that it came in a way that helped your family as you described. My your mother rest in peace, and your family have a good new year. 😀

 

[Lazarus]

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I'm happy and sorry at the same time. She kinda gave new meaning to "I'll be home for Christmas". Didn't she? I'm glad to hear that she spent the last of her time with you in happy moments before going home. May the loss you will all be dealing with be sweet as honey as you think of her time with you and the peace she will now undoubtedly enjoy.

Ann

 

[kis123]

I'm actually rendered speechless!



Although I send condolences for your loss, I'm proud of you for your strength and perseverence for your mom and family. If you ever need to talk, I've been where your going even though you've taught me much whether you knew it or not. I bid you peace.

 

[featherfingers]

There is a song that always makes me cry when I hear it... the words say what I hope my Mom and Dad would say to me before they leave this world... or what I would tell my loved ones and friends before I go.

I'm so sorry about your Mom's passing away, QB, but perhaps as you read the lyrics that appear in this link (and hear the accompanying music), maybe you'll be able to hear your Mom's voice as you listen. The original recording would have been better but this will have to do. Again, I am sorry about your Mom's passing away, yet very happy that you were there for her and that she went peacefully, surrounded with love.

http://users.cis.net/sammy/youandme.htm

 

[Mimi]

Lazarus informed me that your mother passed on over breakfast this morning. You've opened your heart and your experiences and your stories to us in such a way that I think every single one of us who've been following these events all feel like we lost a member of our own family this morning. I think all of us are wiping away our own tears of sorrow and joy at her passing, and all of us are with there with you and your family both in thought and prayer this morning....sorrow that her last words have been spoken, her last hug given and received, her last tear shed...joy in knowing she is finally at peace, and that her final Christmas wish has been granted.

Jan, ever since I first met you back in Feb. 2002, I knew you were an angel on earth. You have a heart of gold, an optimism matched by no other, an intelligence and understanding unsurpassed by anyone else I've ever met, and enough love and warmth in your soul to envelope everyone whose life you touch. You've only continued to prove this through your stories over the passing weeks. You and your family are some of the most special people on earth, and I for one feel blessed that you have opened your heart and experiences to us all these past few weeks, and let us in on some of that light you all share. You've made all of our Christmases a little warmer this year.

I know your Mom is in good hands. Just as good of hands as she was before she passed on. Merry Christmas to you and your entire family, Jan. May it be filled with all the love and joy and comfort in the world.

I'll say a little prayer for your mother as she takes her wings this morning. God bless.

Mimi

 

[steph]

No words of wisdom sweet hon. You know how sorry I am to hear it and how very much she meant to you... Please call if you need anything?

XOXO

 

[QBWeaver]

Thank you everyone! I talked to Dan yesterday on my way to Mom's and after she passed. I got to talk to Max this morning also. It means so much to know you are all just a phone call or email away. It's that type of support that has been so helpful for me. Thank you all so much.

My entire family is getting together this afternoon. We will still get a family picture taken with our Christmas Angel watching over us.

I have the presents that Mom bought for everyone that we will distribute. Mom picked out special Christmas ornaments for everyone so they all have a special "Grandma" ornament on their trees from now on. We just never imagined that she would not be here with us today. Thursday she was laughing and crying and doing all her typical MOM stuff so for her to leave us so suddenly was quite a surprise. It will be emotional but that's ok. I like to call it Liquid Love. We'll have a flood of Liquid Love flowing today!!!

I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas. I know we will! Mom won't physically be there but we know she'll be around.

Jan

 

[Ayla ny]

Jan, the selflessness that you, you mother and your family have shown… is just… inspirational. we should all handle it with that much grace, beauty and love.

sending prayers and warm thoughts your way,
Tracy

 

[shdwcoder]

I'm so sorry for your loss and send heartfelt condolences to you and your family. You've shared with us insight to what an amazing woman your mom was. She clearly raised some amazing children as well. You are all an inspiration to us. I hope you can find peace in your heart and always celebrate the wonderful woman she was.
Karen

 

[MAJ0718]

I Just Don't Know What To Say...

Dear Jan,


Just like many others here in this Forum, I am at a severe loss for words. All I can say that there can be a little bit of a blessing for you and your wonderful family just to be at your mother's side at the moment of her passing and to have her love and spirit to be with you for this day and from now on. I say this because I had the opportunity to be with my mother when she passed this past February. I know that this is one of the most difficult moments that life gives you, but it's comforting to know that you were with the one you love until the very end. In that, I believe we have something in common, and I will not forget when you welcomed me into this Forum with open arms. So I would like for you to PM me anytime if you would like to talk, or email me at [email protected] if you would like to correspond during this crucial moment of your life.

All My Condolensces,

 

[P50]

Hi

I'm here if I can do you any good

 

[Knox The Hatter]

My condolences, Jan...and my arms and shoulders.

 

[chrisheaven]

My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time.
May she rest in peace.
She is in good hands now and will be able to share more fully in the great joy of this time when God shared out humanity so that we might share His Divinity
Love, Chris

 

[fitnesstickle]

My Condolences for your loss Jan, and My thanks for your inspirational account of the lasts few months with your Mom. You are correct when you say she is an Angel.