My predicament

[Vidal]

So I just got out of a five year relationship that was not tickle friendly. She was ok with my other fetishes, being minor bondage and of course my foot fetish. I am happy to say that from now on I will no longer neglect or be with anyone who denounces it. I am just curious anyone else ever been in the same situation?

By the way I am new =p, just made another post in the new members forum.

 

[rhiannon]

Welcome at the TMF. Hope you're having a great time. 🙂

"Denounce" sounds pretty harsh to me....if she was okay with your other fetishes, she probably had a reason not to indulge in that one with you, didn't she?

 

[Vidal]

To be honest no i didn't really ever get an actull reason, other then the fact that she never wanted to in a situation where someone else was in control.Well yea i guess you are right it is a harsh word. And thank you I am happy to be here.

 

[rhiannon]

Some people are like that. I know a lot of people who would never ever allow someone to tie them, leave alone tickle them. 🙂

But she allowed the light bondage, or would she tie you?

 

[Vidal]

umm it was very rare with the bondage, she is an amazing girl and I'm glad to say we ended things on a good foot, which makes me more comfortable saying it was a very very boring sex life for me. haha I feel like an ass for saying that, but its true.

 

[baldadonis]

Welcome to the forum, Vidal. To answer your question, yes many here have been in this position before. I was actually fortunate that almost every girl I've ever dated was at least accepting of my tickle fetish. They might not have understood or loved it, but they indulged me because I enjoyed it. The couple that hated it were both very short-lived relationships.

I've now been happily dating someone from this forum for 10 months now. Although we have so much in common beyond tickling, having that bond and mutual love for this kink definitely makes intimacy so much better.

I know even before this current relationship I had resolved to never date anyone who would not at least accept and try to get into my tickling fetish. But dating someone who shares the same passion is so much better.

 

[WorkInProgress]

The average person doesn't like being tickled. It's not a question of "why," because it's the people who do like it who are different from the average. The key is, when you have a fetish as a ler, you have to be realistic about how much you need your mate to share that fetish. Maybe you do need it and maybe you don't, but either way, you have to be truthful with yourself about what you need in the relationship--same for all the other components that will be involved.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

So I just got out of a five year relationship that was not tickle friendly. She was ok with my other fetishes, being minor bondage and of course my foot fetish. I am happy to say that from now on I will no longer neglect or be with anyone who denounces it. I am just curious anyone else ever been in the same situation?

By the way I am new =p, just made another post in the new members forum.

Welcome to the forum!

I've not really dealt with this situation, perse. But as I've grown more comfortable with my kink, I've begun to realize that I *do* need it in a sexual/otherwise form to be a happy me. And of course I need to be with someone who I'm comfortable having them do that to me, also.

Nothing sucks more then having someone poking at me who makes me feel incredible uncomfortable.

 

[-Hari-]

Welcome 🙂

I actually spent my two happiest years with a girl who wasnt ticklish in the slightest and didnt like being tied up. Two things I look for most in a woman.

Just goes to show ey? 🙂

 

[Vidal]

Thank you for the responses. Just like someone said in here (lazy to find the quote), I think I am way better off finding someone with the same interest. I was incredibly in love with my now ex, but things did go sour and having a fetish that means so much to me being pushed back into the closet didn't work so well.

In the words of Kermit the frog "It ain't easy being green."

 

[-Hari-]

In the words of Kermit the frog "It ain't easy being green."

I think being green would be EVEN harder, so count yourself lucky you just have a fetish 😛

Muppets really put things in to perspective dont they 😀

 

[Borg Perfection]

What a coincidence! I just ended a 5 year relationship last week as well, and my partner was also tolerant of my foot fetish, yet would not indulge in any tickling. I feel your pain, I really do.

It is deffinately a good thing to keep a firm resolve about finding a mate from now on, who is sexually compatable with you. If not, you will find yourself very empty.

Good luck to us both!