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andymac1
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Hi Money,
When I was your age my mum found a load of sketches I did of naked girls being tickled in bondage, under my bed! I know exactly how humiliated you feel! What was worse, she thought they were really good and suggested I showed dad. Well, there was noooooo way I was gonna do that and asked her to keep quiet. lol
Well, it depends which angle your dad's gonna approach this from...either a porn angle or a fetish 'concerned' angle. If you feel brave enough, I think you should be honest that this is 'your bag' so to speak. It is important that your dad realises that this is normal and not abnormal.
Tell him there are 10,000 people into it globally, that you know of. I think stand your ground. A fetish is something that is 'inbred' and shouldn't be expected to shake it off at somebody elses whim. So, gut reaction...don't quit, cos most people have a fetish. At least ours is harmless fun and not 'real pervy' stuff.
Let us know how it goes. Good luck young man!
When I was your age my mum found a load of sketches I did of naked girls being tickled in bondage, under my bed! I know exactly how humiliated you feel! What was worse, she thought they were really good and suggested I showed dad. Well, there was noooooo way I was gonna do that and asked her to keep quiet. lol
Well, it depends which angle your dad's gonna approach this from...either a porn angle or a fetish 'concerned' angle. If you feel brave enough, I think you should be honest that this is 'your bag' so to speak. It is important that your dad realises that this is normal and not abnormal.
Tell him there are 10,000 people into it globally, that you know of. I think stand your ground. A fetish is something that is 'inbred' and shouldn't be expected to shake it off at somebody elses whim. So, gut reaction...don't quit, cos most people have a fetish. At least ours is harmless fun and not 'real pervy' stuff.
Let us know how it goes. Good luck young man!
Bondo
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Good luck...
Well dude, I don't think you can really "quit the fetish". If feet and tickling is what you really like, so be it. You didn't choose to have fetishes (in my opinion). The only choice you have is either to enjoy them or deprive yourself of them. Deleting all your files won't make the fetish go away.
Being honest is always the best way. Tell your dad the truth if he confronts you about the things you have stored on your computer (your computer, right?). I know if I were in your situation, I'd feel embarrassed if my parents found out about my fetishes like that, but things will be better after that initial embarrassment goes away.
This is all advice based on my personal opinion. If anyone disagrees (including you) or knows a different way to do things, have a crack at it.
Good luck! The philosophy I try to keep in mind in situations like these is this: The toilet seat is never as cold as you think it's going to be. If it is, it warms up quickly enough.
Bondo =]
Well dude, I don't think you can really "quit the fetish". If feet and tickling is what you really like, so be it. You didn't choose to have fetishes (in my opinion). The only choice you have is either to enjoy them or deprive yourself of them. Deleting all your files won't make the fetish go away.
Being honest is always the best way. Tell your dad the truth if he confronts you about the things you have stored on your computer (your computer, right?). I know if I were in your situation, I'd feel embarrassed if my parents found out about my fetishes like that, but things will be better after that initial embarrassment goes away.
This is all advice based on my personal opinion. If anyone disagrees (including you) or knows a different way to do things, have a crack at it.
Good luck! The philosophy I try to keep in mind in situations like these is this: The toilet seat is never as cold as you think it's going to be. If it is, it warms up quickly enough.
Bondo =]
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You're 19, and therefore able to take your own decisions about your sexual preferences, and I'm sure your father will respect that. But he will naturally be worried about you and will want to know what the situation is and want to offer his advice. I would avoid telling him that this is an undying obsession of yours that you cannot live without, but rather, that it is something that you find a turn-on, and you have come to realise that you are not alone in this, but that a vast number of people are into this as well. Explain that it has been a real relief to you to realise this, and you are therefore interested in finding out more about it on the internet.
Explain how this fetish has affected your ability to relate to the oposite sex, but again in such a way as to hint that things are reasonably normal there. (Parents are often worried about this issue) If he has come across scenes of heavy bondage or other, more hardline stuff, don't say that you regularly indulge in this sort of thing, and get your ideas from the internet, but again, play it down, explain that it is interesting but doesn't really affect your life.
Altogther, he will probably be most open to a reasonable, honest approach, one where you do not start by becoming defensive and making exuses which will enable him to trap you in contradictions. If you stand up for what is true and right for you with a certain confidence, without being cocky, you have probably won your point. If he is a conservative who believes all this stuff is evil and will determine your long-term future in hell, then you may have to change your approach a little.
This is a start. Should it be of any use to you and you want to ask more, either PM me or continue to ask on this thread, where others can join in.
Explain how this fetish has affected your ability to relate to the oposite sex, but again in such a way as to hint that things are reasonably normal there. (Parents are often worried about this issue) If he has come across scenes of heavy bondage or other, more hardline stuff, don't say that you regularly indulge in this sort of thing, and get your ideas from the internet, but again, play it down, explain that it is interesting but doesn't really affect your life.
Altogther, he will probably be most open to a reasonable, honest approach, one where you do not start by becoming defensive and making exuses which will enable him to trap you in contradictions. If you stand up for what is true and right for you with a certain confidence, without being cocky, you have probably won your point. If he is a conservative who believes all this stuff is evil and will determine your long-term future in hell, then you may have to change your approach a little.
This is a start. Should it be of any use to you and you want to ask more, either PM me or continue to ask on this thread, where others can join in.
andymac1
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Well said Bondo & Ericmartin! I forgot to say Money...
My mum soon forgot about it and my embarrassment soon went and things were back to normal fairly quickly. I hope this gives you comforting thoughts after you have chatted to your dad.
My mum soon forgot about it and my embarrassment soon went and things were back to normal fairly quickly. I hope this gives you comforting thoughts after you have chatted to your dad.
CheshireCatNY
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Just tell him it could be worse, you could be into sticking live gerbils up your ass...LOL....there are a lot of things fetish/sexual related out there that are A LOT WORSE, more questionable and often times more dangerous than tickling. Pedophilia, Beastiality, HEAVY S&M, Ritual Vampirism, Scat, Auto-Erotic Asphixiation, etc....
For the record I think my parents already know....honestly I think they're just relieved I'm not gay....ROFLMAO....(not that theres anything wrong with that!) I was always and still am pretty effeminite....😛 Most of my friends know and since I've always been a pretty wierd guy it really didnt suprise them at all that I would be into something like that....again I think they were relieved I wasnt into something wierder...
For the record I think my parents already know....honestly I think they're just relieved I'm not gay....ROFLMAO....(not that theres anything wrong with that!) I was always and still am pretty effeminite....😛 Most of my friends know and since I've always been a pretty wierd guy it really didnt suprise them at all that I would be into something like that....again I think they were relieved I wasnt into something wierder...
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I don't know how constructie that was femnose. Hey money, I think this is the best thing that could have happened to you. It is putting the earnest on you to be able to articulate your fetish to another person that you have a great deal of respect and admiration for. Don't fret, dads know that boys will be boys. you probably wouldn't believe the stories that he will have to tell you. I remember when the time came and my father had discovered me, he basically instructed me on how to not make it into a negative, and a responsible parent will do the same.
Just remember, Telling your dad and being okay with that is step one. now all you have to do is find a ticklish girl of mutual interest, and you will be homefree for the next 60 years
Just remember, Telling your dad and being okay with that is step one. now all you have to do is find a ticklish girl of mutual interest, and you will be homefree for the next 60 years
MistressValerie1
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Since you are an adult person, your sex life is between you and your romantic partners, nobody else. I think you should just tell Dad that your interest is based on curiosity, and ask him to respect your privacy. You may need to reassure him that there is nothing criminal or dangerous about feet or tickling, and that it is quite harmless compared to a lot of the truly weird stuff out there. Be calm and polite, not defensive, and it'll probably go well.
Best of luck,
Best of luck,
I too have an 18 yr old daughter. I also agree with Val. At the age of 18, you are legally an adult, you can consider various alternatives as you see fit. You could consider some strange political parties.....In respect for recent events, I won't name the specifics. Just be cool, be adult (you are one now), be logical....that'll get the dad everytime.
