New Girlfriend and tickling

[randomguy85]

So, I've not visited the forum or theater for a while. One big reason being my new girlfriend. Amazing woman; beautiful, fun, great sense of humor, kind, I could go on and on. She's a good girl, but when you get her alone, her dark side comes out and she's quite the horny girl. We'll anyways, we've been having some fun. And amidst all this I try and sneak in some tickling. She's very ticklish, especially her feet. One problem though, when I try and tickle her she always says "no" and tries to stop me. Preferring a more sexual touch as opposed to a tickling touch. The only time she "accepts" the tickling, if you will, is when we are out in a more public setting, as opposed to the bedroom. Now, on the one hand this means there's a lot more of other activities going on between us, but on the other hand there is far too little tickling going on. I'm worried if I push it she'll get mad about it. Now mind you last night she took my joke of tying her hands to the head of my bed and made it serious suggesting I do this. So I had her hands tied above her, and I did tickle her very briefly on her under arms but she said "No. Remember I'm putting a lot of trust in you right now." So I guess my point in all this is, anyone have any thoughts as to should I try and continue to tickle her to see if I can comfort her on the idea of it, or should I keep laying off of it and more on the strait up sexual side of things?

And no she doesn't know about how I feel of tickling. I already did make some attempts not to tell her, but to try and be sneaky as to make her accept it, like saying "I just do it because I like you" or "I like to see you smile, you have a very pretty smile". Which both are very true, but have such a deeper meaning to them too. So yeah, if anyone has any thoughts, comments, interests in more details about this cause I was kind of vague due to time issues, I would like to hear your thoughts.

 

[daddy]

Tell her the truth bro! That is my advice to everyone and anyone. Life is too short to wait it out and have it end in disaster or never know.

peace out,
daddy

 

[tickledorange]

Oh, and if she agrees to it, take it slow at first. Not a lot of people are used to being tickled certain ways.

 

[randomguy85]

Thank you both, quite hasty replies. I am in debates of telling her, but I think its far too soon to. In time I'm sure I will, but this is still really early on. And yes, definitely would take it slow if she agrees. Thanks again.

 

[daddy]

Oh, and if she agrees to it, take it slow at first. Not a lot of people are used to being tickled certain ways.

I agree with Orange. Don't go all out at first...BUT, some either like it, some hate it OR it can be a compromise as in "she will do what you like if you do what she likes" sort of thing. Still, I say tell her and the reasons why you like it and why it might turn you on. Being honest is a good thing and once she knows you are opening up to her, she might appreciate you even more. Just a thought. Good luck to ya bro.

peace out,
daddy

 

[maniactickler]

Tell her about it now. this way if she isnt open to it, you can stop wasting your time and move on.

 

[Tidas]

Tell her about it now. this way if she isnt open to it, you can stop wasting your time and move on.

/agreed.

 

[milagros317]

I believe you would be better off telling her about your love of tickling now, and seeing what her reaction is. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to tell her, and the more she might be angry about you concealing something important from her.

 

[minerva]

I agree with what daddy and milagros317 said. The sooner you tell her, the better. She will appreciate your honesty.
What makes me wonder is that she obviously doesn't mind being tickled in public, but refuses to be tickled when you're in private. Did you ever ask her why that is. Maybe she basically does like tickling, but had some bad experience once. Being open about the issue would make it much easier for you to find out what she really likes as well.
As she herself said, she already put a lot of trust in you by letting you tie her down. I guess being honest about your love for tickling and talking about it openly, but still being sensitive about it if she's really not into it will make her trust you even more.
Good luck to both of you 🙂

 

[randomguy85]

again

Again my many thanks to you all for your feedback. I appreciate all your good words, advice and encouragement. I am a bit hesitant still on telling her as I've kept it completely to myself (except for her of course) about how I feel about tickling, but I'm sure I may be able to muster up my strength, especially with her. Thanks again, and when I do let it out, I'll let you all know how it went.

 

[isabeau]

hmm she said remember i'm putting my trust in you...what if you maybe continued to do that just a bit at a time? i mean tying her hands, teasing her sexually, and then sneaking some tickles, then when she says no, quit..then each time maybe she will like it a bit better..and slow is always best..good luck..and don't listen to maniac..gesh...if you love her, try everything first before ever thinking of dropping her...you can pm me anytime if you wish