New to Public Play

[Camel26]

Last night, for the second time, my ler and I played in a public forum...the local dungeon. 2 people helped her to pin me to a couple of benches, and tickle the heck out of me for an hour or so...

While it was an amazing experience, I couldn't relax...and because of my tension, I felt that I couldn't let go and just laugh...

Perhaps it was being watched by people who are so into pain that made me nervous/self conscious...or perhaps it was the fact that the benches kept separating beneath me...either way, I couldn't relax...

Any advice for a gal who loves to play? And wants to laugh her booty off in public???

Any help would be greatly appreciated...thank you in advance!!!

 

[Violetta]

A shot or two of something stiff to get you loose (that always does sound like it shouldn't work...), and wearing something that lets you feel a little more center-of-attention might help. And bear in mind that most of us pain freaks don't judge just because you don't want into our world. Have a good time however you want to, because that's what dungeons are really built for. I wish I had some sort of little secret or something to impart, but in my experience there really isn't one. It's one of those things like sky diving. You just gotta jump in (or out... whatever).

 

[TKLVR181]

Mentally steel yourself to let go. Sammi's right--people don't always judge like that. Being in a chair has taught me that. And yeah--a little alchohol probably wouldn't hurt 😉

Also, know yourself and what helps you let go--for me it's feeling like I have a friendly ler---if I were interrogated-tickled I wouldn't be enjoying it. Whatever it is for you, whether it be something *you* do or something the misses does, do it 😉

Getting to know your lers also might ease some of the anxiety 🙂

~K

 

[anon0907]

Practice.

The more you do it, the more comfortable you'll be, assuming safe and otherwise enjoyable experiences. Kinda like public speaking.

Be glad to help you settle in to it on my trip to Cleveland in a couple months. :evilthoughts:

CJ

 

[Camel26]

I always scene with people I trust...or else, no scene. Last night, it was my wife, an old friend, and a new friend who is on this site...all of whom I trust. That wasn't the issue...

I love playing with my ler...and have fantasized for years about multiple lers...but when I finally have the opportunity, I can't relax enough to let go...sadness...

I can't drink before going to the dungeon...I'm the First Aid/CPR gal and, on top of it being not allowed, I need to be sober in order to provide my services...plus, I'm a lousy drunk.

Gadilici--let me know when you'll be in town. If you're interested in coming to the dungeon, I'll get you more info. 😉

 

[anon0907]

Well, if you already trust, then it's just a matter of gettin out there and doing it.

I will do so, and I appreciate the offer, Camel.

CJ

 

[Camel26]

After much thought/discussion with my ler, we decided that, not only do I just need to get out there and do it more to get comfy, but:

1) I need to help the dungeon to obtain wrestling mats to play on...

2) There needs to be more build up...it can't just be me hopping onto a table or bench and just getting tickled...my whole life, anytime I have been tickled by more than 1 person, there has been more leading up to it...either I instigated something and then ran away and was caught, or friends wanted information that I was unwilling to give up, etc...buildup is key...

I've been told that my birthday is going to be insane, as it's going to be a theme night of some sort anyway...and that I'm in for a treat...

Delicious anticipation...😉

 

[Big_Dogg85]

Until then, focus on what matters... When the Arizona Cardinals win...err umm what I mean to say is that the Pittsburgh Steelers play one heck of a Super Bowl XLIII! 😛