Obnoxious urges...

[pitticklinger1]

My girlfriend and I have an active sex life and I tie her up and tickle her and visa versa. Everything is great and I love her to death but I have these fantasies of tickling other girls, not having sex with them or anything, just (possibly) tieing them up and tcking them... I don't want to act on these because I know she would be hurt I'm just afraid these feelings could get in the way. If anyone could just give me some advice as to what I should do to get rid of these... Urges that'd be great 😀

Thanks in advance!
~pitticklinger

 

[MrTicklefeet1]

How to get rid of the urges and desires, I dunno. Just don't do it. You love her to death, that should be plenty. There's been loads written here of folks who dream of having a relationship like yours where they can live out their tickling desires without having to go out looking for it. Consider yourself blessed you have such a relationship.
If the urges keep bugging you, there's always therapy.

 

[toyoyo]

I think you are being a little harsh, pitticklinger, by calling these urges obnoxious. They happen to the best of us. Our desires can be wired in stark contrast with our hearts. Far from being obnoxious, if you are open and tactful about these urges with your SO, it may serve to expand your sex life.

Have a frank discussion with your SO about these urges, and not in the heat of the moment, rather over coffee, or something like that. Communication probably got you and your love to the point you are at now, so why hold back at this point? She may be open to the idea, and may even want to share.

 

[ticklysoles]

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[Journia]

Ah, petty idiocies.

 

[the_jimmy_james]

Or she may accuse him of cheating and dump him. Unreasonable, I know, but women are unreasonable creatures and cannot be expected to be convinced by argument.

Always good to see the secretly jealous, super-jaded, spurned-by-lover type weigh in.

 

[ticklysoles]

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[KazuoK]

Have a frank discussion with your SO about these urges, and not in the heat of the moment, rather over coffee, or something like that. Communication probably got you and your love to the point you are at now, so why hold back at this point? She may be open to the idea, and may even want to share.

Generally I'd say it's a bad idea to bring up interest in other women to your SO. It just seems inappropriate to me.

But I definitely agree a relationship depends on good communication, and that includes knowing what's appropriate to say and what to keep to yourself. I think if you're in a relationship with someone you should already have some idea if they would be okay with talking about attraction to outside parties.

There's a big difference though between open communication and saying everything you think.

 

[toyoyo]

Look, if these desires are as strong as you say, they will manifest themselves somehow. The best way is to be honest with yourself and your SO. It is unhealthy to just ignore.