alwayssilver
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Hi everyone. I've been without the internet for what seems like months, so much has happened in the last few weeks it feels like I've seriously been gone for... well months. Anyways a lot has happened and it involves moving across the country to Texas and starting over here with my brother and my sister in law. Well... It's been a hectic few weeks and it seems to be getting better. Which I'm being completely sarcastic.
Anyways it really all centers around their son, my nephew, AJ. A very cute six/seven month old baby who's very sweet and happy, but have two very crappy parents. Normally I'm on my brothers side 100% This time it's quite different. And because of that I'm going to say a few th ings that my brother is doing wrong and than my sister in law.
Now before I begin I should tell you I'm no expert when it comes to children. Especially babies. But even people without kids can tell you something is wrong.
My Brother
My brother used to take care of 3 kids that didn't even belong to him. He was pretty good with them, but they weren't his. But AJ is. His flesh and blood and he doesn't even have time for the kid it seems.
First of all he talks to AJ like an adult. And I don't mean this like he's not talking baby talk to him. Which he isn't. But when AJ get's fussy he continously says 'AJ!' or 'Hush AJ' or 'There's no call for that!; like he know's he's doing something wrong, which he isn't.
The next thing I've noticed is he only holds him when he's being pressured to by his wife. Now this isn't all the time, but a good majority of the time he's holding his son like he's being punished.
When AJ is cranky he assumes he's only hungry or tired. When he comes to find out he wants to be held than he gets aggrivated and often calls AJ 'spoiled'. I do agree holding a baby everytime he/she cries does spoil them. But I also believe it wouldn't spoil them to hold the baby here or there.
Often if he can't calm AJ down he puts him in another room and walks away.
Sister in law
It's not very difficult to say what she does wrong. Just look what I wrote for my brother. But she's a little stranger. She'll talk to AJ like he's a baby, than she'll talk to him like my brother does, only louder. She slams doors when he won't calm down and than breaks down crying. But she doesn't cry tears, she'll cry and pout but than become normal again almost in an instant.
She's having tooth pains right now and she says it's so bad she can't really do anything around the house. But I don't know if that can be used as an excuse. I don't think it could, but she seems to latch onto it like it was her lifejacket.
The place they prepare AJ's food is actually the bathroom. And that place should be quarintined. Just imagine a public restroom and you have this bathroom.
She, like my brother, makes fun of AJ too. Calls him names, mimics his cries, but only louder. And they fight constantly infront of the boy.
I'm here for about a month or two until my paycheck gets a little bigger. But already I'm ready to go. It's so crazy here. They are constantly fighting, and my sister in law is actually a hypocrite. Something I really hate. This morning I found her sleeping on the couch and than I saw her take off her wedding ring proclaiming they were finished. Also she cuts my brother down quite a bit. Insults him, treats him like garbage, yet she claims he is her heart and love of her life. She says she cares about him, but talks behind his back and also says she doesn't care about his feelings. Funny thing is I like her, but at the same time I want to get the hell away from her.
My brother is lazy. He whines when he has to do something around the house. He's not insulting like his wife, but the exact opposite. I've never saw him act the way he does act though. He has developed a mind of his own. He's willful, and I'm so glad he is, but I can see now why he shouldn't be in this situation. Though he doesn't talk about his wife behind his back, though he does get quite angry at her. Which I can understand.
To be honest I don't see it working out between the two. They aren't technically married and I'll be surprised if they actually do get married.
Well thats enough from me.
Wish me luck....
Anyways it really all centers around their son, my nephew, AJ. A very cute six/seven month old baby who's very sweet and happy, but have two very crappy parents. Normally I'm on my brothers side 100% This time it's quite different. And because of that I'm going to say a few th ings that my brother is doing wrong and than my sister in law.
Now before I begin I should tell you I'm no expert when it comes to children. Especially babies. But even people without kids can tell you something is wrong.
My Brother
My brother used to take care of 3 kids that didn't even belong to him. He was pretty good with them, but they weren't his. But AJ is. His flesh and blood and he doesn't even have time for the kid it seems.
First of all he talks to AJ like an adult. And I don't mean this like he's not talking baby talk to him. Which he isn't. But when AJ get's fussy he continously says 'AJ!' or 'Hush AJ' or 'There's no call for that!; like he know's he's doing something wrong, which he isn't.
The next thing I've noticed is he only holds him when he's being pressured to by his wife. Now this isn't all the time, but a good majority of the time he's holding his son like he's being punished.
When AJ is cranky he assumes he's only hungry or tired. When he comes to find out he wants to be held than he gets aggrivated and often calls AJ 'spoiled'. I do agree holding a baby everytime he/she cries does spoil them. But I also believe it wouldn't spoil them to hold the baby here or there.
Often if he can't calm AJ down he puts him in another room and walks away.
Sister in law
It's not very difficult to say what she does wrong. Just look what I wrote for my brother. But she's a little stranger. She'll talk to AJ like he's a baby, than she'll talk to him like my brother does, only louder. She slams doors when he won't calm down and than breaks down crying. But she doesn't cry tears, she'll cry and pout but than become normal again almost in an instant.
She's having tooth pains right now and she says it's so bad she can't really do anything around the house. But I don't know if that can be used as an excuse. I don't think it could, but she seems to latch onto it like it was her lifejacket.
The place they prepare AJ's food is actually the bathroom. And that place should be quarintined. Just imagine a public restroom and you have this bathroom.
She, like my brother, makes fun of AJ too. Calls him names, mimics his cries, but only louder. And they fight constantly infront of the boy.
I'm here for about a month or two until my paycheck gets a little bigger. But already I'm ready to go. It's so crazy here. They are constantly fighting, and my sister in law is actually a hypocrite. Something I really hate. This morning I found her sleeping on the couch and than I saw her take off her wedding ring proclaiming they were finished. Also she cuts my brother down quite a bit. Insults him, treats him like garbage, yet she claims he is her heart and love of her life. She says she cares about him, but talks behind his back and also says she doesn't care about his feelings. Funny thing is I like her, but at the same time I want to get the hell away from her.
My brother is lazy. He whines when he has to do something around the house. He's not insulting like his wife, but the exact opposite. I've never saw him act the way he does act though. He has developed a mind of his own. He's willful, and I'm so glad he is, but I can see now why he shouldn't be in this situation. Though he doesn't talk about his wife behind his back, though he does get quite angry at her. Which I can understand.
To be honest I don't see it working out between the two. They aren't technically married and I'll be surprised if they actually do get married.
Well thats enough from me.
Wish me luck....
