Leo, I understand exactly what you mean about a girl accepting you for you, and that is extremely important. No one, no matter who they are, can or should change the fundemental person who you are, and who you want to be. If that happens, then you are not true to yourself and your principles.
Oh, just to clarify, Jenny and I didnt break up because of infidelity. She never cheated on me, to my knowledge. We broke up because I was going through some very serious family and financial issues for a person in his 20s, and it became too much for both of us to handle. Perhaps without my personal issues, we may have stayed together. Iam not sure.
One more thing: Let me explain about what I mean by principles. As some on here do, I have two fetishes, tickling, and female feet. The feet came first for me, as I have had that for many, many years, and the tickling came later. While I love tickling, and would much prefer a woman who would let me enjoy my preference on a regular basis, I think I could deal with someone who allowed me to tickle her sometimes, if everything else was right in the relationship.
As for feet, that is a more touchy issue. I have had a foot fetish seemingly since my age of reason, even if I didnt realize it was a fetish at that point. I dont think I could be with someone who wouldnt let me kiss and play with her feet on a regular basis, at least during sex or foreplay. Even if she was too ticklish to be foot tickled all the time, or have her toes sucked frequently, I would at least need to be able to kiss her feet and massage them as part of our sex play. If someone refused to let me do that, there would be a great void in my relationship with her, from my standpoint, that would be difficult to overcome.
Getting back to your situation, and I didnt mean to run on a tangent there, I was trying to use examples for myself of how keeping fundemental values is important. Feeling insecure in relationships and with members of the opposite sex is a normal process. I will say that there are times when one has to try and attempt to trust their instinct, let themselves go, and say "What the Hell". Life is about taking risks sometimes, and if we are always afraid to take a risk for fear of being rejected or hurt, then we will never be able to overcome. As an example, I had a horrible time with women in high school. I was a borderline anorexic, nervous person who had no clue with women. At one point, I even kept a "strikeout record" as I struck out with about ten girls in a matter of three or four years before going to college, gaining confidence, and finding Jenny. Once that happened, while it is always a bit scary to date a new woman, my issues with self confidence were slowly overcome. This can happen to you as well. Again, you can and will overcome. It is a matter of first feeling better about yourself, and working on your own issues first, because, as you pointed out, until you work through your own issues, it becomes very difficult to have a solid relationship with a woman.
Iam glad my post helped you. Anytime you want to chat, let me know.
Mitch
