People who aren't ticklish

[indivision]

I have heard some people on this board say that they are put off by people who aren't at all ticklish. I can definitely see why, especially if the naysayers are primarily 'lers. However, when I examine the situation, I find myself taking a different perspective on the matter.

For the most part, I am a 'lee. I have 'ler urges on occasion, but I tend to be a 'lee. And I have to admit, I find the idea of a totally not-ticklish woman to be a little exciting. It's the fact that she can tickle me all she wants, and I can't do anything to get her back for the torture she puts me through (not with tickling, anyway) that is exhilarating. Also, I just tend to think that the ones who aren't ticklish would probably tend to make the more ruthless ticklers---especially if they have never been ticklish. They don't know exactly how being tickled feels. All they know is that it makes the victim laugh, which more than likely makes them want to tickle more and more.

Thoughts on the matter?

 

[kirasao]

I kinda have a theory on people who are not ticklish at all: the right spot just hasn't been exploited by the right technique or tool. Maybe I'm full of it. Who knows? On a different note, I sort of wish that my girlfriend's feet weren't so sensitive, because, besides tickling, I also have a foot fetish too. Well, she absolutely HATES being tickled; so much so that she won't even let me touch her feet anymore, even when I have no intention of tickling them. It's quite frustrating. Oh, well.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

i actually think non-ticklish ticklers aren't as good because they dont know how it feels. just a thought 🙂

 

[huskys]

I was talking to a friend from this forum, who is a lee, and because I am both I am able to more acurately understand what she wants from a ler. Lers who arn't lee's and vice versa sometimes have trouble understanding what the other wants because it's not something they can relate to.
So I definitely think that being ticklish yourself is an advantage to a ler and if you have some lee tendencies as well and can relate to what a lee wants then all the better!!

 

[milagros317]

I believe that somebody who is very ticklish and has been tickled ruthlessly would make the best Ler. They would know exactly what it's like and be able to judge the reactions that they're getting.

 

[SillyMan]

Interesting thread, I agree with huskys and milagros, I think a ler, who is ticklish knows better how to do it the right way.

 

[chrisheaven]

agree totally

 

[toyou444]

The single best tickler I have ever had the pleasure of making the acquaintence of was a fmeale and was very ticklish. However only I could tickle her. Anyone else was meant with a cold stare and immediate retaliation by which she immediately and completely devestated them.

Of the top four ticklish people I know (male and female) none of them are particularly good ticklers. And the one who even really tries to tickle other people is the only one who seems to like being tickled...so I think she just does it to get tickled back.

I had one gf who learned to control her ticklishness over the time we dated. As she became less ticklish her tickling skills increased. Had we stayed together I have no doubt she would have devestated me at some point as I have found myslef getting more and more ticklish with age. She was actually my first convert. By the time we had ended our relationship with as much of a tickler as I was.

I have only met one person who I found to be truely NOT ticklish...and I must qualify that with the fact that I did not ever have the time to really give her a workout. Every other person I have found a ticklish spot on.

~ toyou

 

[TklrJoe]

i actually think non-ticklish ticklers aren't as good because they dont know how it feels. just a thought 🙂

I agree with Skipadeedoodah.

 

[Professor Satan]

Professor Satan says EVERYBODY is ticklish. You just havent found the spot.

 

[Headsnap]

What are the criteria for being a good tickler? Surely anyone with fingers and the patience and/ or interest to fathom out and play to their partner's preferences has the potential to be a "good" tickler? I submit to ye that it is more a matter of interest and personal nature than anything else; if you've got a girl whose into the fetish AND is a bit sadistic she'll be a "good" 'ler wether she's ticklish herself or not. If you've got a girl with one out of two of those qualities she too might be a good 'ler, again notwithstanding personal ticklishness and if you've got a girl with neither she most likely won't be interested enough to make you break a sweat.

 

[Em Es]

The tickler gene

A New York dominatrix who likes to tickle clients but isn't ticklish herself said she chalks it up to the "tickler gene." Why else would she enjoy tickling others if no one has been able to tickle her?

It makes sense. I am from a family of ticklers on my mother's side. But do I like tickling because they tickled me, or is that besides the point of the tickler gene with which I was born?

Others who had adults and larger children tickle them a lot when they were small might say they are ticklees for that reason. But is it really that or do such folks have the "ticklee gene," the tickler gene's cousin?

But those non-ticklish ticklers will always interest me, not knowing what the tickling sensation feels like as they torment their victims who can only bear it, as there is no sense in retaliating! And that reminds me of one of my favorite true stories:

When I was in high school a young hot female substitute teacher told the class about a double-date tickling where she was the victim. Her boyfriend and the other girl's boyfriend pinned her down and tickled her until she was out of breath, begging for mercy.

This attractive teacher said the other girl was not ticklish. Concerning her non-ticklish girlfriend, she told us, "My friend said she wished she was ticklish so she would not miss out on the fun." I guess the non-ticklish girlfriend simply watched the tickle action, as I am sure the teacher would have said so if her female friend helped the guys tickle her.

How interesting that the non-ticklish girlfriend considered getting tickled to be fun. But as women are more into touch and the things it communicates, that should not surprise me.

 

[Mistress Aura]

Perhaps I'm The Exception To The Rule..?

I am not ticklish, which I bemoan constantly. I am, however, a formidable 'Ler due to my admitted addiction to response control. Sometimes I think it's because I'm fascinated with what my 'lee is experiencing, since I can't feel it myself--it causes me to want to take as long a time as possible and enjoy it, as well to simply take my time experimenting on all the different methods that create the most perfect response. Finding that response (that generally being him begging for mercy) is my ultimate challenge and one I truly adore.

Other times, it's the sadistic streak in me that takes over and perhaps some deep-seated envy--for as much as I adore tickling, I can't experience it in the same manner, so I'm going to drive my toy as close the insanity border as possible just because he can. As I've said, if I can't feel it, by golly, he's going to.

I kind of figure if there can be good male gynecologists, then I'm pretty sure there can be good n/t 'Lers. I'm one of 'em. ('Ler, that is. LOL) 😀

Mistress Aura

 

[50greg]

A New York dominatrix who likes to tickle clients but isn't ticklish herself said she chalks it up to the "tickler gene." Why else would she enjoy tickling others if no one has been able to tickle her?

It makes sense. I am from a family of ticklers on my mother's side. But do I like tickling because they tickled me, or is that besides the point of the tickler gene with which I was born?

Others who had adults and larger children tickled them a lot when they were small might say they are ticklees for that reason. But is it really that or do such folks have the "ticklee gene," the tickler gene's cousin?

But those non-ticklish ticklers will always interest me, not knowing what the tickling sensation feels like as they torment their victims who can only bear it, as there is no sense in retaliating! And that reminds me of one of my favorite true stories:

When I was in high school a young hot female substitute teacher told the class about a double-date tickling where she was the victim. Her boyfriend and the other girl's boyfriend pinned her down and tickled her until she was out of breath, begging for mercy.

This attractive teacher said the other girl was not ticklish. Concerning her non-ticklish girlfriend, she told us, "My friend said she wished she was ticklish so she would not miss out on the fun." I guess the non-ticklish girlfriend simply watched the tickle action, as I am sure the teacher would have said so if her female friend helped the guys tickle her.

How interesting that the non-ticklish girlfriend considered getting tickled to be fun. But as women are more into touch and the things it communicates, that should not surprise me.

What kind of class was that? None of my teachers ever told us anything like that. 🙂

 

[toyou444]

To add to my earlier statement:

I'm probably 70-80% 'ler. I do enjoy getting tickled however and have been ticklish all my life.

I think personally I found that it was earsier to tickle other people rather than wait to get tickled so that led me more to the dominant side.

During college, when tickles were few and far between I kind of either lost some of my ticklishness, or learned better how to control it. Surprisingly it was at that point that more and more people would try to tickle me...jsut to prove me wrong. It was also at that time that I became a more devestating 'ler. Knowing that I could tickle with very little retribution helped me improve my tickling skills.

Now I have a weird reaction to tickling. If I am tickled first I immediately become a 'lee and squirm and laugh..but don't tickle back. If I instigate the tickling and the 'lee retaliates I will continue to tickle until one of us has had enough.

If the 'lee does not tickle back then they are doomed to be tickled until I have had enough...unless it is with someone I have a safeword with...I always respect their limits.

~ toyou

 

[Labyrinthgddss]

well i like to tickle because for me the laughter and the reactions crack me up...i quite frankly love to laugh and enjoy making others laugh plus torturing them is just plain fun. On the other hand i can control my ticklish response...it takes a lot for me to allow someone to have that power over me.* i have my reasons...which probably makes some of u wonder why i would ever join this community...lol...
I think that anyone who truly enjoys what they do can be a good 'ler it doesnt matter what category they fall into...

 

[Bugman]

I have heard some people on this board say that they are put off by people who aren't at all ticklish.

I kind of feel sorry for people who are so narrowly foucsed in that manner.They are missing out on getting to know some wonderful people.

 

[P[a]pi]

I think most people have at least one ticklish spot on their body.

And since there are so many spots, I think it's very easy for somebody who hasn't been tied up and had their entire body explored to assume they aren't ticklish, when they might actually have a good spot.

There are a lot of spots, tendons, muscle and bones that are ticklish, but you have to apply a good amount of pressure. A feather or light/hard scratch isn't gonna work.

I'd be very suprised if I couldn't find at least one ticklish spot on somebody's body. That just seems rare to me statistically speaking.



I'm only mildy ticklish, but I'm glad I'm ticklish. I like exploring the other side even though I'm a ler at heart.

 

[toyou444]

I think most people have at least one ticklish spot on their body.

And since there are so many spots, I think it's very easy for somebody who hasn't been tied up and had their entire body explored to assume they aren't ticklish, when they might actually have a good spot.

There are a lot of spots, tendons, muscle and bones that are ticklish, but you have to apply a good amount of pressure. A feather or light/hard scratch isn't gonna work.

I'd be very suprised if I couldn't find at least one ticklish spot on somebody's body. That just seems rare to me statistically speaking.



I'm only mildy ticklish, but I'm glad I'm ticklish. I like exploring the other side even thought I'm a ler at heart.

I've told the story before, but one girl in college was simply not ticklish...until senior year when I found out she was ticklish on one foot, under her toes...heh.

~ toyou

 

[P[a]pi]

I've told the story before, but one girl in college was simply not ticklish...until senior year when I found out she was ticklish on one foot, under her toes...heh.

~ toyou

Way to go for finding it! haha

 

[Stage Whisper]

I think that anyone who has enough patience and good observation skills can become an amazing 'ler... whether they're ticklish or not. Just take a look at the previous posts about non-ticklist lers!

But I do tend to think that people who have been tickled themselves might make better 'lers simply because they can relate a bit to what the 'lee might be feeling. It would make them a bit better at observing if their 'lee is enjoying themselves or really in distress, etc.

 

[magic fingers]

I agree with indivision. It's an interesting mix of frustration and excitement to find a woman who's not ticklish anywhere. I dated this beautiful woman in college, and she simply wasn't ticklish at all. No matter where I tried - feet , ribs, stomach, armpits, legs - it was like tickling a mannequin. But she loved to tickle me, because she knew I couldn't get her back. The feeling of vulnerabilty was kind of a turn-on.