personals

[shylittleme]

Do feel as though that some people in the Tickling Community as a whole try to hard and are to desprate to find people in there Area or Location to Tickle or be Tickled by? or do you feel that they have every right to be so huffy and desprate when trying to find a Tickling partner or just a friend online to meet? (if they can't meet anybody in real life WITH out using online as a tool)

your thoughts 🙂

 

[dskodj]

Well the tickle fetish aint exactly something that any lady is just gonna go for LOL. You'd be surprised how close minded 90% of the women you'd meet in everyday life are (at least in Philly and Arizona which are the only 2 places ive ever lived and been able to meet women). Also, some people such as myself dont have the time or when they did have met their share of women in their local area and they just aint what ya want or need when it comes to tickle flings (or even a signif. other or girlfriend for that fact! lol).

And when you say "real life"...I dont get it when people go and spout off bout that on the internet..cause the people on the other end are very real as you. And in some cases if people are true and genuine good human beings, you can actualy get to know someone a bit better rather than meeting them say at a disco or at a bar, work etc. After my last experience in as you call it "real life" back quite a few months ago, I will say im done with meeting people the norm way LOL. Ya just cant get to know the true side of someone till its too late.

I was for a little while one of the type people in the personals you spoke of, but I gave up when I relised it was more just being desperate to get off more than anything and was making a total ass out of myself lol. As for now, I dont bother with the personals anymore cause they get ya nowhere honestly. Best way to meet someone on the internet is through chat programs such as paltalk or yahoo..or even forums such as this. Cause ya may just get what ya lookin for when your not looking and least expect it😉

..ok, thats my lecture.. ill get off my soap box now and head on back to Winmx to download some more Quantum Leap episodes LOLLL

PEACE!

 

[AffectionateDan]

Not sure where you're going with this post...

...whether you're pro, con, or what?

Of course, using the Internet is a valuable tool for networking with other people who share each other's interests. (almost as valuable, say, as the spell-check function on every computer 😉 ) And like any other tool, it can be used the way it's intended, or be perverted into other uses. Stalking potential prey, for instance. This is a very intimate thing that we all share here, and while events like NEST and other Gatherings are very social and fun, people are also going to crave one-on-one meetings for different levels of play. The main concerns that go hand-in-hand with those meetings, obviously, are safety and comfort, just as they're paramount at play parties. More important, actually, as when you're meeting someone for the first time, you have no idea if they're an actual nice person, or some axe-murderer or bunny-boiler. First-time meetings especially need to be in a very public place, to get a feel for the person you're meeting. If they seem genuine, then by all means arrange for future meetings. This is the best reason we have the Munches. It allows us to meet each other safely and gauge whether or not this is someone we'd like to spend more quality time with later, or avoid like the plague. Many of the successful relationship stories we have here in the tickling community started here, on the Internet, and they continue to happen and thrive. But that's no reason to abandon common sense in the pursuit of something similar, and end up a picture on the side of a milk carton.

Come on, Gang... chime in, here.

 

[dskodj]

Very good view Dan 🙂 I defenatly have to say I agree 100% and kinda like what I was getting at in my responce. Im not exactly sure what the person who started the thread was going with it honestly..and still dont know LOL

 

[shylittleme]

My post was nither pro or con. it was just something i though up for something to talk about amongst members 🙂 ! thats all. not every thread has to have a point to it lol

 

[steph]

Big bro (and common-sense Master) Dan said it all IMHO....
It's an interesting question though shy 🙂
XOXO

 

[IwillTickleU]

if i'm lucky enough to meet a girl who likes tickling like I do thats great and if not there's nothing I can do about it all i can do is hope that I can meet another girl ( like Robin ) who is willing to have a tickle session...Thats my diagnosis and I'm stickling to it

Dr. Tickle 🙂

 

[QBWeaver]

Hi Shy... and all

The personals are a great tool to let folks know what you are looking for. Keeping it within this website, or community, let's folks know exactly what you are looking for but as Dan said... Safety first. I don't see it as them being desperate. I see it as them finally knowing that there are other people out there who share the same interest. Often our interest in tickling has been suppressed for years and years. When we finally find others who understand it's like Christmas and they want to open the presents.

I've never met a guy through a personals mostly because I don't read them. I have met lots of guys online but most of those are by meeting them at gatherings like NEST or WEST first. I have met guys alone before without even thinking about it. Stupid me. Fortunately all of them have been perfect gentlemen. It could have been much different and much worse indeed.

The issue I see is that there are SO many guys who just want to meet a REAL woman who's into this. And women feel the same way. However, women generally won't post about looking to meet someone just because we get pounced on so much by guys who have no clue how to treat a lady. Sorry Guys but if you only could see what us gals go through when we're in a chat room or the emails we receive. It would blow your mind. And it can get a bit frightening for us.

For me, I want to meet guys who are into this for the tickling and torture aspect of it. That does not mean sex is involved and that's sometimes not understood by some of the guys. I'm pretty particular about who I'm going to "sleep" with. Tickling and Sex go together like cake and frosting ... I know. BUT... I want to share that special part of the event with someone special to me not with every guy I meet for Tickling. It's as exciting and stimulating for me as well as for you but the "extra" isn't automatically included in the deal. I've had guys get "huffy" with me in discussions prior to meeting because they automatically assumed that sex was part of the equation. Or they'd get huffy that I wouldn't jump on a plane and fly out to wherever the heck they lived... yeah right - like I'm that rich! Those types aren't worth any time or energy.

Now... meeting a person at a gathering like NEST or WEST works out great because you have time to get to know them before you play. You also are surrounded by people who are well known in the community both online and face to face who want to promote people meeting in a safe environment. I know dozens of guys from NEST who wouldn't hesitate to "deal" with a guy who was rude or did something wrong to a lady at NEST or WEST. I can literally trust my life to those guys (and gals) because I've met them, seen them in action, and I call them dear friends.

And I also know that it's very hard to meet people. We held gatherings monthly when I lived in the San Francisco Bay area. We had gatherings that ranged from 8 up to over 20 people at each event. Those numbers worked great by keeping it a bit more intimate but the ratio was often one sided. But then we aren't a dating service. We'd have gatherings with lots of "lers" and a few "lees" or vice versa. But it always worked out.

What we do now is we're having munches - Social gatherings at local restaurants where we get together, share a meal, and talk long into the night. Shortly the gatherings are going to start up again and we'll get back to the REAL intense fun that we all crave so much.

So... don't let the personals or the Huffy folks get you down. For every "turkey" you will meet hundreds of incredible people here who know how to behave properly in public. Don't let the Socially Challenged get in the way of you enjoying yourself.

Jan

 

[mistertickle123]

Jan & Dan have made some excellent points about use of the internet. It is a great way to locate exactly who and what you're looking for and as long as you're intelligent and safe about meeting individuals you connect with there's no harm at all in the process.

I'm not a desperate person just one who enjoys tickling way more than the average person and I've found it difficult to find partners willing to play on this intense and passionate a level outside the tickling community and beyond internet one on one chatting.

Never really got into personal adds but I'm sure they work for some people. As has been stated here it's all about people trying to find partners to share their fetish(es) with.

Jan mentioned something interesting. Her desire to find partners into the tickling and torture aspect who don't just assume that sex will be part of the package. This issue comes up on both sides of the pond.

I've been with women who were disappointed that I was not willing to have sex with them during a tickle session even after it was discussed and mutually agreed that we were there for tickling only.
Others decided not to meet me because sex wasn't part of the arrangement.

To each his/her own!

It also seems as if the ratio of male ticklers to female ticklees is extremely imballanced and I'm sure that you ladies do have to deal with some men who are a bit less than gentlemanly in their approaches from time to time. Fortunately we're not all socially challenged ogres!

Dan mentioned munches. I think they are great for meeting potential tickle partners but also very enjoyable from a social aspect as well. You get to break bread with a very diverse group of people from multiple backgrounds who all share a love of tickling or being tickled. I only recently attended my first munch and I felt very comfortable. I look forward to meeting more people in the community.

This is a great lead in to attending a gathering...

 

[MrTicklefeet]

I agree. It's not desperate, this s a good place for those of the same mind and interest. Mybe except for that other guy in Seattle who kept adding on to his ad to keep it at the top of the list for year. He might be desperate.
Me, I just think the chances would be higher here than anywhere else.

 

[shylittleme]

ok then Most of you do use the personal ad section to meet friends or more for Tickling and whatever else!


whats a good personal ad and whats not? what i mean by that is how would a person go about Writing a good person ad or personal pen pal ad as to where people would actually REPLY!!! to it?

Because i've wrote a few personal ads on here and on the tickle theater website and also on a few Non tickling pen pal websites..... but i haven't got back very many replys hardly at all from all thoses websites 😡

 

[steph]

Well, I think a good ad is one that WORKS! Guys (esp in a place like this) far outweigh girls, numerically so they have to walk a very fine line. Most girls, even if they don't look like models, usually have no trouble getting attention from guys.

I think a great ad has to grab ya, ya know what I mean? It's lot like placing a job opening ad...You want to get noticed, stand out among the crowd of the hundreds of others. Everybody has something about them that's special...Figure out was yours is and incorporate it into your ad...Good luck.
XOXO

 

[dvnc]

Heck, I moderate the Personals section, yet I'm not certain to what success it's ever been proven to have.

It HAS spawned meetings of ticklephiles. Has spawned gatherings, that moved to the gatherings section.

It's another way to meet people. With careful discretion, it's a viable means.

Were a newby asking me how to meet folks, I'd give 'em the names of locals nearby, and have 'em connect, and make friends. I'd have 'em go to gatherings with trusted hosts. I'd have 'em visit other gatherings and friends in other towns. I'd ALSO have 'em put up a personals ad, 'cause it never hurts to try, and some of us are paired because that worked for 'em.

Safety followed, it's a more-is-better concept.

It's possible to meet one of us online, after all. Possible to fall in love, and marry.

I'm one of us that did. Did so AFTER beginning moderation of Personals, here.

Just takes time, patience, focus and sacrifice. How much depends on your situation.

A good ad? *sigh* That's part of the problem. People try to put a "face" to an ad. Try to find a face in an ad. They're text messages. Post your IM or private mail account and enough personal interests to involve the reader. "I'm a cranky old man, a 'ler who'll share with the right 'lee, a musician and geek, and I cook. I have more DVDs than a video store" Rather than trying to convince someone to contact you, though, it's wiser and simpler by far to make friends, and connect with them. Meet people. It's just worth it to do so. I not only found mine, I met dozens of cool people. I've got friends all over the planet. I've visited 'em in three countries. Moved to another one to marry.

Anything is possible, after all, when you find the one. Anything.

Peace,

dvnc

 

[vegasfootboy]

curious

My post was nither pro or con. it was just something i though up for something to talk about amongst members 🙂 ! thats all. not every thread has to have a point to it lol

yes some people do get extremely huffy when they are denied a tickle date or meeting and i think thats very sad : (,, ive never been like that,, i know that some people are afraid or awkward when it comes to that first meeting,, thats why whenever i meet a girl from online in regards to tickling i always let them set the pace and the first meeting isnt for tickling,, its for meeting and getting to know each other,,no pressure and no preconceived notions,, always in a well lit and very public place,, usually for coffee or a lite lunch and good conversation : ),, i have recently chatted with 2 new members of this site who live out here near me,, the impression i got from both is that they werent all that interested in meeting anyone for tickling not just me but anyone,, one was so terrified that her lil " secret " would get out and that she would be ostrisised from society,,she was afraid that if she met someone that they would tell the world that they like tickling and then her life would be over lol! she is very nice and seemed really cool and there was no pressure in any of our lil chats,, i diddnt really think that i could meet the challenge of reassuring her for what im sure would be like 10 years untill she felt comfortable enough to meet,, im not at all impatient ,, and never asked her to meet with me,, she is very nice and i wish her lotsa luck finding someone who will do whatever it takes to make her feel safe enough to eventually meet,,the thing here is that people who like to tickle need someone to do it with,, its a social thing and requires at least 2 people to do it,, some people are happy to cyber tickle online ( extremely frustrating ) or just download clips and look at pics and thats just fine,, but for those of us who are doers and not just lookers,, we are into meeting others online who want to eventually meet for a tickle : ) and for most they will put the time and effort into a person they feel wants to meet up with them some day and am i right when i say sooner is always better than much much later? lol! if im chatting with someone who doesnt seem like they are going to be interested in meeting one day then i will still be friendly ( we all need friends ) but then i will put my efforts into someone who thinks a meeting will be in the immediate future,,that doesnt give anybody the right to be rude if it doesnt happen soon enough but that person also has the right to not put in the effort in the first place,,

 

[vegasfootboy]

steph hits the nail on the head

Well, I think a good ad is one that WORKS! Guys (esp in a place like this) far outweigh girls, numerically so they have to walk a very fine line. Most girls, even if they don't look like models, usually have no trouble getting attention from guys.

I think a great ad has to grab ya, ya know what I mean? It's lot like placing a job opening ad...You want to get noticed, stand out among the crowd of the hundreds of others. Everybody has something about them that's special...Figure out was yours is and incorporate it into your ad...Good luck.
XOXO

steph is right when she says the guys far outweigh the girls,, and the big problem with that is the women have too many choices lol! even women that look like jabba the hut have about 300 guys to choose from,, which makes it extremely hard for the guys,,with so many choices the women dont have to spend much time with one,, they can bounce from guy to guy and have the time of thier life getting to know each and every one,,online where they are safe and cozy lol! no pressure to meet with any guy cause there are so many to choose from,,i used to think that being attractive and having a great personality was all it would take but thats only with regular ladies and not ticklees or ticklers,, its hard to figure out what they are looking for,,

 

[AffectionateDan]

Actually, I've never used the Personals Section to meet anyone here...

ok then Most of you do use the personal ad section to meet friends or more for Tickling and whatever else!


whats a good personal ad and whats not? what i mean by that is how would a person go about Writing a good person ad or personal pen pal ad as to where people would actually REPLY!!! to it?

Because i've wrote a few personal ads on here and on the tickle theater website and also on a few Non tickling pen pal websites..... but i haven't got back very many replys hardly at all from all thoses websites 😡

...Everyone in this community that I know, I've gotten to meet by either going to events or posting here, in both cases, just by being myself. A "good ad"? Man, that's a tough one to call... probably easier to nail jello to a tree than successfully define what a "good ad" is, since everyone's tastes are so different! Just be yourself, and anyone who finds you interesting is going to want to meet you eventually.

 

[Tickler Bart]

dskodj, you wrote - ok, thats my lecture.. ill get off my soap box now and head on back to Winmx to download some more Quantum Leap episodes LOLLL
-------------------------------------------------------------------
I LOVE Quantum Leap. It's one of my all time favorite shows.
I started writing a Quantum Leap Tickle story a while back, but never finished it.
I'll try to finish it & post in in the Stories Section.

 

[tactillianlover]

I've posted two personals here - one about two years
ago, and one a few days ago.

I've meet three women at T.M.F. All contacted me(AIN'T
I COOL! quipped the smartass)Because there's not that
many T.M.F. guys trying to meet with the dolls down here
south of west palm beach, according to the three gals.


I,m pretty sure the first gal did see my ad although
she is not even a lurker, she only posted ads at a few
boards and she could not remember the sight she had
posted at for mine.


The second gal was Mrs. Kansas and she told me
she had read my profile and then p.m.ed me.

The third gal, I'm pretty sure had read my post or profile
and not my dated ad.

I don't really remember what I said verbatem in my first
personal ad, probably light hearted and flirty.

My current ad is a tad blunt. I'ts a long shot but
hey it's a long shot anyway! Luck's been a lady for me.

Oh and let me change gears for a sec - That new John
Waters flick about fetishes including tickling is something
very current and very convienient to open up a coversation
with someone in your life, gang! Segway, anyone!

Get to work, there'll be a test later

 

[vegasfootboy]

dating ads

I've posted two personals here - one about two years
ago, and one a few days ago.

I've meet three women at T.M.F. All contacted me(AIN'T
I COOL! quipped the smartass)Because there's not that
many T.M.F. guys trying to meet with the dolls down here
south of west palm beach, according to the three gals.


I,m pretty sure the first gal did see my ad although
she is not even a lurker, she only posted ads at a few
boards and she could not remember the sight she had
posted at for mine.


The second gal was Mrs. Kansas and she told me
she had read my profile and then p.m.ed me.

The third gal, I'm pretty sure had read my post or profile
and not my dated ad.

I don't really remember what I said verbatem in my first
personal ad, probably light hearted and flirty.

My current ad is a tad blunt. I'ts a long shot but
hey it's a long shot anyway! Luck's been a lady for me.

Oh and let me change gears for a sec - That new John
Waters flick about fetishes including tickling is something
very current and very convienient to open up a coversation
with someone in your life, gang! Segway, anyone!

Get to work, there'll be a test later

dating ads with tickling mentions get responses plain and simple cause the girls just think you are being cute by saying you like tickling,, heck ive had many many responses to ads like that lol! they are always the same,, they act like they diddnt read the part about tickling or thought i wasnt serious or was trying to be cute!,, when you start telling them how much you do like tickling it always seems to change things,, heres an example,, i have an ad on match.com and its pretty blunt,, tells it just like it is,, i just got a response from a girl who said " i like the idea of you tickling me and making me laugh " so im thinking gold right?? well wrong,, when we were talking on the phone she asked me out for this weekend,, i said great! maybe we can find a ticklish spot or two : ) after that she replied that she wasnt ticklish at all???? what the f?? why did she say what she did i asked to which she responds she liked the idea of it,,,,!!!!!!?????? i just dont get it lol! likes the idea but isnt ticklish at all?? well i will find out for myself but dating ads with tickle mentions dont really get the idea across that its a fetish and you love it alot,,a much blunter ad still diddnt get the idea across,, i wonder what they are thinking when they see all of the tickling stuff?? do they just ignore it or what?

 

[shylittleme]

Re: dating ads

dating ads with tickling mentions get responses plain and simple cause the girls just think you are being cute by saying you like tickling,, heck ive had many many responses to ads like that lol! they are always the same,, they act like they diddnt read the part about tickling or thought i wasnt serious or was trying to be cute!,, when you start telling them how much you do like tickling it always seems to change things,, heres an example,, i have an ad on match.com and its pretty blunt,, tells it just like it is,, i just got a response from a girl who said " i like the idea of you tickling me and making me laugh " so im thinking gold right?? well wrong,, when we were talking on the phone she asked me out for this weekend,, i said great! maybe we can find a ticklish spot or two : ) after that she replied that she wasnt ticklish at all???? what the f?? why did she say what she did i asked to which she responds she liked the idea of it,,,,!!!!!!?????? i just dont get it lol! likes the idea but isnt ticklish at all?? well i will find out for myself but dating ads with tickle mentions dont really get the idea across that its a fetish and you love it alot,,a much blunter ad still diddnt get the idea across,, i wonder what they are thinking when they see all of the tickling stuff?? do they just ignore it or what?

i recently just joined a Website called Bolt.com and its a website for both older adult 20's + and Teenagers as well. but they have a section on your profile once you join there website that you can ask tag book Questions where people respond back to your tag book Questions and you also can reply back to there's if you want to as well. But anyways on to my point everyone of my tag book Questions on that website that i thought up Deal with Tickling or Belly Buttons and surprisingly there have been alot of good replys back to my tickling and Belly Button Questions that i have thought up..... a few negtive ones. but over all good replys still keep coming in even though there dealing ALL with Tickling Questions that i keep thinking up. But my point being with that is that i can seem to ask just general Tickling Questions fine and get pretty good answers back from girls normally 🙂 but when it comes to actually meeting girls or placing an ad to meet girls where i'm from (which is OREGON) thats another answer in of itself. so thats why mainly i just stick to this Forum and other non Tickling Forums to discuss and share about Tickling with other girls. since i'm more then likely doubt that there are any girl's from oregon willing to meet up with a guy like me online for alittle Tickling. i don't see it happening

 

[dskodj]

dskodj, you wrote - ok, thats my lecture.. ill get off my soap box now and head on back to Winmx to download some more Quantum Leap episodes LOLLL
-------------------------------------------------------------------
I LOVE Quantum Leap. It's one of my all time favorite shows.
I started writing a Quantum Leap Tickle story a while back, but never finished it.
I'll try to finish it & post in in the Stories Section.

Hell yea! Another fan! Im not much into tickling stories but..a Quantum Leap one I gotta read 🙂 Do you by chance download episodes on Winmx? Im in the prosess of getting a bunch, im averagin roughly 2 shows a day in the progress im making. My goal is to get the entire series through downloads and whatever is left of the show on the 2am sci fi channel run (think their on bout mid season 4 right now). I'll more than likley end up buying the season DVD's as they come out also to support the show. Right now theres only season 1 and 2 is set for release round Christmas time so ive heard. Good to see more fans round 🙂

 

[mistertickle123]

If you're going to place a personal it's certainly a good idea to make it a bit well rounded so ler's or lee's can get a feel for who you are and see what interests you have that may be common to theirs other than tickling but the main content of the add should contain specific details on your love of tickling/being tickled so there's no doubt in anyone's mind what you're looking for.

I think of any tickle partners as friends and as such I love to know what makes them tick(le) especially before getting a chance to meet them! Finding people who share in your fetish is wonderful, when they share other interests as well it takes that relationship to a much more interesting level.

As one person mentioned to me in a PM exchange "One can never have too many friends!"

 

[chrisheaven]

It's great to have friends- but it is also great to stay safe- so keep on with it..be happy and take care

 

[Californiasun19]

Yes, and try having a photo or photo(s) of yourself. Is a big help!

 

[kcantankerous]

Hello,

I think the reason I have a hard time is because the association with bondage. I personally hate it, but I think when people ask to tickle vanilla people they tend to want to tie them up as well. Essentially they are throwing two different non vanilla fetishes at someone at once. Skipping the easing in phase. Kind of like going for sex without light conversation or even foreplay. I think that folks in the escort world at least are turned off by such a prospect. Furthermore, vanillas may feel as though they would have to endure both. This may be all in my head.

Thanks,

K

Thanks,

K