It's pretty difficult to tie someone down while they're struggling, so I'd say it's gotta be either the one or the other: the bondage
or the wrestling, but not both.
I feel like when I consent to being tied down, the act of putting on the restraints sets a certain mood: something quiet, peaceful, and subdued. I know I can't escape, so I mentally accept my situation. My body is quiet, my energy low, so I can relax into the tickling, and probably resist it for a while.
I also love the energy of being held down. Done well, it feels more immobilizing than restraints, and the feeling of struggling against a person is quite different, more intimate, than the feeling of struggling against inanimate rope or cuffs. Sometimes it makes me feel more connected to my 'ler(s), and more keyed up at the same time. I fight harder, because I have the impression (the illusion?
😀) that struggling might actually get me somewhere. And when it doesn't, and I realize that I really can't get away, the tickling hits me all the harder!
I guess I'd say, I have to be securely immobilized, whether by restraints, or by a person. If I can escape, from either my bondage, or from my 'ler(s) pinning me, it doesn't turn me on. However you go about achieving it, that sense of helplessness is very important to me.
