Posting Personal Ads and FLaking

[devioustickler]

I have tried meeting a few people on here for 1-1 sessions. Granted I know it would take time to feel comfortable with each other.. but are other people just as tired as me cuz of those people that make a personal thread and then NEVER get back on TMF, never respond back or anything... How do other people feel? I know I HATE when someone joins the TMF, makes a post like 2 days later on wanting to meet someone, and then NEVER signs back on again. It is like WHY MAKE A POST THEN?

Getting tired of these flakes... n YES, I know people will say go to the gatherings but "I" prefer 1-1, not group. ANyone else have experiences like this?

 

[voided9]

I've never messaged with one myself but I have seen the kind of ads you're talking about where it's like their ONLY post and they never sign in again - I have no idea why. It's weird.

 

[Dandy Jack]

They probably do not like the rejection plus they may feel awkward about the whole experience...

Everyone is different...

It is hard to speculate...

Some people may just be lurking and watching without posting anything.

Dandy Jack!

 

[deadlywiffeathr]

I find alot of those posts to be a waste of time like you said. I wouldnt let it bother you so much though lol. Most of the people that have an account and only post once in the personals wouldnt be very trustworthy to meet in real life anyway in my opinion. I know I'd feel better if it were someone who actually has a presence in the community apart from just a username.

So yeah. They've probably done you a favour by never returning, they'd probably turn out to be a misrepresentation of their true selves anyway 🙂

 

[FeatherQuill]

I've messaged a few people about their ads and I've yet to get a response from any of them. I have a few guesses as to why:

1. They found someone already.
2. They got so many replies they couldn't get to them all.
3. They looked at my profile and didn't like what they saw.
4. They don't care.
5. They're flakes and just like to mess with people.

I don't message someone about an ad unless I meet the criteria they requested, and are close enough to meet up. Most of the time there are several responses in their thread including some from the person themselves, and yet I still get no response. It's a mystery to me. I'm all for giving people a chance, that's all I ask for myself. Sadly not all people are like that, especially those who have been burned before.

 

[Leo tickles]

Well you have to consider the fact that you probably aren't the only one replying to them. I've talked to people here that get a lot of replies and either find somebody or get overwhelmed and quit.


Now why anybody would put up an ad hoping for replies and then quit when they get them is beyond me, but that's another story.

 

[C.A.B.]

Flakes? On the TMF?!?! ...surely not.

 

[PhilipRJ_UK]

I've seen a lot of these 'one-post wonders', and it really does make me think 'Why did you bother signing up to the forum if you have no intention of getting involved and interacting with other members?'. It just seems utterly pointless to me.

 

[theteam]

From what Ive been told by a few women who I befriended during their few days on here is that they get that overwhelmed or scared off by responces that they leave the site. Not saying every message they receive is going to be bad or creepy but a lot are. I think its wrong to call out these people who only post a few times and not return. Its not always going to be their fault for doing so. Yeah I know people want to be the one to meet up and have fun, but not everyone who signs up here and leaves is trying to mess you about.

Sure there are "flakes" on here, but thats the same with every other similar site. You just have to move on from it and keep looking, its not like you have lost out on anything. These things do take time and you will get shot down or no responces now and again.

 

[chicago]

I would chalk it up to being something of an annoyance and nothing more.

It's a fetish forum and it's the internet. You have to expect that not everyone is going to be friendly, let alone make sense lol.

 

[ticklemaniac191]

What's even more annoying is when after a substantial amount of conversation and the Ad poster claims they are definitely up for meeting, they disappear. Happened to me a few times and is extremely annoying.

 

[chicago]

Real people show up to gatherings. 🙂 Just saying, may be a better opportunity to meet and get to know people in a more relaxed environment and then set up possible one-on-one meetings in the future.

 

[chrisheaven]

agree totally with last post

 

[C.A.B.]

There are also real people that do not show up at gatherings.

 

[chicago]

True, though there is no issue of "flaking" at gatherings, unless everyone including the host / hostess(es) don't show up.

 

[C.A.B.]

I'm sure unrequited fetish can occur anywhere, under any circumstance. In either case, one might learn to shrug the experience off and consider one's self fortunate that more time was not wasted on the fruitless pursuit of a particular croissant.

 

[Rusty Shackleford]

Many people view ticklish correspondence as a means to masturbatory material and nothing more (endless emails, "please describe in great detail any of your past sessions" or my favorite, "tell me EXACTLY what you're going to do to me")... For most people, exchanging emails or private messages pertaining to tickling is the first time they're engaging their fetish, and it's easy enough to fire off instant messages but when the day finally arrives to commit to the fantasies you've been entertaining it can be quite nerve-racking.

I've been actively pursuing tickling partners/tickle friendships for about two years now, and I'd say about 90% of my correspondence has been futile. Like AnnieHall said, it's a fetish forum on the internet. Expect nothing and prepare for anything.

Persistence!

 

[Jagermeistered]

Many people view ticklish correspondence as a means to masturbatory material and nothing more

-Rusty

They are married, and the significant other is not in the room or house. Maybe, they are chatting with each other on two different computer components and do not realize it. The list can go on and on...