Pre tickle session discussions - for the first time

[Soles_Scream]

Before answering what your pre tickle discussion would look like, please identify yourself as a Lee, Ler, or switch. Also, please answer this as though the person you're getting ready to engage in tickling with has never done it with you before. Think of it as, the rules of the road that you'd want to cover, if any before actually engaging in play.

 

[tickle_prince]

Well I’m a switch leaning ler,

So I have had experience discussing this from both sides of the coin. I find for me both are similar with a person, what ever role I am in.

1. I wouldn’t have just rushed into having a session with a person, I always get to know a person first and form a friendship with them. This allows me to get an understanding of who this person is, their background, their hobbies, what sort of ler or lee they are and what sort of tickling we like, what experiences we have both had. I may have even online rp with them a person before, all this happens before hand.

2. On the day I always ask what a person boundaries are, hard limits, this ensures you don’t over step the marker or do anything that hasn’t already being discussed. So in theory you know what to do and what not to do. To ensure the person involved stay comfortable with each other throughout the session.

3. What is it that you want to get out of the session? Is it just fun, pleasure? Stress relief, just a nice time? All these help to set out a clear goal for both parties to work towards during a play session and can also help set the mood , tone and pace of it.

4. Is there anything you want to try? Could be a person wants to try a certain position, device, tool, type of tickling, it’s worth asking because it just helps with the direction that the session can go.

5. Time limit and safe word: basic safety to ensure you don’t go over what a person can handle and they have away to immediately stop the session if they require it.

6. At the end of the session, I always reflex on it and ask the person to reflex too(could be a few days after), it’s a good way to find out what worked, what didn’t, what the next one(if that is something that interested them) can build on. I just find overall helps me to process it all!

Pretty much that’s how I do it anyway, I am sure other people have different ways they approach this, but this is how I have always done it and it’s always served me well!

 

[King of tickles]

Well I’m a switch leaning ler,

So I have had experience discussing this from both sides of the coin. I find for me both are similar with a person, what ever role I am in.

1. I wouldn’t have just rushed into having a session with a person, I always get to know a person first and form a friendship with them. This allows me to get an understanding of who this person is, their background, their hobbies, what sort of ler or lee they are and what sort of tickling we like, what experiences we have both had. I may have even online rp with them a person before, all this happens before hand.

2. On the day I always ask what a person boundaries are, hard limits, this ensures you don’t over step the marker or do anything that hasn’t already being discussed. So in theory you know what to do and what not to do. To ensure the person involved stay comfortable with each other throughout the session.

3. What is it that you want to get out of the session? Is it just fun, pleasure? Stress relief, just a nice time? All these help to set out a clear goal for both parties to work towards during a play session and can also help set the mood , tone and pace of it.

4. Is there anything you want to try? Could be a person wants to try a certain position, device, tool, type of tickling, it’s worth asking because it just helps with the direction that the session can go.

5. Time limit and safe word: basic safety to ensure you don’t go over what a person can handle and they have away to immediately stop the session if they require it.

6. At the end of the session, I always reflex on it and ask the person to reflex too(could be a few days after), it’s a good way to find out what worked, what didn’t, what the next one(if that is something that interested them) can build on. I just find overall helps me to process it all!

Pretty much that’s how I do it anyway, I am sure other people have different ways they approach this, but this is how I have always done it and it’s always served me well!

Agreed. Set boundaries before hand. Both nude, one nude, nobody nude, what places are off limits, whether visible or not.

 

[Soles_Scream]

Well I’m a switch leaning ler,

So I have had experience discussing this from both sides of the coin. I find for me both are similar with a person, what ever role I am in.

1. I wouldn’t have just rushed into having a session with a person, I always get to know a person first and form a friendship with them. This allows me to get an understanding of who this person is, their background, their hobbies, what sort of ler or lee they are and what sort of tickling we like, what experiences we have both had. I may have even online rp with them a person before, all this happens before hand.

2. On the day I always ask what a person boundaries are, hard limits, this ensures you don’t over step the marker or do anything that hasn’t already being discussed. So in theory you know what to do and what not to do. To ensure the person involved stay comfortable with each other throughout the session.

3. What is it that you want to get out of the session? Is it just fun, pleasure? Stress relief, just a nice time? All these help to set out a clear goal for both parties to work towards during a play session and can also help set the mood , tone and pace of it.

4. Is there anything you want to try? Could be a person wants to try a certain position, device, tool, type of tickling, it’s worth asking because it just helps with the direction that the session can go.

5. Time limit and safe word: basic safety to ensure you don’t go over what a person can handle and they have away to immediately stop the session if they require it.

6. At the end of the session, I always reflex on it and ask the person to reflex too(could be a few days after), it’s a good way to find out what worked, what didn’t, what the next one(if that is something that interested them) can build on. I just find overall helps me to process it all!

Pretty much that’s how I do it anyway, I am sure other people have different ways they approach this, but this is how I have always done it and it’s always served me well!

Love the level of detail and all of the resonates.

 

[yinzer]

I'm 100% ler.

I'd say tickle prince covered this pretty thoroughly, so I don't think I have much, if anything, to really add. I have my 3rd paid session coming up in just a few weeks, so not much experience with this. I let the first 2 professionals lead the session for the most part. I made sure I was clear about any areas that were off limits, and I let them make the call about restraints, which we didn't use restraints at all in my 2nd session, and only minimally in the 1st. This time, I've had the opportunity to exchange messages and it's really helped me learn more about the lee and what her preferences are. For example, she prefers to be restrained, and she suggested we use tickling tools, which I hadn't used in the previous sessions. She's been great answering any questions I've had, and this makes me feel so much better going into the session this way.

I can't even imagine being the lee, so it's hard for me to put myself in their place and understand what they're experiencing. While I do my best to pay close attention to all of the nonverbal cues before and during the sessions, I still rely heavily on clear communication from them because it's always my goal to make it a great experience for both of us. If I can't believe they've enjoyed it at least on some level, I won't enjoy it either.

 

[MsSensuaLEE]

I'm a lee though I'm also a hedonist (after higher pleasure), sensualist (aware of and adding various types of touch within their boundaries) so I would possibly make a deviant ler.

Yeah tickle prince kind of nailed it.

I might add that depending on the goal of the interaction, at least for me, would possibly open more places to tickle that I usually don't have available. I typically receive tickling wearing only a thong panties and my no-go zones are anything covered by thong underwear, anything above the neck, and specifically my nipples. I don't actually have a problem with my nipples being tickled but on a scale of 1-10 on sensitivity they're like a 2, my breast area is like a 7, and everywhere else is a 5-6 but most people see a pair of breasts and spend most of their time on the nipples. Similarly I don't like my penis or or balls messed with (trans woman) though the perineum (area between the base of the sack and butt) has a lot of new pleasure sensitivity and it's ticklish.

So if ticklegasm is the goal then perineum and nipples with less focus would be on the table.

It's worth noting that I also don't play in private, always at trusted well vetted events where consent is key and consent violations are taken seriously and can lead to blacklisting and possible legal trouble. I'm an extra vulnerable person putting myself in an extra vulnerable position for a specific reason and instance only.

 

[torturoustickle]

I'm a straight down the middle Switch.
A few years ago I was far more Ler, but time, patience, and an intense curiosity, has lead me to explore my Lee side.
I come with a warning label though.
I'm horrendously, agonisingly, ticklish.
I shouldn't like it the way I do, and scare the crap out of myself. But will submit to a thorough and comprehensive tickling.
So be prepared for hysterical, high pitched, laughter.
When I'm Lering, my parameters are simple. Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries.
You can always add to a later session, but you can't undo what is done.
Every minute spent discussing before a session, is worth an hour after.
Tickling is a very complicated fetish. It means many things to many people, and no two are the same.
Time limits, safe words, bondage styles, favourite tickle spots, no go zones, are but a few things that need to be discussed before a session.
When tickling someone for the first time, I'll always start out slowly.
As mentioned, you can always pick up on the intensity later.
And finally, be HONEST with what you want. Don't let embarrassment or a feeling of pressure stop you from communicating clearly.
Speaking from experience with that one.