Private person/dilemma

[Ita24]

So let me start by saying tickling is definitely a "fetish" for me, or whatever you want to call it. I am actually not a very sexual guy. What I mean by that is I've never really been interested in sex. Porn has never done anything for me. Tickling on the other hand, as soon as I think about it, write about it, or do it...I'm totally aroused. I am also a very private person, so I've never talked about this to anyone, except for on this site of course. I'm solely attracted to women, and being that I am private, the only people I'd want to tickle with is either a girl I'm dating, or at least a girl I'm very close to and have some interest in. Can't be tickling with family or guys because I don't feel comfortable being aroused in those circumstances. I used to have a GF that loved tickling, but we broke up. I've been dating off and on since then for a few years, but nothing that's lasted and no one who was into tickling.

With that said, I'm really missing those tickling experiences with my ex. For a while I was enjoying reading tickling stories online but that only lasts so long. I never thought I'd even consider it, but I've been thinking about trying to find someone to have tickling sessions with. The whole idea of it kind of freaks me out for a few personal reasons.

1. Tickling has been something I consider very personal and I feel like I'd be uncomfortable getting aroused by a stranger tickling me. Is it as uncomfortable as I think it would be?
2. I am somewhat socially awkward. Once I get comfortable with someone I'm very talkative, but at first I just am horrible lol. Especially meeting someone for a tickle session. I'd be having all the butterflies in my stomach and would probably be a mess. Are there ways they can make awkward people more comfortable?
3. Can you ask for certain types of tickling? Like fast or slow, most ticklish parts of the body, squeezing vs wiggling your fingers, roleplaying certain scenarios etc.

I honestly know nothing about tickle sessions with strangers. I don't even know if it's really a thing all over the place, so this may be a waste of a post. I figure it's worth asking. If anyone has ever done something like this and can give me any insight I'd really appreciate it. If there's anyone who can relate to anything I've said, let me know.

 

[BBAC]

1. Tickling is something that arouses you so its not out of the realm of normality that it is something you consider intimate and would want to only share it with an intimate partner. However, the only person who can answer if you would be totally uncomfortable with a stranger doing it to you, is you.

2. Sounds like anxiety in a way. A littler nervousness when speaking to others isn't uncommon. In fact its somewhat of a hurdle for me too. Takes me a second to warm up to people. This would be something you'd have to explain in detail if you want to be accommodated properly.

3. If its a session you're paying for, you can ask to be tickled to your preferences. Makes sense as its your session.

 

[alwayslaughing]

3. If its a session you're paying for, you can ask to be tickled to your preferences. Makes sense as its your session.

Even if you're not paying - you're just meeting up with a friend or a stranger - anyone into the fetish (and even some not) should be willing to give you the kind of tickling you want specifically. Most people I've met are very accommodating.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

Yeah are you asking about paid sessions or personal ones? Finding a real woman to do live tickle sessions with personally and I am assuming no strings attached(Based this on what you wrote.) won't be easy. Hiring a professional will be easier.

 

[Yote]

Most important thing is to get to know the person you want to have a session with. If it's a personal session, the other person should be fine with getting to know you a little before going into the session. I don't know how interested professionals are in small talk, but i'm sure they won't mind talking a little. It's also important to talk to them beforehand about what kind of tickling you want to do. That way you can figure out what both of you are or aren't comfortable with, or are curious to try. Most people plan out their sessions through messages before they meet up, but you can talk to them in person about a few things if needed. Being familiar with the other person's tickling preferences and knowing a bit about them as well should help you feel more comfortable with that person and ease your anxiety.

 

[jinx]

I started sessioning later in life. It has been very transformative for me. I gave up hope thinking I would find a woman who would understand and participate with me.
If you want to try find someone who does bdsm and lists tickling as an interest.
I was lucky enough to find a couple of Domme’s that do switch sessions.
Good luck