Producers having problems with angry boyfriends?

[TickledToDeath]

OMG on one shoot I was doing (with hubby, for a website) the producer had to take a break mid-shoot to go to the bathroom and wank. SO gross- he could at least have waited till he got home!

His term for the activity was a "decompression session"...

Now THAT is out of line for the producer to do that! He should have been smacked!

 

[Angel77]

Now THAT is out of line for the producer to do that! He should have been smacked!

Or kicked in the nuts.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

I agree it is very important that the woman has the chance to say what she is comfortablewith and what she is not comfortable with-establishes her personal limits. I think also a good idea that a woman does have someone go with her the first time as a escort for safety issues. I am not sure really a bf or fiance or husband though is the way to go. I mean it can be ok and go good like you said if signicant other does his homework first and researches all that is going to happen, all parties are agreeable the producer and the woman that is going to be the tickle model and the significant other. But I also do imagine that lots of jealousy does go on in something like this. I imagine for some it can be a relationship deal breaker. Depending on how close the couple is and what he or she can handle in their relationship.

Yeah I think that was very uncalled for the producer to "take matters into his own hands" too even if discreetly and in the bathroom then call it needing to decompress, not very professional. I mean it is good it was not done privately in the bathroom not in front of the couple but still I think not called for. The producer knew it would be exciting and a sexual turn on for him. I don't see why even though difficult it might be-did not wait til he got home to take care of matters. Really not very professional, still must have made this couple feel very ill at ease-especially would if not at producer's place but in your own home. ICK big time ick factor I would think.

Yet I think it is important that the person whoever that might be that brings the woman to be tickled needs to be openminded and understanding. That is vital. Definitely needs to be a discussion on what is going to happen and what is not going to happen and set up mutual understood boundaries for her as the lee being tickled. A little chit chat and discussion on ways to help her feel safe and have a fun and safe while being tickled. If the guy or other person has questions or bit of concerns, should be discussed and everyone meet an agreeable mutual ground and feel good about the tickle session about to proceed. If erotic tickling is going to happen, don't see why the producers to keep from bfs getting angry don't encourage the guy if he wants and if the woman wants it to happen, let him tickle her. That way the bf or partner don't feel slighted, won't feel angry or jealous, keeps the peace, still very erotic, it is different, and keeps the producer out of trouble-if erotic who better then the partner of the woman to do it. Whereas other non erotic could be done by producer. Just a idea. I am not saying let the guy erotically tickle her the whole time but give him a chance to participate -might ensure more future tickle sessions in future, might be good for setting yourself for being a great tickle producer with integrity and good character-lets the clients have a chance to participate in the fun.

 

[TickledToDeath]

oh and if the woman has set her limits and the producer oversteps those limits, then the bf has every right to slap the taste out of his mouth!

 

[Echoplex]

It's just like any other profession that a lot of people think would be cool and fun but go into it for the wrong reasons and are anything but professional.

 

[rhiannon]

I see what you're saying but there's a difference in having somebody work your body over in a sexual manner (as most of us believe ticking IS sexual) and just having your picture taken.

Exactly. That is why I do not do clips or anything like that! Clips are even more intimate than photos, and that is the reason why I think the SO should not be the escort for a clip like that - even more than I don't think the SO should not be the escort for photos! There should be an escort, but not the SO!

 

[Deadsea7777]

Exactly. That is why I do not do clips or anything like that! Clips are even more intimate than photos, and that is the reason why I think the SO should not be the escort for a clip like that - even more than I don't think the SO should not be the escort for photos! There should be an escort, but not the SO!

I think this makes common sense; if I were a woman/girl doing this I would bring always an escort as a bodyguard, because if I were tied up when things go wrong my beloved 1911 colt 45 would still be sitting in my purse, so useless. An escort is a must I think if you can afford it.

I would not advise a boyfriend or husband, unless he really has seen the clips of the her former work, and also the face of the producer herself and is really ,really, ....really OK with it. I suppose you can rent a reliable escort.

And just a question, out of my ignorance and curiosity: what about a dog? A well trained doberman or other breed would be effective even when the model is tied up. And order and goodbye producer!. Maybe you could not do gagged work, and maybe a well trained dog is expensive, but other than that it could be the perfect escort.

 

[rhiannon]

Why would you rent an escort, just bring a friend, that's good enough. A dog is not advisable!! Dogs who see their owner tied and screaming might react uncontrollable towards the 'assaulter'. Even if they are very well trained, in that situation they might react different than usually. Plus: how many models DO have a dog like that??

 

[Deadsea7777]

Why would you rent an escort, just bring a friend, that's good enough. A dog is not advisable!! Dogs who see their owner tied and screaming might react uncontrollable towards the 'assaulter'. Even if they are very well trained, in that situation they might react different than usually. Plus: how many models DO have a dog like that??

OK Rhiannon, your common sense and knowledge rule over my ignorance!.

 

[yaqisworld]

I have generally had great experiences with boyfriends/husbands showing up for shoots. I always encourage my models to bring their significant others and often they get involved in the action.

Sometimes they like to just sit back and watch the action and other times they want to be involved, which I encourage.

I had one guy who longed to lick and suck on his girl's toes, which drove her insane, and my shoot provided him the opportunity to do so. I'd always like to think they went straight home and fucked.

I've had many boyfriends eager to help tickle my model. It seemes to add a level of excitement, with the model yelling "You'll get yours when we get home."

I had one bad experience. I had a girl who was doing it strictly for the cash and we went through a long song and dance routine to get the husband comfortable. He eventually was pacified, but only because of their need for money. He left after the first few minutes of the video. We made a great video and I wanted to do a whole series with her. The next day I got an email from her saying that her Husband was entirely uncool with the shoot and it threatened her marriage.

How can you prepare for such scenarios?

I have much more to say on this topic, but not just yet.

 

[mass1926]

I have generally had great experiences with boyfriends/husbands showing up for shoots. I always encourage my models to bring their significant others and often they get involved in the action.

Sometimes they like to just sit back and watch the action and other times they want to be involved, which I encourage.

I had one guy who longed to lick and suck on his girl's toes, which drove her insane, and my shoot provided him the opportunity to do so. I'd always like to think they went straight home and fucked.

I've had many boyfriends eager to help tickle my model. It seemes to add a level of excitement, with the model yelling "You'll get yours when we get home."

I had one bad experience. I had a girl who was doing it strictly for the cash and we went through a long song and dance routine to get the husband comfortable. He eventually was pacified, but only because of their need for money. He left after the first few minutes of the video. We made a great video and I wanted to do a whole series with her. The next day I got an email from her saying that her Husband was entirely uncool with the shoot and it threatened her marriage.

How can you prepare for such scenarios?

I have much more to say on this topic, but not just yet.

Her husband sounded like a real prude. That's sooooo awesome that you let the bf/husbands get involved. I would love to have a gf into doing those type of shoots if I could be involved in the action. Furthermore, that guy clearly had a 0% kinky side, which his wife apparently had. Hopefully she found someone better if he threatened the marriage for her getting tickled and liking it. Life is way too short to spend it with someone that makes you miserable. I can't prove he made her unhappy, but he sounds very controlling.

 

[yaqisworld]

Her husband sounded like a real prude. That's sooooo awesome that you let the bf/husbands get involved. I would love to have a gf into doing those type of shoots if I could be involved in the action. Furthermore, that guy clearly had a 0% kinky side, which his wife apparently had. Hopefully she found someone better if he threatened the marriage for her getting tickled and liking it. Life is way too short to spend it with someone that makes you miserable. I can't prove he made her unhappy, but he sounds very controlling.

Your asessment is correct.

 

[mass1926]

Your asessment is correct.

Since you're on here, I know that you were on Stern like 8 or 9 years ago and I was always wondering what his deal was. Does he in fact have a tickle fetish? He used to have the "tickle chair" and I believe he remarked more than once that he was into feet.

 

[rhiannon]

OK Rhiannon, your common sense and knowledge rule over my ignorance!.

You know, this wasn't meant as a personal attack if you perceived it that way!

 

[Deadsea7777]

You know, this wasn't meant as a personal attack if you perceived it that way!

Sometimes the web is troublesome because it does not convey emotions. I never take it as a personal attack. I simple realize you were right and say it. Not that I care a lot about the subject, just gave an opinion, and accepted yours, that was it. Sorry you thought I was angry. If I am angry or hurt I would tell to you directly, polite and clear, never with sarcasm or irony I hate it.

 

[rhiannon]

Great. 🙂 Thanks for clearing it up. 🙂