Question About First Time Tickling

lovegirlstoes · Nov 30, 2012

Hi,

I have a question for people who are experienced with tickling and bondage.

I am new to this and looking to somehow get involved, but I'm still somewhat uncomfortable with the situation and what I want to do. I'm male, in my twenties, and have wanted to have my feet tickled for a long time. I've seen all the videos you can find for free and the ones that most turn me on are where the person is tied up or in stocks with their feet together, completely unable to move, and begging for mercy. I'm on Fetlife. I would love this to be done by a woman, but it seems like there's not much chance of that happening without me finding an understanding girlfriend. However, I've had plenty of guys send me messages and I'm getting to the point where I'm be willing to let a guy do it just to scratch this itch, with one in particular who seems less creepy than a lot of the others just by the way he writes. My biggest concern is safety, since my fantasy has me in a completely helpless situation where I can't move.

Other than a public meet, is there any advice you could give me on vetting this person? Is there any kind of specific code I should be aware of for online meets? Does anybody else have experience with this kind of situation? He has plenty of pictures on his profile of him doing this to other people (They all look to take in consideration of anonymity, but I can't tell if they're consensual since they're all of people blindfolded and tied up).

Thanks

stockytickler · Nov 30, 2012

You can never be completely sure what's going to happen to you once the cuffs are on. Sign contracts; have a friend call you at a certain point, and call the police if you don't answer. Make sure someone else knows where you are and has your back. All of that's great, but once you're tied up, you are at the mercy of another person. You can be drugged, you can be taken someplace else, you can disappear forever. All of these are realities. So do everything you'd do in any other situation. Get to know him. Have conversations. Be clear about what you're hoping to get out of the session and make sure that's agreeable to him. If so, arrange a meeting, in public if possible, and text a photo of him/his house/his license plate, whatever, to your email so if something goes horribly wrong at least the police have a starting point. Ideally, you'd be worried over nothing, but if you don't know him, anything at all could happen.

All that being said, have fun, man. My first time was INCREDIBLE. We didn't introduce bondage into the situation until we'd been together for days, but when we did, omg was it intense.

P.S.-- The guy I met was my first tickle experience. We chatted six weeks before we met in person and once we did I couldn't get enough. We're celebrating a year of dating on Sunday 😀

stockytickler · Nov 30, 2012

I lived 40 years as a straight man, and the relationships I had with women were few and jaw-droppingly bad. If you meet a woman you want to date who is willing to tie you up and tickle you, that would be the ideal. If you can't, well ... that kinda sounds like the situation you're in. :/

The m/m situation doesn't need to get sexual beyond either or both of you becoming aroused (which happens in massage and chiropractic situations all the time). If you set limits ahead of time as to where you're comfortable being touched and explain the situation, that's probably all that will happen (bearing my initial warning from up there in mind, of course). Good luck! 🙂

rhiannon · Dec 1, 2012

You can never be completely sure what's going to happen to you once the cuffs are on. Sign contracts; have a friend call you at a certain point, and call the police if you don't answer. Make sure someone else knows where you are and has your back. All of that's great, but once you're tied up, you are at the mercy of another person. You can be drugged, you can be taken someplace else, you can disappear forever. All of these are realities. So do everything you'd do in any other situation. Get to know him. Have conversations. Be clear about what you're hoping to get out of the session and make sure that's agreeable to him. If so, arrange a meeting, in public if possible, and text a photo of him/his house/his license plate, whatever, to your email so if something goes horribly wrong at least the police have a starting point. Ideally, you'd be worried over nothing, but if you don't know him, anything at all could happen.

Great advice! I think that's all there is to be said!