As I've mentioned before I'm in a wheelchair. I was wondering how many of you women would date someone in a wheelchair. It's not very important, I'm just wondering. I've been told I'm good lookng, I lift weights and have a good build. Women have told me they would not date me because I'm in a wheelchair. I just wanna know what you all think. BTW, I'm 22.
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Question for Women
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Whether a man was a paraplegic, a quadraplegic, in a wheelchair, missing a limb, or had any other form of disability, it would NOT effect my decision to get romantically involved with them in any way. My father has been in a wheelchair since he was 21 years old, and I have seen that man do more things than most people with full use of both legs can do. To me, it's a mans heart and mind that make him sexy...not the shell he is housed in.
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My best friend is in a wheelchair, given, she is a woman and is the same age as you. I wouldnt have any problems with you and she finds a lot of men who have no problems with her. She always says it "keeps her away from the *ssholes she didn't want to meet anyhow". To me, attractiveness with a guy is ALL about what's inside anyhow and I've met plenty of girls with the same attitude as me. Keep your head up. The ones you haven't met are just the b*tches you wouldn't want to anyhow...
btw... are you around here? She's still looking for a good guy...
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btw... are you around here? She's still looking for a good guy...
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I had two good friends in highschool who were in wheelchairs. It made no difference at all. As far as dating, I dated the guy and one of my brothers dated the gal. I suppose someone who likes to do a lot of active things and wants to be able to enjoy that with a boyfriend or girlfriend would think twice. But, it really shouldn't matter otherwise.
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Well Jug~
I think the question I'd ask you is how you feel about your situation, because that will factor in hugely on whether women are adversely affected by the chair or whether they can see past it...
I work with disabled patients and am always blown away by the ways different people choose to deal with their challenges. Some are hopelessly depressed, others beleive they're no different than the rest of us.
One of my favorite boyfriends was totally blind, he took me to the Prom when I was nominated Princess. He was adorable, funny and could have his pick of any girl on the cheerleading squad. I'd walk by his locker in the morning and greet him with my standard perky "Hi Jeff!" He'd say, "Damn, Steph, you are looking so fine this morning--Are those new shoes???"
Sometimes, I'd ask him what he was doing for the weekend and see say, "ooooooooooooooh, nothing...Why? You wanna take me on a BLIND DATE??" He was just very fun and unbothered by it. Everyone loved him.
One of my favorite patients is wheelchair bound since birth. He's a bit of a local celeb because of his phenomenal racing times and great attitude. He was recently chosen to race in next spring's Boston Marathon~it's a HUGE accomplishment, the commitee only chooses 10 wheelchair racers WORLDWIDE. In college I roller bladed (unofficially) the Boston Marathon. iIt took forever and my feet bled for two days afterwards.
I do think you'll find that things change as you get older, women are more interested in finding a great guy than how he gets around as they grow up...Just my two cents.
XOXO
I think the question I'd ask you is how you feel about your situation, because that will factor in hugely on whether women are adversely affected by the chair or whether they can see past it...
I work with disabled patients and am always blown away by the ways different people choose to deal with their challenges. Some are hopelessly depressed, others beleive they're no different than the rest of us.
One of my favorite boyfriends was totally blind, he took me to the Prom when I was nominated Princess. He was adorable, funny and could have his pick of any girl on the cheerleading squad. I'd walk by his locker in the morning and greet him with my standard perky "Hi Jeff!" He'd say, "Damn, Steph, you are looking so fine this morning--Are those new shoes???"
Sometimes, I'd ask him what he was doing for the weekend and see say, "ooooooooooooooh, nothing...Why? You wanna take me on a BLIND DATE??" He was just very fun and unbothered by it. Everyone loved him.
One of my favorite patients is wheelchair bound since birth. He's a bit of a local celeb because of his phenomenal racing times and great attitude. He was recently chosen to race in next spring's Boston Marathon~it's a HUGE accomplishment, the commitee only chooses 10 wheelchair racers WORLDWIDE. In college I roller bladed (unofficially) the Boston Marathon. iIt took forever and my feet bled for two days afterwards.
I do think you'll find that things change as you get older, women are more interested in finding a great guy than how he gets around as they grow up...Just my two cents.
XOXO
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wouldn't matter to me if a guy was in a chair or not..as long as he's got a good personality and we have some things in common sure i'd go out with him...plus we could race our chairs or see how many people we could run over (i'm kidding, i don't actually do that on purpose..only family😉 )😀
Confidence rocks
Jugner,
I agree with Steph's suggestion. How you view yourself plays a HUGE role on how others see you, especially women.
High self-esteem, confidence and a winning personality make one shine from the inside out. Personally speaking, those are huge turn-ons for Me, rather than a handsome face and bank account.
Months ago this guy was hanging out at one of My fave bars, sitting on a stool; he wasn't movie-star gorgeous by any means, but he was hysterically funny, charming, a born flirt, had a million stories, and just had this great confidence about him. In about 30 minutes there were about 5-6 girls all around him, Myself and the fem. bartender included, entraced by his bubbly energy and incredible charisma. At one point he asked Me to bring him his drink, which was at a nearby table, I looked at him incredulously and laughing, said, "Get it yourself, bitch!", to what he smiled, lifted his crutches and hunched his shoulders. OMG! I felt SO bad!! I apologized profusely, but he just laughed it off, "You're lucky I don't KICK your ass!". LOL. The girls just looked at each other for a second, but then went on flirting with him til he left hours later. Had I not been interested in someone else at the time, I would have taken his number in a hearbeat--he got the bartender's, though!
Jugner,
I agree with Steph's suggestion. How you view yourself plays a HUGE role on how others see you, especially women.
High self-esteem, confidence and a winning personality make one shine from the inside out. Personally speaking, those are huge turn-ons for Me, rather than a handsome face and bank account.
Months ago this guy was hanging out at one of My fave bars, sitting on a stool; he wasn't movie-star gorgeous by any means, but he was hysterically funny, charming, a born flirt, had a million stories, and just had this great confidence about him. In about 30 minutes there were about 5-6 girls all around him, Myself and the fem. bartender included, entraced by his bubbly energy and incredible charisma. At one point he asked Me to bring him his drink, which was at a nearby table, I looked at him incredulously and laughing, said, "Get it yourself, bitch!", to what he smiled, lifted his crutches and hunched his shoulders. OMG! I felt SO bad!! I apologized profusely, but he just laughed it off, "You're lucky I don't KICK your ass!". LOL. The girls just looked at each other for a second, but then went on flirting with him til he left hours later. Had I not been interested in someone else at the time, I would have taken his number in a hearbeat--he got the bartender's, though!
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Man..
Any woman who judges you on that isn't worth your time. I know this was for the women, but I have a buddy in a wheelchair and he does great.
ticklkitten, reread your post, I know you didn't mean it but it sounds patronizing to me.
You seem to imply the only person who would be interested in this young fella is someone who is also in a wheelchair.
Tron
Any woman who judges you on that isn't worth your time. I know this was for the women, but I have a buddy in a wheelchair and he does great.
ticklkitten, reread your post, I know you didn't mean it but it sounds patronizing to me.
You seem to imply the only person who would be interested in this young fella is someone who is also in a wheelchair.
Tron
