Question....When Is tickling too much? Be honest.

[fazzel]

Hello and thanks in advance for your responces........
I have a friend who is so close to losing his girlfriend, and he seems to keep his eyes closed to it. She is ticklish, and wants so badly for him to really notice this in her.
Now she knows that he is a *ler* and he is always in the Forum. She also knows that he lies to her about it all the time and there is no need or reason to lie to her. What upsets her is the fact that he chooses the Forum over her, I guess she thinks he is in the Forum several hours a day, and in the middle of the night too. So now she is ready to walk away from him.
YES I know many may say yes go ahead and walk but you have to understand that she is not against tickling. She does not understand the desire he has, and chooses in tickling.
She asked me my advice........and I tried to explain to her that for us all we all may have different reasons we are into this form of entertainment. (excitment). I can understand where he comes from because I love it here, great stories and such.
What I don't understand is... He has this woman at home who is ticklish and from what I am told & I have to say that from what I am told there are not any like her at all! (sorry *lees*) So my question is????? Man why are you on here when you have every *lers* dream in the palm of your hands?
Now I gave her my advice and that is.....She should stay and talk this over with him, but I am not sure if I convienced her, can you fellow *lees* and *lers* help out? They seem like a great couple.....

Thanks
Pete

 

[maniactickler]

Like you told her, they need to have a serious talk. if that still doesnt work, then tell her to dump him and give me a call immediately!

 

[angeleyez]

Wait a minute....

Heyyyyy I thought I was every *lers* dream. No now being serious for a minute I understand where she is coming from. I don't want my man in here looking or chatting with many of these ladies and I say that because many use this room for total sex hookups and not for what I assumed it was for.......Pure Tickling Fun!
Your question to him is a great one too....Why arn't you tickling her??? My guy wants to know the answer as well, we can always take her off your hands and tickle her till she is far beyond help! 😛
Annie

 

[kered]

All I know is if I had someone like her around I would spend less time on the internet.

 

[cloudgazer2k]

i dunno...my live in 'lee is pretty damn awesome.

as for the friend: it seems he's very much sucked into Fantasy-land, where he can see what i can only guess are his ideal women being put into ticklish situations. i have seen relationships begin and end quickly because the girl didn't perform in the bedroom like a pornstar. if your friend's girlfriend has not been able to use speech to communicate that she wants to be a part of all this, perhaps she should take matters into her own hands; initiate a tickle fight, or get a cheap pair of handcuffs, put them on herself, and act like the vulnerable damsel in distress.

more often than not, guys are dense when it comes to words, maybe, by taking such measures, the girlfriend can direct his attention to her.

 

[innocentsexcat]

Kitty thinks he is a creep, and she should drop him immediately. How can they be a great couple if he constantly lies to her? A relationship built on lies is a relationship built on sand. It will crumble fast. A man like this makes Kitty's fur stand on end.

 

[rhiannon]

Now she knows that he is a *ler* and he is always in the Forum. She also knows that he lies to her about it all the time and there is no need or reason to lie to her. What upsets her is the fact that he chooses the Forum over her, I guess she thinks he is in the Forum several hours a day, and in the middle of the night too.

If this is true, it sounds like the guy has a serious addiction problem and needs help!

 

[RavenMoon]

She needs to talk to him. And she needed to be talking to him first and foremost before anyone else...

She needs to tell him how she feels without pointing the finger at him and accusing him. She needs to tell him that she feels he spends more time on line than with her and that hurts her. And if she is indeed upset about his time here, then she needs to check the forum out for herself. Take an interest in what interests him. Ask him questions about it and not be judgemental.

She needs to not assume he is here hooking up. That perhaps he is here speaking with others who understand his desires as well.

I would also be telling him that he needs to speak with her as well and explain his desires to here. What it is about this that excites him. How it makes him feel to be able to discuss this with others who feel the same.

Communication is so critical so much of life. It is even more crutial when there are alternative desires and lifestyles involved.

I wish them the best, but if they can't work it out and remain miserable together, then what is the point of dragging it out further until they hate each other?

 

[fazzel]

She needs to talk to him. And she needed to be talking to him first and foremost before anyone else...

She needs to tell him how she feels without pointing the finger at him and accusing him. She needs to tell him that she feels he spends more time on line than with her and that hurts her. And if she is indeed upset about his time here, then she needs to check the forum out for herself. Take an interest in what interests him. Ask him questions about it and not be judgemental.

She needs to not assume he is here hooking up. That perhaps he is here speaking with others who understand his desires as well.

I would also be telling him that he needs to speak with her as well and explain his desires to here. What it is about this that excites him. How it makes him feel to be able to discuss this with others who feel the same.

Communication is so critical so much of life. It is even more crutial when there are alternative desires and lifestyles involved.

I wish them the best, but if they can't work it out and remain miserable together, then what is the point of dragging it out further until they hate each other?

She has talked with him and you will not find a more willing person out there who wants to please thier partner, She feels as if he thinks she is stupid or something because he always tells her that he is not on and has not been on yet she knows and sees where he is when he is in here, Like now....he is sending personal messages.
She does not want him to think she is spying on him, or trying to tell him what to do, and one more thing.....before she said anything to me she did talk to him first she is just at wits end and wanted advice from other tickle lovers.....I SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT AT ALL>>>>>AT LEAST SHE IS TRYING!!!!!!
Again thanks everyone for your advice.

 

[the wiz]

Seems to me there is more to this story; we are only hearing one side of it. I’m currently dealing with this issue; I know both sides have done something to the other. One may have said something in an argument that pissed the other one off.

Or, she made a comment toward his fetish which made him feel uncomfortable able sharing it with her again. Lets not jump to concussion until all the information is in; I will agree, they both needs to talk and be honest about this fetish.

 

[vsa7a]

the guy has every tickler's dream in his real life and yet he doesnt have the balls to tickle her. i say for the girl to dump his dumb ass and...well hell ill take her!

 

[barefeetarebest]

Seems to me there is more to this story; we are only hearing one side of it. I’m currently dealing with this issue; I know both sides have done something to the other. One may have said something in an argument that pissed the other one off.

Or, she made a comment toward his fetish which made him feel uncomfortable able sharing it with her again. Lets not jump to concussion until all the information is in; I will agree, they both needs to talk and be honest about this fetish.

Could not have said it better myself. I also deal with this issue from time to time with my wife; who I am *rarely* allowed to tickle the way I really want to...
She tickles me much more often than that, but that is only 1/3 of my tickle-fantasy-desires.... the other 2/3 's is largely and for the most part left to my imagination, the videos she has done, this forum and myspace- and talking about it (when she's in the mood to hear it) and yet she has trouble at times understanding why I spend so much time here... it's that insecurity that was mentioned earlier about people making "hook-ups" here. I will not solicit private hook-ups here; rather what I am interested in, and she is fully aware of this, is finding another female or female(s) to join her in tickling me; then we could both attack her/them.
Another scenario we have discussed is meeting another couple into the scene and going somewhere and swapping tickle-partners. Simple as that. These things do not happen instantly. One has to develop a rapport with a party they are interested in meeting. So far, I've only gotten to step one in putting the word out there. Had some responses; but seems not to be any exact fits, yet.
On her end, she has achieved the first step also by putting herself out there to some of her girlfriends. We are involved in a race, of sorts. She gets a friend to agree, they tickle torture ME first. I get someone from the forum to join, we tickle HER, first.

Sorry for all the sordid details, but I certainly understand the problem and hope for the best. Please ask your friend's girlfriend to be understanding as this is a very delicate subject for most guys who have the fetish. By the way, WOULD she allow him to tickle her the way he would like?

Speaking for others as well as myself, in here time has a way of passing very quickly. One tends to not realize the actual passage of time while perusing the forums. I'll be the first (not really the 1st) to admit that I spend a lot of time per week here. My fetish, like that of many others here, is all-consuming. I think that until all my fantasies are actually made to happen, and they will be one day, this will be difficult to change. Call me selfish, but sometimes I feel a sense of entitlement to have my fantasies made real. Finding the other participants has proven to be the more difficult task.

Boredom, lack of finances, etc. keep me here. When I had a house and wasn't living w/ the mother-in-law, I had plenty of enjoyable normal activities to tinker with and toil on, which greatly reduced the amount of time I spent online. Now I feel like i'm just biding my time. I certainly do not like it here (living in someone else's house), makes me feel inadequate as a provider though I know deep inside that our certain circumstances could not help but put us in this situation....

Guess I wish i had a couple other outside hobbies.... but hobbies cost $, no matter what they are, and that's the one thing I haven't got. This is the least expensive most entertaining hobby i have. Keeps me home, out of the bar, out of trouble, and if i'm home she doesn't have to have unrealistic fears of me being out there meeting/cheating, etc, not in my nature, but, you know how women are.

To anyone who took the time to read and comprehend all that (I know it was a lot and I'm all over the map), thank you.

 

[fazzel]

Wow barefeetarebest you really said it all....
I spoke with her this morning and she sends her thanks to everyone for taking the time to read and respond.
I think this couple will make it even though she does not understand fully his disire. She is fully willing to let him tickle her and do all his tickle fantasies. She is willing to let him blindfold and tie her up and tickle her for hours on end...though she says she will be totally out of her fricken mind and in need of a straight jacket when he is finished with her. (Ol the little miss has started something I don't believe she is aware of YET.....Let the fun begin)

Most of all this lady is willing to learn all about tickling for him, she loves when he talks about it and can listen to his stories for hours.
She says that she does not agree (and neither do I) that she should only talk to him about this because talking with others can always help as it did in this case. She also stated that she kept it so no one even knows who either of them are, (so none of us can really get on his ass and tell him what a fool he really is.......I mean really...ticklers everywhere would want her by our sides......Wait! did I say that? No no.. I mean on our benches all tied and ready to tickle and torture. This guy is really a lucky bastard!)

One more thing......As Ms. Angeleyez stated about not wanting her man in here because of how many of the women act and how they talk....My girlfriends(not that I have many) have always felt the same way and I do have to admit I agree with them to a point. Let me say this....

Ladies if your man is a true "TICKLER", then you don't have to worry. We are not in here " on the prowl" in fact that is a turn off for us. For a true "TICKLER" it is not about sex! (I am not saying sex never happens, but it is personal and private not the focus point of a tickle session). But true "TICKLERS* are in here for the tickling.
And guys you have to admit.....we don't want a lot of these guys in here talking to our women and turning a tickling chat into a sex chat.....There are plenty of porn and sex sites out there it is NOT needed in here!
THIS IS A TICKLE FORUM PEOPLE!!!

I think we will be seeing a lot of this couple in the future.

Sorry for being long winded....just had to speak my mind. 😱

 

[slap'n'ticklee]

This all sounds rather lovely, I hope they can talk about it and act on it.

It seems that she is very willing to understand him and give it a go, but, what is he going to do for her, it all sounds to me like she's the one willing to give it a go and I hope he shows her some respect and thanks in doing so.

Be good to hear back soon how they are doing.

Wow barefeetarebest you really said it all....
I spoke with her this morning and she sends her thanks to everyone for taking the time to read and respond.
I think this couple will make it even though she does not understand fully his disire. She is fully willing to let him tickle her and do all his tickle fantasies. She is willing to let him blindfold and tie her up and tickle her for hours on end...though she says she will be totally out of her fricken mind and in need of a straight jacket when he is finished with her. (Ol the little miss has started something I don't believe she is aware of YET.....Let the fun begin)

Most of all this lady is willing to learn all about tickling for him, she loves when he talks about it and can listen to his stories for hours.
She says that she does not agree (and neither do I) that she should only talk to him about this because talking with others can always help as it did in this case. She also stated that she kept it so no one even knows who either of them are, (so none of us can really get on his ass and tell him what a fool he really is.......I mean really...ticklers everywhere would want her by our sides......Wait! did I say that? No no.. I mean on our benches all tied and ready to tickle and torture. This guy is really a lucky bastard!)

One more thing......As Ms. Angeleyez stated about not wanting her man in here because of how many of the women act and how they talk....My girlfriends(not that I have many) have always felt the same way and I do have to admit I agree with them to a point. Let me say this....

Ladies if your man is a true "TICKLER", then you don't have to worry. We are not in here " on the prowl" in fact that is a turn off for us. For a true "TICKLER" it is not about sex! (I am not saying sex never happens, but it is personal and private not the focus point of a tickle session). But true "TICKLERS* are in here for the tickling.
And guys you have to admit.....we don't want a lot of these guys in here talking to our women and turning a tickling chat into a sex chat.....There are plenty of porn and sex sites out there it is NOT needed in here!
THIS IS A TICKLE FORUM PEOPLE!!!

I think we will be seeing a lot of this couple in the future.

Sorry for being long winded....just had to speak my mind. 😱

 

[SlaverTickler]

Now I gave her my advice and that is.....She should stay and talk this over with him, but I am not sure if I convienced her, can you fellow *lees* and *lers* help out? They seem like a great couple.....

I think she shoud join the forum, and send him a PM (if she knows his handle). In the PM she should tell him who she is, that she know's about his love of tickling and that she wants to take part in it. This way he will know she is 100% honest about wanting to be involved with that part of his life. I don't know if I am getting across clear with my idea, I hope I am.