Question...

[Tummy Dude]

So... I have been in this serious relationship for awhile now.
However, i want to tell her about my fetish.
I kno she thinks i like tickling, but not this far.
How can i go by telling her?
Thx

 

[tigress]

My girlfriend found out by me asking her if she had any fetishes. Then, when she turned the question on me I blushed and turned away. She bugged me about it and I finally said "it's kinda a weird one, or at least, a lot of people find it weird at least. I like being tickled."
She is very understanding so it wasn't hard for me.

 

[Eternal Tomboy]

First off, I would avoid using the word "fetish" with her. I personally don't have a problem with the word (although I know a lot of people around here do....NO I don't want to start that age old debate again!), but some people in the mainstream jump to conclusions when they hear that word. Their mind immediately goes to deviant or psychologically damaged individuals that they have heard of, or read about in the media.

I'm of the mindset that you can let her know what you like without giving her every single detail. I don't think you need to show her around the TMF in order to get your point across.

If she already knows you "like" tickling, then you're already halfway there. How does she act when being tickled? Be very aware of her nonverbal signals (body language) during play. Is she smiling, or does she seem to hate being tickled? If she seems receptive, then see if she is willing to engage in some fun forms of tickle play. Make up games, see how far she is willing to go. Will she consent to being tied up? If not, will she tie you up? Encorporate tickling into foreplay, make positive mental connections for her - if possible link tickling to orgasm.

And above all, don't act like you've got this dirty little secret to share... because you don't. If you act ashamed of it, or embarrassed by it, then chances are, she is going to think it's weird. Actions speak louder than words anyway - if you SHOW her what you like, (and she seems to enjoy it), then you probably won't have to SAY much of anything!

Good luck,
Maggie

 

[FS_Dante]

If you want tickling in your relationship then ask, if not then dont worry about it...if you do and she weirds out on ya then i suppose there's that someone else out there, justa simple way of putting it😀

good luck from me too.

 

[b0xr]

I have never had to actually cross that bridge. It kind of just happened. We got into bondage and the tickling just started from there so I never had to explain anything to her about my feeling toward tickling. She already was aware of my desire to tickle her.

 

[jaba]

you gotta be honest....

when i am going on a beach or park date with a ladyfriend, the overwhelming majority of the time they are wearing sandals or flip flops, and almost always they will put their feet on the dash of my car while we are riding....

I always ask them to please put their feet down from the dashboard of the car, and they usually say "oh, i'm sorry".....

I always tell them "dont be sorry, its my fault....I have a weakness for ladies with pretty feet and pretty feet are a huge distraction to me"....

the overwhelming majority of the time they will laugh and put their feet back on the dash, and we will have a conversation about my foot and tickle fetish and its origins......some have even asked me to "grade" the feet of the ladies that we see as we are walking around the beach or park.....

But I have never been scorned by ladies because of this disclosure, quite the contrary, most of my lady friends, even the "vanilla" ones, have been very curious, and they ask about my tickle adventures, and many, but not all, have been willing to experiment with foot worship and tickleplay....

but as Maggie says, it's the way that you present your disclosure.....I am an admitted "goofball" and "weirdo", but ladies dont see that as threatening or creepy, they just see me as different, and interesting....

and EVERY lady that I have dated and encountered LOVES to know that men have a weakness that ladies can exploit from time to time.....and many usually do, playfully.....

 

[Tummy Dude]

To all...

Well, thank you to everyone.
With your help i was able to "come out" with my interest.
Luckily, she is very accepting, and actually enjoys it too.
So i gotta give my props to all people at the TMF. You all rock.

 

[drew70]

Super cool. I think Maggie's post was excellent. I couldn't more. When I was single, I was getting tickled by vanilla ladies quite often. That's because I learned to stop treating my interest in tickling as something of which to be ashamed or embarrassed. Instead, I would talk about it like one would talk about one's preference in music or a favorite movie.

 

[hahohi]

good 4 u. I had a similar sitn w my GF, luckily for me she's very cool and was understanding. I think our partners are generally more accepting than we think they r gonna b.