Random Compliments From Strangers

[Headsnap]

I feel like a broken record in here...I almost dont know why Im posting this...

It is all in the presentation. I have complimented a woman about her feet (gasp) at work, (gasp) in a restaurant, (shock) in a bar...and you know what most responses are.

Thank you. And sometimes it has led to some pretty enjoyable nights.

See...and this is crazy...Im a man, not a blithering idiot. So I have this inane ability to comment on things like this without looking like a total ass. It really isnt hard. I have no "MO," dont drool on myself, and I dont jerk my cock at home after Im done. And I represent arguably one the stronger foot fetishists here. If a woman has nice feet, and I like them and I feel moved to say it, then I do. On the extremely rare occasion I have gotten a bad response, I apologize and move on with my life. The conversation typically is as creepy as the person starting it, in my opinion. And you know what...if I had a tickle fetish, and a girl asked me what I would like to do kinky in the bedroom, I would fucking tell her tickle her. Period. And if she thought it was creepy and told me should couldnt deal with it, then I would move on with my life.

I'm going to assume this little tirade was directed at me since it makes reference to several things I said. Let me start thusly; I'm also a foot fetishist! You didn't see that coming did you, Mr Arguments? Duck and weave baby, duck and weave! I have also paid compliments to women about foot-related things; it doesn't always lead to "enjoyable nights" (in fact I don't think it ever has) but nor has it caused any woman to A) vomit upon me in a heady mixture of disgust and outrage or B) flee in terror from me, let's face it, women like people saying nice things about them no matter how unusual it is. I understand that. You clearly seem to understand that too. That's good. There are, judging by some of the shite that gets posted right here upon this interwebs, a great many people who don't, and who are afraid of themselves/ women/ the world beyond their bedroom. These people tend to be in the majority, sadly, or at least they appear to be the majority amongst posting members, and in my view deserve both scorn and pity in equal measure.

This prevailing attitude that foot fetishists are so much sicker than other fetishists is asinine to the 3rd power. And the fact that this attitude is coming from other fetishists is even more remarkable.

There is no prevailing attitude that foot fetishists are any more or less "sick" than anyone else; there is however a raft of foot fetishist type folk who make that assumption and allow it to rule their lives, leading them to become drooling shut-ins to whom the sight of women in flip-flops becomes a near-orgasmic experience.

It isnt the fetish that makes the situation sick...its the person with the fetish. So if Jerk A and Dickface B cant engage in a 15 second dialogue with a woman or man and tell them they find a body part attractive, dont fucking tell me it cant or shouldn't be done because I have been doing it for longer than some of the members here have been born.

Nobody's cribbing about the compliment; it's the lengthy dialogue that followed most people seem perturbed by. Then again nobody was there to read the paralanguage going on so nobody can really say whether Saeria was being accosted by a genuinely interested foot fetishist or some 'nilla bloke who got stuck in an awkward loop after his opening comment.

To me it seemed innocent enough, nothing to worry about, no more scary than some bloke complimenting Saeria on her t-shirt and then getting himself locked into an awkward t-shirt related conversation because he lacks the basic social skills, observation skills and conversation abilities to get off the subject of t-shirts (we've all been there when approaching a woman, haven't we chaps? My worst was spending an hour and a half talking about the modernisation of Turkey and the Turkish people with a gorgeous Turkish teacher), though it took on an additional context because Saeria is a member of the TMF, home to tickling and foot fetishists.

So yeah. The old way is not working. Ring the changes in Heaven - Vote Hunter S. Thompson for God, 2007.

 

[Soda83pop]

I'm going to assume this little tirade was directed at me since it makes reference to several things I said.

This wasnt directed at you...I dont even really know who you are.

This tirade wasnt directed at anyone in particular. It was mostly directed at the people that seemed to think that people couldnt have a conversation with someone of the opposite sex over feet (or any other fetish) in a non threatening way. I have been having this conversation for about a decade (perhaps in the cutting and pasting you missed my broken record remark). Its all the same; only the screennames are changing. You dont have the market cornered on this.

If it makes your day to feel like something I typed was directed at you, then by all means, "assume this little tirade" was directed at you. However:

You didn't see that coming did you, Mr Arguments

Duck and weave baby, duck and weave!

If this is the best you can do when you decide to take it personal, perhaps you should do yourself a favor and think twice before you start copying and pasting someone's posts and responding. Me, Im a decent guy. I dont need flame war victories on my resume to prove my self worth here or anywhere else online. Im gonna let this silliness ride. But there are several others here that would have came back with something really nice...forcing you to respond, and letting it escalate into something stupid. It may be best to just sticking with disagreeing.

😉

 

[Illtcklu]

You never let me have ANY fun....
XOXO

Try to remember the kind of December..............

 

[LeeAllure]

I definitely agree

that it's the person, and not what they're into.

I have met plenty of creepy people with no social
skills (that their interest or fetish is their main focus
instead of the actual person they're talking with is
really a turn off) who also have no control over
their need to blurt out really persistent and bordering
on offensive remarks, and I've also met other people
who are clearly into the same thing, whose approach
is pleasant, friendly, open, complimentary, and therefore,
welcome.

I far prefer the second, and think most women do, too.
If people find that folks are perceiving them as the "creep"
type, then I suggest that getting their general social skills
in order to further their aims would be useful.

Lee

 

[TimToes38]

Nicely said Lee

that it's the person, and not what they're into.

I have met plenty of creepy people with no social
skills (that their interest or fetish is their main focus
instead of the actual person they're talking with is
really a turn off) who also have no control over
their need to blurt out really persistent and bordering
on offensive remarks, and I've also met other people
who are clearly into the same thing, whose approach
is pleasant, friendly, open, complimentary, and therefore,
welcome.

I far prefer the second, and think most women do, too.
If people find that folks are perceiving them as the "creep"
type, then I suggest that getting their general social skills
in order to further their aims would be useful.

Lee

Civility and manners are key; we need to like our partners / friends / play mates first... need to want to be with them, and to please them (including tease, tickle torture) and that makes it so much better for both parties... we all like to fee good about what we do, and with whom we choose to do it!!

It makes it fun and sexy!

Tim

 

[Headsnap]

If it makes your day to feel like something I typed was directed at you, then by all means, "assume this little tirade" was directed at you.

It makes very little odds to me to be quite honest, just the fact that you directly referenced the stuff I'd said made it seem like it was a dig at me, which it apparently wasn't. Glad we got this cleared up, sir! 😀

If this is the best you can do when you decide to take it personal, perhaps you should do yourself a favor and think twice before you start copying and pasting someone's posts and responding. Me, Im a decent guy. I dont need flame war victories on my resume to prove my self worth here or anywhere else online. Im gonna let this silliness ride. But there are several others here that would have came back with something really nice...forcing you to respond, and letting it escalate into something stupid. It may be best to just sticking with disagreeing.

😉

I could say the same about you copy-pasting two phrases you found odious from my response and railing against them as though they were representative of the entire post. You're not refuting what I said; you're critiquing the way I said it and doing so in an invective fashion, and for someone who doesn't involve themselves in 'flame wars' that's a somewhat inflammatory action. In future try to refrain from commenting on my eloquence (or perceived lack thereof) unless you're actually able to give your comment some on-topic context, which I suspect you can't because as a man who has had a decade of experience with this particular issue you'll know as well as I do that a great many foot fetishists are of the "drooling, repressed oddball' variety, none of whom would posess the necessary chutzpah to approach a woman in the manner that Saeria's gentleman caller did.

😉

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I think it's kind of cool that he asked you that. I have yet for someone other than a shoe salesperson to ask me what shoe size I wear other than when I am in the TMF chatroom or Instant Messaging with someone from this forum who has either AOL or AIM who I've met through either private messages, met in person or both.

 

[TMF Jeff]

headsnap and dajerx, if you two want to discuss who was or wasn't talking to who, take it into PMs.