Regrets

[tk0]

Has anyone ever blown a perfect chance to tickle someone.

 

[-Kunoke-]

Plenty of times. 🙂

Most of the time it's either I know the person does not want to/liked to be tickled, or I just never get around to it.

 

[Cave In1]

Oh yea, i had one just recently after work a few weeks ago.

We went back to workmates house to continue our little drinking session(i work in a bar) and we decided to play a few games...that buzz music game for the playstation and then twister.
Now there was a girl there who i'd given a few quick tickles on the sides to and she was crazy ticklish and during our game of twister her foot was right within my grasp i could have given her a foot a quick tickle and just said i was tryin to put her out of the game. but i didn't and then the guy who's house we were at then tickled her on the sides and she burst out laughing and fell over and my chance was ruined.

Thats been my biggest regret lately

 

[MistressValerie1]

Many, many times, mostly due to shyness when I was in my early 20's.

Now that I'm older and less shy, I hesitate to tickle anyone except intimate friends because I fear that I would come across as "scary" or "creepy," rather than "playful," due to my intense personality 🙁

 

[Wade1]

Now that I'm older and less shy, I hesitate to tickle anyone except intimate friends because I fear that I would come across as "scary" or "creepy," rather than "playful," due to my intense personality 🙁

I understand your caution, mostly because I largely share it--not because I'm particularly intense, but because any time a guy tickles a woman there's a danger of its being interpreted as inappropriate. (I'm always struck by how many people, women especially, are free of such caution, though; it's remarkable how many women I knew only as acquaintances or friendly co-workers have felt comfortable tickling me relentlessly.)

I will say this, though: at different times in the past I've had a couple of different friends, both women, both with terrifically intense personalities, one of them almost Wagnerian in her character, each of whom decided to tickle-torture me, and while I was surprised I didn't find it scary (nor, it seemed, did any of the witnesses who just smiled and laughed as they watched each of the women reduce me to helpless and flailing giggles.) There's something about the character of tickling that is so inherently playful that I think it often reflects on the personality of the tickler, making her seem more playful than others had assumed, rather than taking on the colors of her persona and becoming something less "fun."

Just a thought.

 

[MistressValerie1]

That is an interesting observation, Wade. If it can be generalised to my situation, it would certainly open up possibilities that I had not previously considered 🙂

 

[David Tyler]

MistressValerie, I'd hold off before you take that advice. There is a woman who works in a satellite office of ours and comes in a couple of times a month. She likes to come up behind me and tickle. She creeps me out but I don't say anything because I'm trying to maintain congenial relations with all of our staff. And it isn't the tickling. It's the fact that it's her doing it.

So, I'd test the water before you take that posting and run with it. Every situation is different.

 

[Camel26]

Good advice all around...

Val--you could tickle me anytime you wanted!!! And I wouldn't think it was scary/creepy/etc...😉 😀

As for my regrets...

I try not to regret things, as too many regrets can keep you from enjoying life...but I've definitely regretted not instigating some tickle fights...and I've regretted having myself in the perfect position for someone to take a shot (ie: putting my bare feet in a very visible place, stretching myself out, etc), but no one did anything...I'm always careful though to make sure I know the person I'm tickling though...some people, especially those who are closed-minded, think that because I'm gay, if I touch them at all, it means I want something more than their friendship...so I kinda cut back my physicality around anyone but my ler in recent years...THAT is a regret...

 

[Sockstickler]

Good advice all around...

Val--you could tickle me anytime you wanted!!! And I wouldn't think it was scary/creepy/etc...😉 😀

I'll second that.

 

[Wade1]

Val--you could tickle me anytime you wanted!!!

I'll third that.

Of course, I'd regret it as soon as I was helpless ... but that's just my oversensitive nerve endings talkin'...

 

[tickle_fan031]

I'll third that.

Of course, I'd regret it as soon as I was helpless ... but that's just my oversensitive nerve endings talkin'...

Oh so you're actually admitting that you have oversensitive nerve endings then Wade??!hahaha


Oh and my biggest regret is not telling my college mates that I liked to be tickled when they used to tickle me at college coz I only see them a few times a year now and tickling rarely happends.

 

[guest5]

i wouldn't think you were gay if you tickled me🙂 whats funny is i send the wrong messages. a friend emailed me and said they were going to tickle me silly and i said never tickle me. lol

bonster27

Good advice all around...

Val--you could tickle me anytime you wanted!!! And I wouldn't think it was scary/creepy/etc...😉 😀

As for my regrets...

I try not to regret things, as too many regrets can keep you from enjoying life...but I've definitely regretted not instigating some tickle fights...and I've regretted having myself in the perfect position for someone to take a shot (ie: putting my bare feet in a very visible place, stretching myself out, etc), but no one did anything...I'm always careful though to make sure I know the person I'm tickling though...some people, especially those who are closed-minded, think that because I'm gay, if I touch them at all, it means I want something more than their friendship...so I kinda cut back my physicality around anyone but my ler in recent years...THAT is a regret...

 

[guest5]

i wouldn't think you were scary or creepy either. even though i don't know you, i enjoy your post🙂 im out of my 20's and still shy. your hubby is very lucky!!!!

bonster27

Many, many times, mostly due to shyness when I was in my early 20's.

Now that I'm older and less shy, I hesitate to tickle anyone except intimate friends because I fear that I would come across as "scary" or "creepy," rather than "playful," due to my intense personality 🙁

 

[conehead180]

I understand your caution, mostly because I largely share it--not because I'm particularly intense, but because any time a guy tickles a woman there's a danger of its being interpreted as inappropriate. (I'm always struck by how many people, women especially, are free of such caution, though; it's remarkable how many women I knew only as acquaintances or friendly co-workers have felt comfortable tickling me relentlessly.)

Really? I've never noticed it. I mean, I've tickled plenty of females, some I barely even knew, and no one ever seemed to mind. Hell, some even seemed to encourage it. But maybe I've just had alot of good luck, who knows? 😀

Anyway, there's only one time I can remember that I missed a good opportunity. It was when I was in high school, and there was this one girl I knew who sat at the table with me in science class (or was it anatamy). The thing is, we all just kinda sat down randomly at whichever chair was available, but she always had to sit in the same chair. Well, one day I decided to see what would happen if I took it. So she comes in, sees me in the chair, and tells me to get up. Of course, I wasn't just going to get up, so when I told her this, she reached down and tickled my ribs. Naturally, I got up after a few seconds. The thing is, I'm not the kind to take a tickle without "fighting back", but I was distracted at the time, and quickly forgot. Now I think back and kinda regret it, since I had kinda had a thing for her, but oh well.

 

[Ross]

This has happened to me on many occasions, especially at times when female classmates or friends had their feet up on desks during lectures in college, or when I was in someone's room at college, and a girl was either barefoot, or in socks or stockings.
Alas, I am sure for all of us, there have been multitudes of missed or blown tickling opportunities. I try not to focus in on the ones I missed, but rather on the ones I have.

 

[MistressValerie1]

Thanks and love to Camel, Socks, Wade, and Guest for not thinking it would be creepy, and to David Tyler for his advice 🙂 Being the cautious type, I'd be inclined to keep my hands to myself if I had the slightest doubt about how someone would receive it, but it sure is fun to fantasise and then subject my hubby to the day's pent-up tickle desires 😀

 

[Sockstickler]

Thanks and love to Camel, Socks, Wade, and Guest for not thinking it would be creepy, and to David Tyler for his advice 🙂 Being the cautious type, I'd be inclined to keep my hands to myself if I had the slightest doubt about how someone would receive it, but it sure is fun to fantasise and then subject my hubby to the day's pent-up tickle desires 😀

I'd be the same way. I think there are a lot of people here though who are curious and interested in seeing what an encounter with the famed Ab-Mistress would be like 🙂

 

[leenotler]

At work, while removing my shoe to remove a stone, I overheard one women whisper to another, "Let''s find out if he's ticklish.", but they did nothing. They blew a perfect opportunity. I wondered later what I could have said to encourage them.

For lers, caution is best, though I feel bad for the untickled potential lees. Too bad there's not some safe easy test. Maybe try one playful poke and wait for a reaction, positive or negative. A woman at work rubbed my back in a consoling, but somewhat tickling way. She did it again later, more tickling than rubbing, and again later, pure tickling. She got a positive reaction each time.

I think lees can give signals. I think a lee will intentionally over-react to mild, unintentional tickling to encourage more tickling. I know I have.

 

[guest5]

Thanks and love to Camel, Socks, Wade, and Guest for not thinking it would be creepy, and to David Tyler for his advice 🙂 Being the cautious type, I'd be inclined to keep my hands to myself if I had the slightest doubt about how someone would receive it, but it sure is fun to fantasise and then subject my hubby to the day's pent-up tickle desires 😀

can i change to bonster27 from guest5 myself. i don't know if i can change my user name by myself. feeling more comfortable though🙂

bonster27

 

[Sockstickler]

can i change to bonster27 from guest5 myself. i don't know if i can change my user name by myself. feeling more comfortable though🙂

bonster27

You can change it, but you'll have to send a message to the site administrator, TickleTheater, explaining what you want to change it to and why you want to change it, and then wait for him to see it and see how it goes.
So basically, no, you can't change it by yourself. He has to do it for you.

 

[Wade1]

I think a lee will intentionally over-react to mild, unintentional tickling to encourage more tickling. I know I have.

That's pretty much what's happened in my case in the past. I don't overreact intentionally--overreacting to tickling is just how I'm wired whether I like it or not--but as soon as the woman sees how wildly I recoil and giggle, then tickling me invariably becomes a permanent part of her To-Do list.

 

[leenotler]

That's pretty much what's happened in my case in the past. I don't overreact intentionally--overreacting to tickling is just how I'm wired whether I like it or not--but as soon as the woman sees how wildly I recoil and giggle, then tickling me invariably becomes a permanent part of her To-Do list.

So, if a lee gives that overreaction "signal", the ler still doesn't know if it's an intentional "go ahead" sign or not. Still, I think tickles that are quick and short are quickly forgiven, but maybe not if they're long or on the permanant To-Do list. I think I still envy you, Wade. I know your true stories are still my favorites.

 

[Wade1]

Thanks!

I think one's attitude toward being tickled has a lot to do with how people proceed, too. I used to have a coworker named Jennifer who probably tickled me at least once a week after she discovered My Weakness. One time after she got done tickling me silly in my cubicle, her fingers darting relentlessly from my stomach to my sides and back again, she told me about how she tickled her boyfriend once and after she stopped he flew off the handle and ordered her never to do it again. So apparently it's not just that when I'm tickled I laugh helplessly, seemingly merrily, and (in the words of another coworker, Amy) "like a little kid," but also that afterwards I don't exude anger or resentment (or, really, anything apart from sheepishness).