Ruthless?

[ticklebug101]

Hey folks I've been thinking again. Dangerous I know :stickout But I was thinking the other day, does it pay to be a little ruthless in a session? Specialy with an overly sensitive lee who yells at you to stop a lot. Cuz if you're constantly stopping, doesn't that kind of take away from the lee's experience? Check they're ok sure, but do you need to be a little bit ruthless when it comes to begging? Just curious so lemme know what you guys think. Please and thanks,
Buggy.

 

[Ticklish Old Man]

Hi Bug, it might be a fine line of being ruthless yet fair to the 'lee.
One wouldn't want it to be agony - should be fun for the 'ler and the 'lee

 

[TKLVR181]

I think it depends on the 'lee. Personally I love having my begs ignored up to a point, that point being a safeword (or sometimes yellow from the stoplight system). I think good communication ahead of time is the most vital thing a 'ler (or lee for that matter) can focus on. Some lees want you to stop anytime they seem remotely distressed-it may be their first session and they're overly anxious, or they may have had a bad experience in the past. Some lees want to be ignored except for certain instances, and many I've known prefer to just chuck the safeword out and be ignored/teased more. Just depends on the person!

~K

 

[Beckers1]

I'd pretty much just echo the statements already said in the thread, I definitely am the type that tends to yell out to stop during without fully meaning it, it's definitely more a reflex than anything else at this point.

But yeah when it does indeed get to the point of being too much, having a safe word discussed prior is usually the best way to go about it if it's clear and concise. Just like the emergency break to a session, there's no confusion to it just stop at that point.

 

[wolfman40]

I like sessions to be playful, teasing and on occasion erotic!

As a ler- I like to hear squealing and pleading- not there! but I'm not really the sadistic type 🙂

I've not really been a lee for a long period of time- I guess I'd like to be pushed towards my limit- but not broken in two 😛

 

[ticklebug101]

Folks, I didn't mean to the point of ignoring a safeword because personally, I would never do that. I just meant do you sometimes have to push through the begging, up to the point of yelling the safeword, to give the lee the session they really want, despite how much they tell you to stop. Don't worry, I'm not evil lol.

 

[wolfman40]

It's real fun to push someone close- I suppose if you're in tune with the lee and know what makes them tick and what get's them going, you can ease off and go gentle if you think their going to yell the safeword..

That way you can prolong the fun and give them the tickling they both want (and deserve!)

As a ler, I suppose it gives you ultimate satisfaction too 🙂

 

[Volsung1]

I think it depends (partially) on how well you know the other person (lee). The description you are talking about would reflect maybe the second or third session?

 

[TicklishGigglee]

I prefer the tickler to be considerate. A lot of ticklers who I have interacted here talk about wanting to tickle me for 'hours' and some of them even say 'days', and I find that practically impossible. Not only is the thought of having a ticklee bound for hours medically dangerous (I am guessing with my level of ticklishness, I would just not want to take such a stupid risk), but it means the tickler simply considers the ticklee as an object and not a human. This is also why I prefer being unbound during tickling, although I fully cooperate during a session.

Having said that, I also understand that it would be stupid of the tickler to stop tickling immediately if the ticklee says 'Stop' because from my experience, I tend to ask the tickler to stop within seconds of feeling the first few strokes of a finger. So yeah, I like it if the tickler is a bit mean and tickles me around 1-2 mins at a time, and then gives me a break. Mind you, during those 2 mins, I love it if the tickler really gets me good.

 

[Wade1]

Most people who decide to tickle me (and it's almost always a spontaneous tickling in a social context) don't stop when I say "stop" -- and I say "stop" early and often; it's reflexive -- I don't know how not to say "stop" when someone's tickling me -- they stop whenever they feel like stopping. That's not to say they all push me to the limits of endurance -- in fact that very rarely happens -- but I guess it qualifies as a certain flavor of ruthlessness.

 

[knicks255]

Honestly I think like, the two safeword system people talk about would be effective in this kind of situation.

Have one that means "Slow down a little, but don't stop", therefore clearing away some of that "Am I going too far?" worrying. And then have the hard "It is time to stop" word, and make sure they're both in place.

Personally, the majority of my tickle experiences are with friends who I know enjoy it, and that I already know very well. The situation may be different if it's a new partner or someone who's like, a professional or w/e.

 

[DarthGrinn]

Since I keep my hardcore ruthless tickling for my girlfriend, we are able to establish safewords and rules and such. So I can freely go full tickle-monster, knowing that if she needs me to stop, she'll just safeword out. Otherwise, her begging is part of the play.

With that in mind, I'm a huge softie anyway. My "ruthless" is quite tame compared to some session recordings I've seen haha