Hello all!
I am looking for some ideas regarding safeword usage. I am sure I'm not the first one to come up with this, so I would really appreciate
I love the fantasy of being tickled without consent including Edging and Post Orgasm play.
We already do that stuff and it's awesome. But I have to admit that my safeword makes things a little boring. It's too easy to chicken out and having this option in the back of my head actually makes me less ticklish.
My wife is vanilla. She has no kinks. But she loves the extra spice in our sex life and my kinky side. Consent and respect is something she highly respects, so she demands clear understanding of how this part of our relationship works.
So the idea was: Safeword with consequences.
This way I can opt out if I am really not in the mood or if things go too far.
If the game doesn't work for either of us we agree to stop the whole idea or make necessary changes.
This is the current game so far:
Consent by default: whenever she is in the mood
I am looking for some ideas regarding safeword usage. I am sure I'm not the first one to come up with this, so I would really appreciate
- your version, ideas, suggestions
- links to other posts
I love the fantasy of being tickled without consent including Edging and Post Orgasm play.
We already do that stuff and it's awesome. But I have to admit that my safeword makes things a little boring. It's too easy to chicken out and having this option in the back of my head actually makes me less ticklish.
My wife is vanilla. She has no kinks. But she loves the extra spice in our sex life and my kinky side. Consent and respect is something she highly respects, so she demands clear understanding of how this part of our relationship works.
So the idea was: Safeword with consequences.
This way I can opt out if I am really not in the mood or if things go too far.
If the game doesn't work for either of us we agree to stop the whole idea or make necessary changes.
This is the current game so far:
Consent by default: whenever she is in the mood
- Tickling
- Edging and Post Orgasm play (with known limitations)
- Demanding any position, exposing spots on demand
- No fighting back, no squirming away
- Restraints
- And of course: No refusing without safeword
- No third party present
- No public spaces
- ...
- ... this list is mostly common sense for us
- Every safeword used gets cleared with a consequence
- Consequences may be secret and come with delay and surprise
- Consequence can be refused by using the Safeword
- Examples:
- Special session involving one or more features:
- If the safeword is used the session ends with 5min delay
- Less limitations regarding POT and Edging
- Wearing latex in public (another kink of me I rather do privately)
- Special favor / extraordinary task
- Revealing an embarrassing secret / weakness
- Special session involving one or more features:
- -----> YOUR INPUT HERE PLEASE <--------
