second chance??

[phatteus]

I need advice.

I have a girlfriend (in the loose sense of the word; perhaps I should say female friend) whom I absolutely adore. She has informed me that she cherishes me as a friend and yadda yadda yadda keep it in your pants, big boy. So, in the interest of keeping her as a very good friend, I have been good. But I'd love to be tickled to death by her!
One day, about a year ago, I snuck a tickle on her, hoping she'd tickle me back; you know, the old ploy. She didn't laugh, she didn't flinch. She told me not to do that. My spirits dashed, and my belly screaming to be tickled by this goddess, I left, my tail between my legs.
Now, almost a year later, we have become very close again. We are scheduled to go out later this week on a "date" of sorts. No romance, just friendly "being togetherness". My question to you all is this: Is it safe to attempt another tickle, or should I leave it alone, and be happy that a woman as sexy as this pays attention to me? I'd hate to ruin my friendship with this girl, as she is truly a sweet girl, and the last thing I want is to hurt her, or to be hurt myself. However, to miss the chance to engage in a tickle fight with this girl has been my dream for quite some time!
What course of action would YOU take?
I know this is a weird situation... a "ticklish" situation, if you will. This is why I need advice.
Any help would be hot!

Thanks in advance:

-Phatteus

 

[Mischief]

My advice-- I think she made it very plain how she felt about being tickled the first time around. I would not attempt a second time, unless she gives you a very clear sign that it is okay to do so.

And maybe not even then. 😉

 

[qjakal]

Yup...

Gotta agree with Mischief nearly word for word...

Q

 

[ticklebutton]

Sorry, Phatteus...I'm afraid you're gonna hear this from everyone. Nope.

...She didn't laugh, she didn't flinch. She told me not to do that.

 

[phatteus]

I may not like it, but I guess I'd agree with you all.

Thank you for your quick response(s), and sorry for sounding like a moron before...

 

[4Pawz]

Don't ever feel sorry for asking questions. It's better to ask a question and get an honest answer, than to not ask, and have something bad happen. We all have situations we are unsure of. We run it by friends or family, or like here, a message board on the topic. You are getting some good feedback. You know the ole saying, the only stupid questions are the ones that are never asked.

Pawz

 

[phatteus]

thanks, paws.

You're absolutely right...

and you've made me feel slightly better about myself.

 

[Mischief]

and sorry for sounding like a moron before... [/B]

If the brevity of my previous post in any way made you feel this way, I apologize. It was not my intent. By no means do I think you sounded like a moron. I think you had a very valid question/concern and were just performing a little "sanity check." We've all had moments in our lives where the things we WANT TO DO and what we SHOULD DO are in conflict, so it's only part of human nature to want to find some compromise between the two that we can live with.

God only knows there have been many times I've bounced ideas off of people (although usually in the chat room, rather than the forums) to see if I was considering all the consequences, etc.

 

[phatteus]

no harm done

Mischief,

I didn't mean that you made me feel like a moron, quite the opposite. In fact, I am grateful for your reality check. I implied that I felt like a moron because yor response seemed so obvious, and I couln't figure out why I hadn't put three and eight together. Thank you for saving me from ruining my friendship with this wonderful person!

 

[njjen3953]

Ask Her

If the 2 of you have gotten close, I would say, tell her that you like tickling. Tell her that although she may not enjoy being tickled, that you would really love to become her victim. You have more to gain by being honest and more to lose by just tickling her without her consent.

 

[Tickler Bart]

I would NOT try to tickle her, but I would DEFINITELY tell her that YOU want to be tickled by her. It may seem less intrusive if she's the one in 'control'. There is not harm in asking. If she says no, then leave it at that and do NOT ask again. She might think you're pestering her then.
This, of course, is my own humble opinion.
Barton

 

[Em Es]

I'm with njjen and tickle bart

Phat, the previous two postings got it right. Your best bet to at least get some tickling out of this girl is to tell her what you want. Who knows, she may go along with it.

But if she refuses to tickle you, do yourself a favor and never speak to her again. This woman's what you call a "career dater." That's a woman who keeps her B-list men hanging on when the A-list men she really wants are unavailable. You will never have the romance you want with her. If she won't even tickle you, spend your time on new prospects.

 

[phatteus]

Thanks everyone!!

And Em, while you are correct in the A-list and B-list thing, I understand that I have no chance romanticly (sp) here, but I don't want to lose her friendship... for whatever reason. 😕

 

[tickleshotel]

Phatteus,
I agree with the others here Not to tickle her,especially
since when you attempted it first time she told you Not to
Do that. I understand in a sense that in your mind that you
don;t want to lose this ladies friendship,but if she obviously
doesn;t Like or even Enjoy tickling then I would try to keeping your
ears,eyes open for other ladies that are sweethearts too,and
Enjoy being tickled.I would be tickled pink LOL to have a friend like
yourself that I could hang around with and be tickled without
having to ask 😛 I am also a tickler too and your laughter would have
me enjoying being the tickler as much as you enjoying being the Lee 😉

 

[MrTicklefeet]

I would try to keeping your
ears,eyes open for other ladies that are sweethearts too,and
Enjoy being tickled.I would be tickled pink LOL to have a friend like
yourself that I could hang around with and be tickled without
having to ask 😛 I am also a tickler too and your laughter would have
me enjoying being the tickler as much as you enjoying being the Lee 😉

Tickleshotel, I agree, you bet. I am still haunted by that image you shared with me of sitting in your recyner with your bare feet propped up, soles on display. That would draw me like a magnet. You would never have to ask me to tickle you, but you would have to ask me to stop. Bwahahahaha

 

[crydun]

I agree with Jen on this. I've gotten a lot more experience and fun out of life since I was open about it with my friends. That's how I got bear and bunny here and we've had loads of fun since then. Talk to her about it. Eventually, you'll get what you need. If not from her then from somebody else.

 

[natural tickler]

Yeah, I agree with everybody. DO Not tickle her, let alone ask her to tickle you. she's just not interested. Leave her alone and move on. There will be hundreds of other women who would love to do what she won't

 

[tickleshotel]

Tickleshotel, I agree, you bet. I am still haunted by that image you shared with me of sitting in your recyner with your bare feet propped up, soles on display. That would draw me like a magnet. You would never have to ask me to tickle you, but you would have to ask me to stop. Bwahahahaha

Hey Mrticklefeet 😀 , Thank you for your response of feedback.
That is my pet peeve,is being around friends in the past that
knew just how much I loved being tickled and they would tease me
making comments like "OHH next time you come over I am going
to tickle you" and being myself the way I am I build anticipation
believing the friend was sincere,but come to find out they
would be *playing* .I would be disapointed because tickling,
being tickled is so important to me,but why do people do something
like that?? Like even for instance I would *Never* tell my
stepson I would be taking him out to lunch,ice cream,whatever
and then act like it was no big deal if he was looking soooo
forward to whatever he likes .
Mrticklefeet ,hhehhe I know that haunts you with that image
in your mind,especially since you have my laughter vibrating
off the walls 🙂blush.

 

[TicklishSinner]

I agree to not try tickling her again, but talk with her about it..or causually hint about it..like leave your computer on the forum and have her grab something by your desk and let her look see what happens, or bring up a story that has tickling in it and see if anything sparks some kinda of interest..good luck with what you choose to do.

 

[MrTicklefeet]

bring up a story that has tickling in it and see if anything sparks some kinda of interest.

I've done this. For someone who says they're not into tickling, this approach tends to weird people out. Suddenly your not invited over as much. I just tend to respect other peoples religious beleifs.

 

[MrTicklefeet]

Hey Mrticklefeet 😀 , Thank you for your response of feedback.
That is my pet peeve,is being around friends in the past that
knew just how much I loved being tickled and they would tease me
making comments like "OHH next time you come over I am going
to tickle you" and being myself the way I am I build anticipation
believing the friend was sincere,but come to find out they
would be *playing* .I would be disapointed because tickling,
being tickled is so important to me,but why do people do something
like that?? Like even for instance I would *Never* tell my
stepson I would be taking him out to lunch,ice cream,whatever
and then act like it was no big deal if he was looking soooo
forward to whatever he likes .

Tickleshotel, That's just being unthoughtful, and maybe even mean spirited, or they have an incredibly low awareness level.
Like a recently ex woman friend, who's feet I've photographed, massaged and worshipped for liek a year started wearing socks and shoes in the summer time when she'd invite me over, and would just want to avoid the subject when it brought it up. Some people are just no fun. :-(

 

[TummyDragon]

I would have to chime in agreement that you shouldn't just tickler her again because she's told you "don't do that again", and also suggested things like "keep it in your pants".

To push it further without a sincere discussion would definately be a violation. It seems that she's not interested in anything physical with you. I'd say that if you truly want to be tickled by this woman, then bring up the topic at a good time and be honest about it. Just realize that taking this road can open the Pandora's Box of friendship killers. If you really value her as a friend and are not just lying in ambush waiting for the door for ticklish opportunity to open, you might want to keep this a fantasy. She's made her feelings pretty clear for the moment. Doesn't mean those feelings won't change, but you will definately need to finesse the situation rather than just tickle her and hope she tickles back.

TD

 

[phatteus]

wow! quite a turnout!!

THank you, everyone for this great feedback; but I think In my heart, I agree with the TummyDragon. I cherish this woman as a friend before anything else. In my mind, physical contact would be fantastic, but losing her would be devastating. If the opportunity ever arose, I would grasp it and not let go, but at the moment, I will allow fantasies to remain fantastic, and focus on the present, and the wonderful relationship I already have.

 

[ticklebutton]

Phatteus...

you're one of those rare & precious men who can be a true friend.

Sounds like you would not pretend to be a friend in order to find out how much sexual amusement a woman will eventually provide for you.

I really admire that.

Button

 

[Knox The Hatter]

"But if she refuses to tickle you, do yourself a favor and never speak to her again. This woman's what you call a "career dater." That's a woman who keeps her B-list men hanging on when the A-list men she really wants are unavailable. You will never have the romance you want with her. If she won't even tickle you, spend your time on new prospects."

Good God, that's rather extreme, isn't it? Especially in a situation where there is about as much romantic involvement as there is between a man and a plant. Em Es, my advice to you is to date women who don't have lists. After all, it's perfectly normal for a girl to take a look at the guy over here who's on his way to Yale, majoring in law, a lot longer than than the guy over there Drago69's dealing with behind the McDonald's counter. Sorry, but that's how life works.
Communication is the key. Don't slink away into your shell because no good can possibly come from that. It's all how you present yourself, and your interest. During a fun, semi-deep conversation, you can joke by saying, in between good repartee, "know what would be funny? You tickling the stuffing out of me right now..."
There must be absolutely no seriousness involved. You present this thesis with the same inner confidence as you would "I'm hungry...how does pizza sound?" In all likelihood, she will not pout and get up and walk away...rather, she'll laugh, thinking that that's one of the more interesting statements she's heard that week. If she's in the right mood, you never know, she might reach out and tickle you a bit.
I really don't think you'll get much more, but take this for what it is. What she'll probably do is give you an impish look and move on to the next subject. Better than the dreadfulness going on in your head, that's for sure, Phat.
Bueno Suerte 🙂