Sharing What I've Learned So Far

[Soles_Scream]

Since diving into foot and tickle fetish I have acquired my far share of EXP points. My credentials can be found at the links below if anyone is interested. Now, onto what I have learned:

1) Not every tickle experience with the same person will yield the exact same results. A lee's (person being tickled in this case) sensitivity is effected by various aspects, many of which are outside of the ler's control. Level of general fatigue, mental state, hormone cycles, nourishment, positioning, sense of self, etc. all play a roll. A lee that is normally an 8, could be half that on a particular day or period of time for example.

2) Ticklishness can wax or wane with time during a session. I've tickled women who started out an 8, but then settled at around a 5. Other times, they start out as a 3, and then finish up at about a 7. Some eventually get overloaded, and thus get to the point where they need the tickle portion to cease all together. This has only happened once in my experience, even so, I switched to foot massage for the rest of the time as a form of aftercare.

3) Communication is KEY (caps for emphasis). If the lee trusts you, their bodies natural defenses should relax as well. Start by talking about boundaries and safe words. In Bella's Carrera's case, we talked "safe sounds". Next, if a lee does not want to be tickled in a particular spot, DO NOT TICKLE THEM THERE (caps for emphasis). Do not ask to, do not push the point, respect their boundaries on that. Now, lets say you do a session and respect their wishes on no go spots. If you agree to meet again, I see no problem in inquiring about the previous "no go spot" but only before you meet up to session. If they again rebuff the idea, do not bring it up again until you set up the next pre session set up.

This is where tone is important, if the lee shares some deep trauma regarding being touched in an area for example, leave it alone indefinitely.

4) Changing pressure and technique is Very (emphasis) important. I have a whole bunch of tickle tools, but what are hands down most effective are my fingernails. However, I will use many of my tools throughout the session to keep the lee's body guessing. This is especially effective if they are not really ticklish at the jump. I can't tell you how many women I've sessioned with noticed that their ticklishness seems to jump when I go back to fingers after using saw a feather that didn't tickle them at all.

5) I have used bondage, a few times, I've tickled some women in it during video shoots - though I prefer unrestrained. If you want to use bondage, its important to realize what you are asking your lee to do. You are asking them to completely trust that you will respect their boundaries, and that you are competent with the bondage instrument. I humbly suggest if you are planning to tickle a vanilla lee for the first time, just refrain from using bondage, unless they express interest.

Secondly, warm them up before going ham, unless you've already discussed how the process is going to go. You can risk ruining the experience indefinitely if this warning isn't heeded.

6) Start slow with new to you lees. This requires some self control. Take your time, and mix in some rest periods. I've meet lers who only like tickling. That's fine, but go ahead and mix in a foot rub or some type of break from time to time. Really listen to make sure the lee is getting some deep breaths in. Check in regularly with them as well.

I'm sure there are other points I didn't hit, but I will in due time. I share these tips because what I want the pool of willing lees to burgeon. Many people who hate being tickle associate it with folks who did not respect their body autonomy. Others have very traumatic associations with tickling for similar reasons. My hope, is that together we can change that dynamic.

I only session with models who are open to being tickled. I've got a huge foot fetish, and have chose not to session with them if they hated being tickled. Why do I do that? I know that I can restrain my desire to partake in tickling. I don't session with them, because I do not want to remove that option in play. I've genuinely accidentally tickled model - after knowing they hated being tickled - and pretty much ruined the rest of the experience for myself because I was mentally racking myself over the coals for it.

Anyways, hope this helps

 

[plphpet]

Thank you for taking the time to put this out there. I am not a complete vanilla lee (was tickled for 15 yrs by my late husband), but I am a nervous lee because I am looking for a new ler and you are right trust about boundaries and just the tickling in general are big points for me. Being a lee with asthma I have to be careful and use safe words to be sure I am not pushed beyond my physical limitations.

I have had one "test" session with a new ler this week, and he was great with me. He made sure I was comfortable with everything being done, made sure I was ok with the tickling itself, and just talked with me through the session. He also went slow, and used just light tickling with his fingers only because we were just getting aquointed with each other, so he wanted to be sure I was ok.

Point 1 came into play. Usually on a scale of 1-10 my feet are a 12, but the other day I would say they were a 3, I barely felt ticklish at all at least until the very end when the ler went faster and a little more intensly on my feet, then they moved up to a 5. I think that is because I was a little nervous meeting the ler for the first time, even though we did talk a little over lunch and had been talking through emails before the meeting, I am a shy person when meeting new people in general so I am sure this played into the ticklishness being deminished. Point 3 is a big one for me, if the ler tells me what they are planning and respects the boundaries I put in place I do relax more and then the sensitivity to the tickling comes back to normal range again which for me can be a 3-10 depending on the area being tickled. Also point 6 starting out slow helps not only to build the trust for me, but also lets me get used to the lers fingers and tickling technique which also helps with being able to relax more. Every ler is going to be different, and I realize this so starting slow really does help.

Just wanted to put this out there for all the lers, these techniques listed above really do work with new lees, and if followed it will make for great sessions for you and the lee 🙂

 

[Soles_Scream]

Thank you for taking the time to put this out there. I am not a complete vanilla lee (was tickled for 15 yrs by my late husband), but I am a nervous lee because I am looking for a new ler and you are right trust about boundaries and just the tickling in general are big points for me. Being a lee with asthma I have to be careful and use safe words to be sure I am not pushed beyond my physical limitations.

I have had one "test" session with a new ler this week, and he was great with me. He made sure I was comfortable with everything being done, made sure I was ok with the tickling itself, and just talked with me through the session. He also went slow, and used just light tickling with his fingers only because we were just getting aquointed with each other, so he wanted to be sure I was ok.

Point 1 came into play. Usually on a scale of 1-10 my feet are a 12, but the other day I would say they were a 3, I barely felt ticklish at all at least until the very end when the ler went faster and a little more intensly on my feet, then they moved up to a 5. I think that is because I was a little nervous meeting the ler for the first time, even though we did talk a little over lunch and had been talking through emails before the meeting, I am a shy person when meeting new people in general so I am sure this played into the ticklishness being deminished. Point 3 is a big one for me, if the ler tells me what they are planning and respects the boundaries I put in place I do relax more and then the sensitivity to the tickling comes back to normal range again which for me can be a 3-10 depending on the area being tickled. Also point 6 starting out slow helps not only to build the trust for me, but also lets me get used to the lers fingers and tickling technique which also helps with being able to relax more. Every ler is going to be different, and I realize this so starting slow really does help.

Just wanted to put this out there for all the lers, these techniques listed above really do work with new lees, and if followed it will make for great sessions for you and the lee 🙂

It feels so good to hear this resonate with a lee. Thank you for your detailed feedback plphpet 🙂 I’m happy to hear that the ler your working with is respecting your boundaries as well.

One general point I failed to emphasis are that safe words, noises, gestures or what have you, should be MANDATORY (caps for emphasis). Just because safe protocol is agreed on doesn’t mean tickle torture cannot occur. Alternatively, this will increase likelihood of more play opportunities with said lee.

 

[BMoreTklr]

Well said Brother Soles_Scream. Often times, us ler's are so tickle starved, we fail to realize that someone allowing you to tie and tickle them is a rather intimate act and puts them in a very vulnerable and anxiety inducing position. Making sure they are full comfortable with you and the situation at hand, are paramount to having an enjoyable session. Some of us act like horny teenagers happy to have sex and just perform the act. Tickle Sessions are so much more than that, and my experiences have led me to the same conclusions that you've laid out with this post.