She has a reverse foot fetish

[Studious_Hustler]

A close friend of mine often puts her pretty feet near me and in vulnerable positions that I can't help reaching for, and over the years I've poked and touched her feet countless times. I always get a strong reaction, but it's not clearly ticklish- more of a scream/roar of rage. I never knew what to make of it, but the other day she told me that she has kind of "a reversal foot fetish." I didn't press her for details but I know that at the very least, she hates having her feet touched in any way. The terms she uses to describe it are reminiscent of a phobia.

Having lived my whole life with a foot fetish, this is hard for me to understand, but fascinating. I've known girls in the past who profess to "hate feet." I've read that F. Scott Fitzgerald hated his own feet, perhaps in connection with his belief that his penis was unimpressive (?). But what I don't understand is why my friend, and other girls who have similar issues, continue to paint their toenails, wear high heels, rarely wear socks, stick their bare feet in public view, etc., even while telling me they think they have "ugly feet." This doesn't seem comparable to Fitzgerald's story. Is this a uniquely female phenomenon? Any insight, ladies?

I can't help thinking that girls like this could never be sexually compatible with someone like me. In that regard, I guess "reverse foot fetish" is maybe an appropriate descriptor...

 

[MrTicklefeet]

My ex was something like that towards the end. When my fetish for feet began to develop, she just couldn't see it. Once while giving her a foot massage, I bent over and licked her foot. She recoiled in disgust, and said that was gross. However, she continued being barefoot around me, it just wasn't on her radar. She got to hogging the couch for herself while I sat in the rocker at the end while watching TV. Her size 12 feet propped up on the end, those yummy soles just taunting me. So near yet so far. Yet there wasn't a thought about what was going on, partly because of the negative reactions I'd get, I just didn't venture forward with opening up to her. It wasn't on her mind, but it certainly was on mine. We split shortly after that.

 

[fecil]

I've always found it funny that my wife's sister says "feet are gross" but she posts photos of her bare feet or feet in flip-flops on Facebook, and takes excellent care of her feet. She has even let me tickle them a couple of times, but still says that feet are "nasty."

 

[Studious_Hustler]

MrTicklefeet, what I wonder is, what is the difference between someone like your ex who just can't "see it," and someone like my friend who has what seems to me like an out-of-the-ordinary "reverse foot fetish?" I can understand simply not getting someone else's fetish - that applies to me in loads of situations - but women (and men?) who react to having their feet touched the way my friend does, don't seem normal.

I've always found it funny that my wife's sister says "feet are gross" but she posts photos of her bare feet or feet in flip-flops on Facebook, and takes excellent care of her feet.

Yes it's like a contradiction. Maybe I should just ask somebody who acts this way WHY they do...

 

[Jagermeistered]

It might be a form of rejection. Basically, she senses a foot fetish/infatuation - from you. And, she may not be interested in giving you what you want(a boner; followed by ejaculation). The "reverse"-fetish, should be a dead giveaway...

 

[Jagermeistered]

I've always found it funny that my wife's sister says "feet are gross" but she posts photos of her bare feet or feet in flip-flops on Facebook, and takes excellent care of her feet. She has even let me tickle them a couple of times, but still says that feet are "nasty."

Maybe, it is extrinsic(other people's feet), and not her own(intrinsic)?

 

[fecil]

Maybe, it is extrinsic(other people's feet), and not her own(intrinsic)?

Could be, but she's always made it a blanket statement. In fact, I have a letter my wife wrote me when we were dating where she mentions telling her sister about me rubbing her feet, and in quotes my wife said her sister's response was "Gross, feet are nasty." I would assume if she thought hers were ok her reaction wouldn't have been that strong.

 

[barefeetarebest]

A close friend of mine often puts her pretty feet near me and in vulnerable positions that I can't help reaching for, and over the years I've poked and touched her feet countless times. I always get a strong reaction, but it's not clearly ticklish- more of a scream/roar of rage. I never knew what to make of it, but the other day she told me that she has kind of "a reversal foot fetish." I didn't press her for details but I know that at the very least, she hates having her feet touched in any way. The terms she uses to describe it are reminiscent of a phobia.

Having lived my whole life with a foot fetish, this is hard for me to understand, but fascinating. I've known girls in the past who profess to "hate feet." I've read that F. Scott Fitzgerald hated his own feet, perhaps in connection with his belief that his penis was unimpressive (?). But what I don't understand is why my friend, and other girls who have similar issues, continue to paint their toenails, wear high heels, rarely wear socks, stick their bare feet in public view, etc., even while telling me they think they have "ugly feet." This doesn't seem comparable to Fitzgerald's story. Is this a uniquely female phenomenon? Any insight, ladies?

I can't help thinking that girls like this could never be sexually compatible with someone like me. In that regard, I guess "reverse foot fetish" is maybe an appropriate descriptor...

You make several exceptional points here, many questions i have wondered myself- as in the toenail painting, jewelry, tattoos, flip flops, etc... while they maintain that feet in general, or their own, are nasty. Well why do they attempt to draw the attention to them? Something I've struggled to understand forever.

And yes, the whole compatability thing as well. It's going to be a deal breaker for me because, like many of you, I've dealt with a difficult and less-than-accomodating partner before who would routinely ridicule, but willingly participated under protest or duress, complaining about it to boot. was told i have a "severe tickling fetish" (which although true shouldn't make me a bad person), and that it caused sexual compatability problems in the relationship.

 

[MrTicklefeet]

It could be not so much as to draw attention to them, but more of the mindset like makeup is all about. Trying to put on the best face. Trying to look their best. Everyone is not as obsessed with feet or have such a focused awareness as we do.
And Barefeetarebest, as per your signature, the current year is not in fact MMX, but MMXII.

 

[prestidigits]

A pedophobe?

 

[fecil]

Time for me to put up something besides words. Here is a photo, taken from my wife's sister's Facebook page. She took this photo three years ago, when she was 41. Her comment is something about this being the only photo you'll see of her on the beach.

 

[Studious_Hustler]

It might be a form of rejection.

That is definitely possible. Although if so, then why would she make such a point to tell me it was "her" problem, and that she "punched the last guy who touched her feet?" She has never put the emphasis on me, but rather on herself and other people in general.

MrTicklefeet, I think your theory of the "makeup mindset" and a lack of awareness is very good. It probably applies to many women - but does it apply to someone who admits to having a reverse foot fetish?