Should I bother trying to get my friend to tickle me?

[socktickler86]

I have a friend who I've always wished would unleash her evil side onto me in tickling form 😛. However, she's quite uptight! I mean super uptight! She's quite understanding (or possibly doesn't give a crap?) about things like this as I've told her about certain things like this before. I'm not sure I want to even bother telling her about this though. Is it possible some people are simply too uptight to do something so... light hearted as tickling someone?

 

[TheTickleMonster]

is she ticklish? because if she is, i'd suggest tickling the uptightness outta her, it might help her relax a little and tickle you 😛

 

[socktickler86]

She doesn't like to be touched! UPTIGHT. I haven't even dared try to find out if she's ticklish.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

She doesn't like to be touched! UPTIGHT. I haven't even dared try to find out if she's ticklish.

Ahhh, that kind of uptight... I hate having friends like that.. bc I'm a hugger, not just a tickler, so even if it's not tickling, but it's hugging and they don't like it, bleh.. lol.. totally annoying.

 

[socktickler86]

Yah I don't think it's a worthy cause. It's too hard to get tickled in this town 😛

 

[TheTickleMonster]

yeah, her lee's have it so hard, finding someone to tickle you, however us lers have problems with it too, it should be easy to just tickle random people... but eh.. lol

 

[love feet]

do not do it!.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

do not do it!.

probably the bet advise...

 

[rhiannon]

She doesn't like to be touched! UPTIGHT.

Have you considered that something may have happened to her in the past so she doesn't like to be touched? Very sensitive of you to call her uptight for it!

 

[ticklechambers]

This isn't just a matter of how uptight she is....

Does it matter to *you* if she tickles you or not?? How important is it that the tickle torture comes from her specifically?

I always say go for the up-front option. Ask her if she minds being tickled, touched and hugged- and if she does, ask why....

If she doesn't mind, then say "good. Now it's just a matter of who tickles who first." then wink 😛 hehe, or say something you feel comfortable with 😉

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

Warning!! Warning!!! Danger Will Robinson!!!!!!!

Other than hiring Andy for an "intervention", I agree that she should not be tickled by you. Does she show a "playful" side to you in other ways? If she is always serious do you know why? It sounds like tickling her could be something to really set her off.

 

[socktickler86]

Have you considered that something may have happened to her in the past so she doesn't like to be touched? Very sensitive of you to call her uptight for it!

She's my best friend, I think know her well enough to know when her actions are due to her past and when her actions are just her being her.

This isn't just a matter of how uptight she is....

Does it matter to *you* if she tickles you or not?? How important is it that the tickle torture comes from her specifically?

I always say go for the up-front option. Ask her if she minds being tickled, touched and hugged- and if she does, ask why....

If she doesn't mind, then say "good. Now it's just a matter of who tickles who first." then wink 😛 hehe, or say something you feel comfortable with 😉

She does have a problem being touched but ... and yes, I'm being serious... I'm pretty sure it's because she has a huuuuuuge problem with dirt and oil and whatever (not a germaphobe because it's not exactly germs she doesn't like to think about). She washes her hands like 20 times a day. That sure as hell doesn't prevent her from touching other people though.

Other than hiring Andy for an "intervention", I agree that she should not be tickled by you. Does she show a "playful" side to you in other ways? If she is always serious do you know why? It sounds like tickling her could be something to really set her off.

Eh, in a way she does but she also doesn't. She's kind of a bitch and LOVES hitting people! Literally, just walking up to you and punching you in the arm. She's pretty ghetto and has a rather skewed view of things. For example, saying that you care about someone? Weakness. Being sad? Weakness. One of those types.

Personally I don't have too much interest in tickling her, I wish she would tickle me! I mean... pff, if you think punching someone is fun... why can't I trade that in for tickling? 🙁. I've even told her about another little fetish I have and she was cool with it. She didn't want to participate but she didn't think any different of me. This one on the other hand, might be a little weirder. I've tried to drop hints to her to see if she has anything to say (joking about how me and my nephews would tie eachother up as kids, me trying to tickle my niece when she bugs me, etc) about ties and tickling.

 

[c7_assassin]

Nope.

If tickling is sexual, find someone you can be sexual with. Not your best friend.

 

[socktickler86]

Nope.

If tickling is sexual, find someone you can be sexual with. Not your best friend.

It's not for me. I'm not that dumb.

 

[Naughty Summer]

Oh I so hope you all have some fun! I can't wait to hear more.

Luv,
Summer

 

[ticklechambers]

It's not for me. I'm not that dumb.

Uhm...... You mean that you don't find tickling sexual? So why do you want to tickle her then?

If it's not sexual then there is not really any reason to be awkward about it. Just do it- if she tells you to stop- then stop.

I can't imagine why you'd hesitate or become devastated at rejection if you don't have a tickle fetish. Because as your best friend, if she says no to you... then it shouldn't make things awkward.

 

[rhiannon]

She washes her hands like 20 times a day.

She's pretty ghetto and has a rather skewed view of things. For example, saying that you care about someone? Weakness. Being sad? Weakness. One of those types.

Those two little pieces of information tell me enough already to believe something DID indeed happen to her.

She's my best friend, I think know her well enough to know when her actions are due to her past and when her actions are just her being her.

There is some stuff that can happen to you that you wouldn't even tell your best friend!

But if nothing happened to her and that's just the way she is, this little part again

She's pretty ghetto and has a rather skewed view of things. For example, saying that you care about someone? Weakness. Being sad? Weakness. One of those types.

makes me think you'll loose a couple of teeth if you try tickling her.

 

[socktickler86]

Those two little pieces of information tell me enough already to believe something DID indeed happen to her.

Oh, no no, something (infact, not just 1 incident) DID happen, she has a pretty bad past that she's told me all about. She's even explained how everything from her past affects her now. She's not secretive about it at all. So if there's some hidden agenda for her not wanting people to touch her, It would be a first.

As to the poster who commented on if it's not a sexual thing then why all the trouble... well, that is a somewhat good point. The thing is, we're both adults so I don't think I have to explain to someone on this kinda forum about how it is still something I can't just do.

I think the problem is that I'm quite the opposite of those people that can be total jerks or do something super inappropriate and just let go of it the next day. If she had a reaction that wasn't the best possible reaction, knowing me I'd see it a bad light for a month later haha. It's embarassing, ya know?

 

[rhiannon]

Oh, no no, something (infact, not just 1 incident) DID happen, she has a pretty bad past that she's told me all about.

Okay....and you don't think that is the reason or part of the reason why she doesn't like to be touched? You call her uptight? People with a bad past usually tend not to be too cuddly!

As to the poster who commented on if it's not a sexual thing then why all the trouble... well, that is a somewhat good point. The thing is, we're both adults so I don't think I have to explain to someone on this kinda forum about how it is still something I can't just do.

Well then just don't do it! 🙂

 

[socktickler86]

Okay....and you don't think that is the reason or part of the reason why she doesn't like to be touched? You call her uptight? People with a bad past usually tend not to be too cuddly!

No, as I have already said, it's not. She really does have this freaky hatred towards dirt and people getting the oil from their skin on her. I remember once she wanted to punch some girl for putting her feet (with shoes) up onto the back of a seat in our lecture hall. She went "can you believe that fucking bitch! what if someone sits there later!".

Come to think of it, I think I do remember once touching her shoulder while I was eating and she slapped my hand away and went "dont touch me! you'll get that grease all over me". And it wasn't exactly the greasiest food... though I think that habit of not wanting people to touch me while or just after eating may have rubbed off on me too...

Well then just don't do it! 🙂

But that is in direct conflict with me wanting her to tickle me!

 

[ticklechambers]

Dude, we're going around in circles on this topic. My last advice is just tell her you are interested in her tickling you. Just put it out there, tell HER how you feel. Explain it exactly as you have to us. Tell her you want to respect her feelings and there is no pressure, but you want to know where she stands on the matter. If she says she's fine with it, ask her to tickle you there and then.

Up front and direct will get you to the end of your question.

 

[rhiannon]

Dude, we're going around in circles on this topic. My last advice is just tell her you are interested in her tickling you. Just put it out there, tell HER how you feel. Explain it exactly as you have to us. Tell her you want to respect her feelings and there is no pressure, but you want to know where she stands on the matter. If she says she's fine with it, ask her to tickle you there and then.

Up front and direct will get you to the end of your question.

This. You're making far too big of a deal out of this.

 

[socktickler86]

This. You're making far too big of a deal out of this.

I suppose...

You all have some balls on you.

 

[rhiannon]

Dude, she's your friend! If you can't talk to her about it, then either you have an idea that it will go wrong - if you have that feeling, don't even try to do it! - or she just isn't that good of a friend and then you shouldn't try it at all!

 

[ticklechambers]

This. You're making far too big of a deal out of this.

No no, i'm just saying that it doesn't have to be complicated. If it's his best friend then he should just be direct about it. That was all i was getting at. He should communicate with her- i wouldn't say that's making a big deal.

Of course, this is totally up to him though. If he feels concerned about the consequences to the point that he would rather forget the whole thing, then certainly he should do just that.