Showing True Colours...

[PainTrain]

I've known a girl named "Amber" (made up name for privacy) ever since I was 9. She is my best friends sister, and I have never really known her on a "deep" level... Even so, based on her personality, and how she acted towards me, I always thought she was this loving, accepting person. She always makes an effort to make me feel better. Well, we all went out drinking last night, and she expressed that she not only disapproves of homosexuality, but she thinks I am weird, and that she would leave the room If I ever had a boyfriend with me. I was absolutely shocked and hurt by this. She is a fellow Christian, and somehow I doubt that she understands the teachings of Christ. It would seem that all she has learned is what her mother has taught her. I guess I just expected too much from her. I mean, I respect her right to believe whatever she likes, but I can't help but feel a deep sense of dissapointment. The only truth she seems to accept is her own.


Have you ever had an instance where someone showed thier "true colours" to you, when you least suspected it?

 

[nowayjose]

Don't bother about her. She's a narrowminded idiot. She won't be the first, nor the last of the kind you'll meet.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

One night, during a time in my life when I was not only not sure what the hell or who the hell I was, but was going through some serious legal problems as well, my mother showed me what a narcissistic, shallow, ignorant woman she really was at heart, and still is. That was all the way back in January 1985. I haven't had a serious, in-depth conversation with her about anything since, as regards me and my life. She did her utmost to make me believe that she was one person whom I could count on to understand me, or my travails; a person who would stand by me thick and thin. I found out that night that this only applied if I (or my sister, who, after a time, dealt with homosexuality by enthusiastically embracing it, for instance) didn't embarrass her in the process. Not long after that, I figured out what the hell I was...and I didn't give a shit how my mom felt about that or anything else.

You can learn to live with someone's true colors. However, you can deal with same on your own terms.

 

[MrMacphisto]

I used to attribute narrowmindedness to religion. Nowadays, I realize it goes far deeper. I've met plenty of religious people that were still openminded and plenty of people that were secular but very closeminded.

It would seem that this girl you mentioned is a stereotypical religious person in her homophobia. Thankfully, this is just a stereotype, and I wish you luck in avoiding others like her while still believing in what you do.

Nevertheless, I'd bet that we could each find something we're closeminded about....

 

[DannyMc]

The most loving things about people are the most important things to see and hold on to .