Strangers online Please Help Me!!!!!!!!!!!

[blackrosesvamp]

ok Well i recently meet this Girl named Amanda online through a chat room. and since me and her have Talked through msn messenger and emailed each other everynight very often infact. Turns out she is into tickling but she lives far away from me. so i COULD NOT call her because it would get added to my parents phone bill and i myself don't have a seprate phone line. plus i wouldn't wanna make charges to my parents phone. and when me and Amanda seem to talk on msn messenger and email we just seem to feel comfortable with each other. she's also been going through some stuff at home as of Late shes been telling me through email. since i email her back every night after we get off msn messenger with each other. But kinda in a way Wanna Snail Mail with this Amanda girl since we wouldn't be able to it through phone wise. But im just really really leery about people online. Plus i have NOT seen a picture of this amanda girl yet. Nor has she seen a picture of me yet. Im not saying every person online is out to get you and harm you because they are not....... But this day and age you just never know who your talking to onlnine now adays. i kinda wanna wait along time more till i get to know this Amanda Girl more and Finally see a real picture of her or two and finally when she see's a picture or two of me. But ever then thier is still no way to tell if this amanda Girl that o meant online is really who she claims to be? right? plus even if i did know this amanda Girl for along long time and we both did end up get comfortable with each other. and i did end up using Snail Mail (which i have never used for before by the way) i still would have to tell my parents whats been happening and what i have thought about doing. But my parents didn't have Internet back then! so they would be over protective of me and not wanting me to get hurt or something even worse of.

Am i like over re-acting here with this Amanda girl? i know there are Good people in the world but its just online it is hard to tell. What should i do? should i tell Amanda that we both should just stay really really good friends onlnine and thats it? No Snail Mail or nothnig like that because of safety reasons and issues?


Please read this whole thread and please think this over

Thank you everyone

 

[Limeoutsider]

I wouldnt think the pic thing is too big of a deal, as anyone can go to any web page and take a pic of someone and say that its them.

 

[tommytikl]

First of all, relax.
You guys seem to be having a great time just chatting and emailing..since you two live far apart you guys probably won't see each other to soon in real life...Exchange pictures.
Or by a web cam and have her buy one too...then you can web cam each other if you want..no hiding there. Web cams are really cheap and can easily be hidden from nosy parents 😉

Send her a letter...although I am really not sure why you want or need to send her one..
A stamp is 37 cents, your parents will never know you sent a letter.

Point is, enjoy your online friend, don't rush to the end of the relationship, let the relationship take it's course.

 

[Sadistictickler]

so... you're still in the "i wanna meet damnit!"-phase

you'll learn to accept that internet is nice for keeping contacts, but it isn't a way to get irl contacts with persons far away

 

[dskodj]

Well, have you talked to her and heard her voice? I will tell ya, it could be a guy if you havent! I speak from experience (not that I was going with the same ideas you have) but I had a friend online in another comunity I belong to. And it turned out..to make a long story short.. we had to talk at this one point reguarding a music project we were thinkin of collaberating in and thats when the "she" admitied that "she" was a he wanting to have a sex change! Not that it bothered me cause again, I wasnt wanting to go the rout of having a relationship or encounter with this person..but, they even went head and sent me a fake female pic which he confessed later was a friend of his. Me and this person are still online friends but the point is...unless you hear a voice or see a web cam live...theres no saying whats what..and music is a big difference from tickling..so my advise....don't jump the gun on nothing till you've had a talk on voice chat or telephone and seen a pic thats varifyable (spelling?)

DJ Jimmy M

 

[BigBrownEyes]

If you to want to call her...

You can get yourself a prepaid phone card. That way the charge won't show up on the bill. Just a suggestion...

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

the thing with online relationships....

People can present themselves in many different ways. So, your concerns do have some validity to them. They can tell you what gender they are, where they're from, what they look like and what they are/aren't looking for. But, short of being able to trace them and do a thorough check, you don't KNOW if they're telling the truth or not. Contrary to the wishful thinking many have voiced over the years, safety IS a valid concern. But, that shouldn't stop you from cautiously exploring things.

Of course, I'm saying all of this while being one of those for whom a long distance online relationship turned out very well. We chose to take it to the next step (using safety precautions in the beginning) and are now married. So, it's not impossible. But, there ARE ways to guard your safety, etc. while expanding your options. A few ideas follow....

1) Set up a personal mailbox that can be used for online contact, orders, etc. This guards your home address from being known while allowing communication, etc.

2) Get a track phone and use it when calling people. There's no way to trace it to you (without a court order to the company). You only pay for what you use. They're available at most WalMarts and that type of store. Other cell phones are cool too. But, a track phone is less likely to be traced.

3) If you ever decide to meet in person, DON'T do it at your home until you feel confident about the person. Meet at a restauraunt, club, etc. and limit the first encounter to conversation.

4) If you plan on play at any point, a hotel is a good option. BUT...have a security call set up with a friend. (See the articles in the tickle scene web site for details.)

There are plenty of ways you can continue to develop the relationship without putting yourself in harm's way. A few common sense steps can allow plenty of freedom while being safe. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Ann

 

[f/f]

it's online not real. get out more i have a freind (who is a male) who thought he would never get a girl and all that crap.. so we got out and went to a bday party at my friends house and he met someone there.. they are still together.

what i mean by this is that girls or guys online isn't anything.. get out more and quit worrying, i don't think "amanda girl" will hunt you down unless it's a 50 year old raper 😛

 

[blackrosesvamp]

it's online not real. get out more i have a freind (who is a male) who thought he would never get a girl and all that crap.. so we got out and went to a bday party at my friends house and he met someone there.. they are still together.

what i mean by this is that girls or guys online isn't anything.. get out more and quit worrying, i don't think "amanda girl" will hunt you down unless it's a 50 year old raper 😛

Thats Good for your friend. and Who says people online and on this website and even me don't get out more? We all Do!!!!!!!!!! so please don't act like we don't because we do. and My thread was not talking about having a relatonship like g/f b/f with amnada at all. i never said nothing about that

so point is from now on we'll just have fun and enjoy each other and our online friendship and become even greater friends online🙂 and if Something comes out of it great but if not then thats the way it was meant to be.

Thanks everybody that replyed to my thread you Guys helped me out alot.



tickle on

 

[Neutron]

I Agree With f/f..

Most of the people here, with a few exceptions, are in serious need of a real life.

You might ask yourself why you can't seem to connect with someone in real life, vice an image some (most likely a guy) is trying to portray to you. Try living in the real world, I've found it to be quite cool.

Tron

 

[TKpervert]

blackrose, grow up. you sound like you're about 13. forget making personal contacts on the internet. unless you''re trolling.

 

[blackrosesvamp]

blackrose, grow up. you sound like you're about 13. forget making personal contacts on the internet. unless you''re trolling.

Um TK i could really bust you up for thoses Comments you made. But i won't im kind enough not to. oh and also im 20 for your information. so no im not trolling