TB 2: A more indepth TMITuesday. Called.. Saturday Shenanigans.

[Deleted member 66627]

I couldn't think of a more creative name. Sue me. ​

These questions will involve a little bit of work on your part! Share whatever you feel comfortable with. You dont have to answer them all. I've broken them up into categories. Just have fun with it. 🙂


Love

- What are ten reasons someone would be happy to be in a relationship with me?
- Who are five people I admire for their ability to radiate and share love?
- What’s holding me back from opening my heart more fully?
- What are ten qualities I really value in my closest relationships?
- Am I willing to take risks and create more heartfelt connections with others? If not, why not? What am I willing to do this week?

Work

- What do I need to change or develop in myself to achieve the success I desire?
- What are my five greatest strengths at work?
- Who are two people I truly admire in business and why?
- What would I do differently at work if I knew I couldn’t fail or be criticized?
- What are two things that if I did consistently for the next month would really make a noticeable difference in my quest for greater success? Am I willing to commit to these positive action steps? If not, why not? If so, what specifically must I do this week?

Play

- What are ten things I really like to do?
- What are five activities I used to enjoy doing as a child that I wish I did today?
- How can I bring these childhood pleasures into my life today?
- Who are five playful partners or potential partners in my life today?
- What playful activities am I willing to initiate in soon?

Friendships

- Who are my most treasured friends and why?
- When do I feel most connected with others? When do I feel most disconnected?
- When I distance others what are the fears, resentments or other reasons behind this?
- What do I need to resolve or change about myself to have more fulfilling friendships?
- What can I do to create more meaningful connections with others?

Purpose/Spirituality

- At what times in my present life have I felt most passionate or alive?
- What does spirituality mean to me?
- What activities or personal experiences feel most meaningful to me?
- Which people do I admire for their strong sense of spirituality? How does their spirituality manifest itself?
- Do I want to create a more spiritual connection in my life? How would I achieve this?

Problems

- Looking back at my life, what are three problems from my past that have paved the way for positive growth and how did this occur?
- Choose three current problems in your life today. How can these problems be turned into opportunities for personal growth?
- Who are three people I feel handle problems effectively? How are they different from me?

Gratitude

- What are ten things I feel grateful for in my life right now?
- Which people would I like to thank for their help and support in my journey through life?
- Am I willing to spread more gratitude through my life by telling people how I feel?
- What are ten ways I can acknowledge myself along this journey?

 

[thetmfobserver]

Bored, are we, Jo?

Love

- What are ten reasons someone would be happy to be in a relationship with me?
With you, or with me? We'll say me.

1. I can cook.
2. I am not abusive.
3. I look OK
4. I am a good listener.
5. I have a steady job.
6. I have a supportive family
7. I enjoy long walks on the beach, short walks on the beach, and other activities that are beach related.
8. I am more than decent in bed.
9. I am strong, yet vulnerable.
10. I'm modest. 😉


- Who are five people I admire for their ability to radiate and share love?

My friend Jeff
My mom
My wife
My mother in law
My coworker.


- What’s holding me back from opening my heart more fully?

My ribs. Ba dum bum.


- What are ten qualities I really value in my closest relationships?

1. Honesty
2. Trust
3. Respect
4. Sense of humor
5. Intelligence
6. Responsibility
7. Not taking themselves too seriously
8. Kindness
9. Good memory
10. Shared interests.


- Am I willing to take risks and create more heartfelt connections with others? If not, why not? What am I willing to do this week?

Yes, I think I go out of my way to connect with the people I care about. If anything is holding me back, it's my fear of diving in too deeply.



Work

- What do I need to change or develop in myself to achieve the success I desire?

Stronger work habits, and the desire to work when I can easily relax.


- What are my five greatest strengths at work?

1. Flexibility
2. Experience in what I do.
3. Sense of humor
4. Ability to connect with people
5. Technological skills.


- Who are two people I truly admire in business and why?

My new boss is pretty darn awesome. I admire his willingness to come in and try to shake things up. I also admire my mentor teacher, who has been doing an amazing job for 30+ years.


- What would I do differently at work if I knew I couldn’t fail or be criticized?

I would let the students be more creative and less focused on testing.


- What are two things that if I did consistently for the next month would really make a noticeable difference in my quest for greater success? Am I willing to commit to these positive action steps? If not, why not? If so, what specifically must I do this week?

Dedicated my full effort to organization and planning. I need to start Tuesday, instead of letting things accumulate.


Play

- What are ten things I really like to do?

1. Cook
2. Read
3. Video games
4. Asking and answering questions
5. Silly Stuff Forum
6. Watch baseball
7. Converse with people
8. Go out to eat
9. Watch YouTube clips
10. Make lists.


- What are five activities I used to enjoy doing as a child that I wish I did today?

Play with action figures
Playing board games by myself
Play outside
Daydream
Play sports


- How can I bring these childhood pleasures into my life today?

Spend more time outside daydreaming about action figures playing sports


- Who are five playful partners or potential partners in my life today?

My wife
Four of my friends


- What playful activities am I willing to initiate in soon?

Frisbee golf
Loaded Questions
Smackdown Vs Raw 2011



Friendships

- Who are my most treasured friends and why?

My summer work friends. There is a level of acceptance there that can not be matched elsewhere.


- When do I feel most connected with others? When do I feel most disconnected?

I feel most connected to others when we're being goofy and talking. I feel disconnected when we fall out of contact with each other.


- When I distance others what are the fears, resentments or other reasons behind this?

Fear of conflict. Resentment of past experiences and behaviors. Realizing that a specific friendship has ended, and being unsure of how to go about that process.


- What do I need to resolve or change about myself to have more fulfilling friendships?

Be more willing to do evening activities. Being an old man is rough.


- What can I do to create more meaningful connections with others?

Initiate contact.



Purpose/Spirituality

- At what times in my present life have I felt most passionate or alive?

Teaching. When you have a lesson that is really connecting with students, there's an energy there that's indescribable.


- What does spirituality mean to me?

A feeling of contentedness with one's place in the cosmos.


- What activities or personal experiences feel most meaningful to me?

Interpersonal connections.


- Which people do I admire for their strong sense of spirituality? How does their spirituality manifest itself?

I admire the people who are steadfast in their beliefs, whatever they may be, yet are accepting of others and their beliefs as well. Does that make sense?


- Do I want to create a more spiritual connection in my life? How would I achieve this?

I think I'm a pretty centered individual. If I could change anything, I would give myself more reflection time, and possibly do some more writing that lasts longer than 60 seconds. *Blog plug!*


Problems

- Looking back at my life, what are three problems from my past that have paved the way for positive growth and how did this occur?

1. Overcoming my rescuer personality.
2. Dealing with my "bedroom" issues.
3. Finding a balance between friendship and dependency.


- Choose three current problems in your life today. How can these problems be turned into opportunities for personal growth?

1. Getting into better shape. A better diet and exercise regimen will help me in ways innumerous.
2. Continuing to work on my finances. No explanation needed.
3. Being more organized at work. Also no explanation needed.


- Who are three people I feel handle problems effectively? How are they different from me?

My boss seeks positive solutions at all times. I get frustrated and contemplate giving up.
My wife allows herself to be upset, then moves on. I let things fester.
My mom can separate her professional life from her personal. I can not, as of yet.



Gratitude

- What are ten things I feel grateful for in my life right now?

My wife
My job
My family
My friends
My financial security
My health
My car
My coworkers
My computer
My wife (she deserves 2 mentions)


- Which people would I like to thank for their help and support in my journey through life?

See above.


- Am I willing to spread more gratitude through my life by telling people how I feel?

As long as it doesn't wind up sounding like an after school special.


- What are ten ways I can acknowledge myself along this journey?

This sounds like an after school special.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

- What are ten ways I can acknowledge myself along this journey?

This sounds like an after school special.

 

[Bohemianne]

Love

- What are ten reasons someone would be happy to be in a relationship with me?
Yikes. No way, I am 10x pain in the “art”

- Who are five people I admire for their ability to radiate and share love?
Art. 5 of that.

- What’s holding me back from opening my heart more fully?
It’s open and oozing ... what?

- What are ten qualities I really value in my closest relationships?
Tolerance

- Am I willing to take risks and create more heartfelt connections with others? If not, why not? What am I willing to do this week?
Uh… I am posting now.

Work

- What do I need to change or develop in myself to achieve the success I desire?
I always feel I’m there.

- What are my five greatest strengths at work?
Burning desire

- Who are two people I truly admire in business and why?
The topnotch ethical ones.

- What would I do differently at work if I knew I couldn’t fail or be criticized?
Analyze things further like a crab.

- What are two things that if I did consistently for the next month would really make a noticeable difference in my quest for greater success? Am I willing to commit to these positive action steps? If not, why not? If so, what specifically must I do this week?
Shit… some relevant corrections! *pant-pant*

Play

- What are ten things I really like to do?
A-R-T + technical enhancers

- What are five activities I used to enjoy doing as a child that I wish I did today?
I am always doing them til now

- How can I bring these childhood pleasures into my life today?
See above.

- Who are five playful partners or potential partners in my life today?
The one.

- What playful activities am I willing to initiate in soon?
Lately...vanillium.

Friendships

- Who are my most treasured friends and why?
Casually, those who relate to my interest... It’s easier that way.

- When do I feel most connected with others? When do I feel most disconnected?
I always keep my space for reason.

- When I distance others what are the fears, resentments or other reasons behind this?
Time constraints is always the factor.

- What do I need to resolve or change about myself to have more fulfilling friendships?
None.

- What can I do to create more meaningful connections with others?
None. It is "as is where is".

Purpose/Spirituality

- At what times in my present life have I felt most passionate or alive?
Artwise, 98%

- What does spirituality mean to me?
The no need to resolve unresolved thing.

- What activities or personal experiences feel most meaningful to me?
The finish lines

- Which people do I admire for their strong sense of spirituality? How does their spirituality manifest itself?
My sole companion

- Do I want to create a more spiritual connection in my life? How would I achieve this?
N/A

Problems

- Looking back at my life, what are three problems from my past that have paved the way for positive growth and how did this occur?
The problems only made me move on without stopping…

- Choose three current problems in your life today. How can these problems be turned into opportunities for personal growth?
They are self-resolving now, seriously, by what I do.

- Who are three people I feel handle problems effectively? How are they different from me?
Those in my closest circle, including me…

Gratitude

- What are ten things I feel grateful for in my life right now?
Being crazily healthy

- Which people would I like to thank for their help and support in my journey through life?
Them in RL and the rest...

- Am I willing to spread more gratitude through my life by telling people how I feel?
No need

- What are ten ways I can acknowledge myself along this journey?
Giving back, hopefully…

 

[Snail Shell]

Whatever happened to your vow to answer your own questions on these things Jo? Just a constructive criticism more than anything, but folks might be more prone to answering personal questions like the ones above, or in this past weeks' TMI Tuesday, if the person asking were to answer them herself. Just a thought.

SS

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Whatever happened to your vow to answer your own questions on these things Jo? Just a constructive criticism more than anything, but folks might be more prone to answering personal questions like the ones above, or in this past weeks' TMI Tuesday, if the person asking were to answer them herself. Just a thought.

SS

You're not the first person to broach this w/me.. & I still dont understand why it matters if I answer them or not, but, if it helps the thread, then alright. 🙂

Love​

- What are ten reasons someone would be happy to be in a relationship with me?

- I do my best to dedicate as much of my energy as possible into making them happy.

- Im a decent communicator.

- I give pretty amazing massages.

- I do my best to support any endeavor or desire.

- Who are five people I admire for their ability to radiate and share love?

- My Madre.

- Kraziedog.

- Amanda.

- Lyz.

- Bella.

- Gin.

- What’s holding me back from opening my heart more fully?

Getting hurt. Or hurting someone else w/my insecurities and baggage.

- What are ten qualities I really value in my closest relationships?

- Trust.

- Communication.

- The value of 'giving with no price tag'. (simply meaning: Someone does something for you, either materialistically or otherwise, and you aren't expected by them to have to have it thrown back in your face if there's an issue or argument)

- The ability to progress. (meaning: a relationship that grows in time.)

- Acknowledgment of each others personal quirks and acceptance of them.

- Non-judgement.

- Sense of humor.

- The ability to have a huge-ass knock down argument.. but know that in the end, you still love them and them you.

- Am I willing to take risks and create more heartfelt connections with others? If not, why not? What am I willing to do this week?

Yes. I've not been able to really spend time for myself in gaining and developing solid friendships due to my past, but I'm working to fix that now.

Work​

- What do I need to change or develop in myself to achieve the success I desire?

I have a tendency to push projects until their due-date. Then I'm running around like crazy trying to get them finished. I also need to become more of a note-taker. I forget things a LOT.

Play​

- What are ten things I really like to do?

- Spend time w/Spawn.
- Read.
- Write.
- Find fun things on the interwebs to share with my friends.
- On-line "window shopping". 😀
- Cooking/Baking.
- Grapple.
- Have conversations about.. well.. anything.
- Learn new web/graphic designs and apply them.
- Cleaning.

- What are five activities I used to enjoy doing as a child that I wish I did today?

lol. I could technically skip this one.. as I really am still a child in a lot of ways.. & I also have one. So I get to do lots of 'kid' stuff.

- Who are five playful partners or potential partners in my life today?

- Blowjob.

- What playful activities am I willing to initiate in soon?

- Honestly.. i'm not sure.

Friendships​

- Who are my most treasured friends and why?

I'm in a growing phase right now. -- Meaning: I have the typical "list" of friends I have known for years and cherish them to death.. but I also am gaining new friends and growing to value them as well.

My reasons for valuing them can easily be answered by viewing the list of 'qualities i value in a relationship/friendship'. Because they all, in their own way, fit that bill. 🙂

- When do I feel most connected with others? When do I feel most disconnected?

Connected: Anytime we get the chance to talk or catch up. Even if its an argument or mis-understanding, theres still connection taking place.

Disconnected: When I'm struggling with my own personal demons. I haven't been able to figure out a proper method of coping with that.. so sometimes I kinda disappear. I might be present on forum, facebook or other areas.. but I'm not really.. there. It's kind of hard to explain.

- When I distance others what are the fears, resentments or other reasons behind this?

Me blaming myself or being angry at myself for something. I'm also a huge worrier.. but again.. there's back history to that, that I don't want to bore anyone with right now. LOL

- What do I need to resolve or change about myself to have more fulfilling friendships?

I need to acknowledge that I am a decent person and worth having around.

- What can I do to create more meaningful connections with others?

Slow down.

Acknowledge that they don't always operate under the same methods I do. And accept that.

Purpose/Spirituality​

- At what times in my present life have I felt most passionate or alive?

- Whenever I fall into an idea for a story.

- When I love.

- When I cry.

- When I'm angry.

- When I'm happy.

- My emotions aren't half-assed. I love just as hard as I have the Derps. Both bring an element of 'passion'. And once my eyes are dry, there is a huge feeling of release.. and a pretty solid centering, that helps me think and process things better. I've been hard-wired that crying is a weakness.. so I somehow learned to not do it.. almost ever. So when I do manage to; it's a pretty big deal.

- What does spirituality mean to me?

Pulling experiences from life and breaking them down. Applying bits and pieces of negative and positive to pave the way for the person I want to be.

Learning from others of their thoughts and beliefs.. and seeing how that would benefit myself in handling things differently. Thus making me a stronger person.

Not allowing anyone to tell me how I am to live my life.. or what I should or shouldn't do. Refusing to be restricted in any manner.. from creatively to friendship-wise.

Not being afraid to show a few weaknesses.

Acknowledging my strengths and weaknesses.

Ridding my life of anyone or anything that is detrimental to my personal growth.

Loving myself as much as I love those close to me.

- What activities or personal experiences feel most meaningful to me?

- Sharing fears or insecurities.. & not worry about being judged.

- Finding something that I know a friend of mine would absolutely love and being able to give it to them.

- Some elements of Play.

- Sex.

- Do I want to create a more spiritual connection in my life? How would I achieve this?

Any positive connection.. in a way.. is a Spiritual one. So, yes. Achieving it has already happened many times over.

Problems​

- Looking back at my life, what are three problems from my past that have paved the way for positive growth and how did this occur?

My Divorce.

- Choose three current problems in your life today. How can these problems be turned into opportunities for personal growth?

My insecurities. -- They can be altered for personal growth by being able to talk about them and realize that for the most part, I'm being a fucking idiot.

- Who are three people I feel handle problems effectively? How are they different from me?

Lily - She has a firm grasp of what she wants and how she wants it done.

Lyz - Patience with the ability to not be afraid to tell someone to GFThemselves. LOL

Jeff - He analyzes every angle of a problem and starts from the beginning to come to a conclusion.


They are different from me because although I work very hard to get an issue rectified (heh) as quickly as possible- I'm also just as fast to not think it through adequately .. & if the problem involves something I've done or caused.. then I'm thrice as fast to completely throw myself under the bus.

Gratitude​

- What are ten things I feel grateful for in my life right now?

- Spawn.
- My friends.
- Blowjob.
- My Madre.
- My step-father.
- Everyone being in suitable health, for the most part.
- My health.
- Mr. Bojangles.
- This forum.
- Happiness.

- Which people would I like to thank for their help and support in my journey through life?

Every single person who has entered my life.. whether to stay for as long as possible.. or just in passing.

- Am I willing to spread more gratitude through my life by telling people how I feel?

I believe so, yes. And I try to as much as possible.

- What are ten ways I can acknowledge myself along this journey?

Break the bullshit lack of self-worth and I think I can flourish pretty well.

 

[goddess_nemesis]

Love​

- What are ten reasons someone would be happy to be in a relationship with me?

1. I'm open-minded about trying new things within reason.
2. I'm a good listener.
3. I'm pretty much drama-free.
4. I'm loyal.
5. I'm close to my family.

- Who are five people I admire for their ability to radiate and share love?

My mom, my aunt, my friend Jackie

- What’s holding me back from opening my heart more fully?

Fear of getting hurt and rejected.

- What are ten qualities I really value in my closest relationships?

1. Trust
2. Loyalty
3. Sense of humor
4. Respect
5. Open-minded
6. Independence
7. Communication
8. Intelligence
9. Acceptance
10. Kindness

Work​

- What are my five greatest strengths at work?

1. Hard worker
2. Always on time
3. Good with people

- Who are two people I truly admire in business and why?

My boss because she's the best boss anyone could ask for. She treats her employees with respect and we give her our best. I hope to be as good of a boss as she is.

Play​

- What are ten things I really like to do?

1. Read
2. Hang out with friends
3. Write
4. Collect swords, daggers, knives

Friendships​

- Who are my most treasured friends and why?

My current friends that I've been hanging out with. They include me, which I've never had anyone really do for me.

- When do I feel most connected with others? When do I feel most disconnected?

If I'm having fun or not.

Purpose/Spirituality​

- What does spirituality mean to me?

It means a sense of peace that it gives to me.

Gratitude​

- What are ten things I feel grateful for in my life right now?

1. My family
2. My friends
3. My job
4. My faith

- Which people would I like to thank for their help and support in my journey through life?

My parents.

 

[chicago]

Love

- What are ten reasons someone would be happy to be in a relationship with me?

-I don't know if I can come up with three, let alone ten.

- What’s holding me back from opening my heart more fully?

-Fear of someone kicking me in it.

- What are ten qualities I really value in my closest relationships?

-Loyalty
-Kindness
-Understanding
-Sense of Humor
-Intelligence
-Honesty
-Compassion
-Open Minded
-Trust
-Reliability

Work

- What do I need to change or develop in myself to achieve the success I desire?

-I need to go back to school, probably be more of a people-person, know someone, or sell my soul.

- What are my five greatest strengths at work?

-Hard working, fun personality, can-do attitude, punctual, reliable. At least, that's what my boss told me.

- Who are two people I truly admire in business and why?

-Uh, no one. Business is really not all that interesting to me.

- What would I do differently at work if I knew I couldn’t fail or be criticized?

-If I couldn't fail or be criticized, I'd stop putting on the cheerful act. I fucking hate that shit.

- What are two things that if I did consistently for the next month would really make a noticeable difference in my quest for greater success? Am I willing to commit to these positive action steps? If not, why not? If so, what specifically must I do this week?

-What is this? A self-help book?

Play

- What are ten things I really like to do?

-Reading
-Writing
-Playing guitar
-Smoking
-Sleeping
-Listening to music
-Watchin movies
-Eating

- What are five activities I used to enjoy doing as a child that I wish I did today?

-I just miss being more outgoing and not so self-conscious all the time. Kids don't worry about how they look or come across to other people, really.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Love

- What are ten reasons someone would be happy to be in a relationship with me?
1.) I'm honest, sometimes to a fault.
2.) I'm sincere.
3.) I always have the best intentions, even when I say something stupid or fuck something up.
4.) I'm not jealous or possessive.
5.) I'm pretty decent at communication.
6.) I'm patient and understanding, so when YOU say something stupid or fuck something up I won't schiz out on you.
7.) I'm a good listener.
8.) I have a pretty great sense of humor and don't take dumb shit too seriously.
9.) I love to make others feel good.
10.) I'm pretty laid back and flexible about most things.

- Who are five people I admire for their ability to radiate and share love?
The only person I can think of who really impresses me in this way in Gin. She is so open and expressive, and just loves to make people feel loved. It's so beautiful.

- What’s holding me back from opening my heart more fully?
I think most people are great on the surface and at arm's length, but if you let them really in they're gonna derp up your life with dishonesty, drama, selfishness, etc, and I just don't have any time or desire to have that crap in my life. So I keep a little bit of distance between me and most people.

- What are ten qualities I really value in my closest relationships?
1.) Trust: not only knowing that they're going to be honest with me, but that I can be honest with them and not wonder who else is going to hear about it.
2.) Communication: being able to talk about things whether they're funny, upsetting, embarrassing, emotional, difficult or whatever else.
3.) Affection: being able to express just how much we mean to each other whether it's through words or actions
4.) Independence: understanding that needing space is not necessarily indicative of a problem in the relationship. Everyone should be their own person with their own set of needs, interests, desires and aversions and not everything needs to be done together.
5.) Acceptance: We've all got quirks, weird habits and flaws. Some may change in time, some will never change.
6.) Intelligence: I don't care if you're bad at math, can't spell, or you have a limited vocabulary, but the ability to have a decent, stimulating conversation is pretty important.
7.) Tolerance: being able to respectfully disagree when we don't share the same view on something as simple as music and movies, religion and politics, or even other people.
8.) Silliness: kinda self-explanatory. Don't take things too seriously, and don't feel like you're too cool to act like a derpy-derp. I like to know that I can act like a stupid asshole and say retarded things, and you won't judge me because you will also be acting like a stupid asshole and saying retarded things.
9.) Reciprocity: I want you make you happy, and I want you to want to make me happy. I want to make you feel good, and I want you to want to make me feel good. I want to know all about you, and I want you to want to know all about me. I want to cheer you up when you're sad, and I want you to want to cheer me up when I'm sad. I ain't fallin' for a One-Sided Love Affair. 😛
10.) I don't really know a word for it, (see, this is why I don't mind a limited vocabulary ) but I love when my friends really *know* me. They take the time to learn about me and figure me out, so that they end up being able to explain me to me when I don't know what the fuck I'm doing or why. They learn my likes and dislikes and wishes and pet peeves, so that if someone says, "Hey, let's do this to/for/with Lyz," the people who know me best can say, "She'll love/hate/be embarrassed by that," and be right 🙂


- Am I willing to take risks and create more heartfelt connections with others? If not, why not? What am I willing to do this week?
I am, but they're very calculated risks. I am slow to create strong bonds and connections with people, so if they're willing to wait around while I get comfortable, great. If not

Work

- What do I need to change or develop in myself to achieve the success I desire?
I need to stop being such a procrastinating asshole. I put my shit off until the very last second, and sometimes even more.

- What are my five greatest strengths at work?
1.) I'm pretty good at reading people, which allows me to figure out what is the most effective way to communicate with them.
2.) I sincerely care about the people I work with, and want what's best for them. It's not just a paycheck to me.
3.) I have the ability to tactfully and respectfully get my point across. This comes in handy when dealing with families.
4.) I have a background in mental health, which is like gold in this job. Not many people do.
5.) I strike a pretty good balance between supporting the people I work with and challenging them.

- Who are two people I truly admire in business and why?
I can't really think of anyone I admire in business. I don't really know shit about business, so I guess I'd give a thumbs up to people who do.

- What would I do differently at work if I knew I couldn’t fail or be criticized?
I wouldn't really do anything differently. I hesitate giving my opinion sometimes, because I'm the newest and the youngest on my team and I don't want to sound like a snotty know-it-all, but I always end up giving it, and it's always taken well. I might not hesitate as much, but the overall outcome wouldn't change.

- What are two things that if I did consistently for the next month would really make a noticeable difference in my quest for greater success? Am I willing to commit to these positive action steps? If not, why not? If so, what specifically must I do this week?
Again, the only thing I'd really like to change is my procrastination. I'm pretty happy with my performance otherwise.

Play

- What are ten things I really like to do?
1.) Read
2.) Watch movies
3.) Be outside, whether it's watching a thunderstorm, playing in the rain, sitting in a park, whatever.
4.) Drive & listen to music
5.) Drink with friends
6.) Play games
7.) Color (don't judge me)
8.) Crafty stuff like scrapbooking and Vision Board-ing
9.) Take pictures
10.) Talk/Discuss/Ask questions/Bond

- What are five activities I used to enjoy doing as a child that I wish I did today?
I guess being outside. Even though I listed it in the previous question as something I like to do, it's not something I actually *do* as often as I'd like. When I was a kid I was ALWAYS outside. Now, not as much as I'd like. That's really the only thing I can think of. Otherwise, I haven't changed much since I was a kid LOL

- How can I bring these childhood pleasures into my life today?
By...doing it.

- Who are five playful partners or potential partners in my life today?
My IFD+Rhino and my siblings - that's 6 😀

- What playful activities am I willing to initiate in soon?
We're having a Labor Day cookout/Garden Party hosted by my little niece/birthday celebration for my baby sister tomorrow. That should be full of fun activities.

Friendships

- Who are my most treasured friends and why?
I have vanilla friends who I've known for over 20 years. They'll always be very special to me, if for no other reason than they've been with me for so long. When think about my childhood and growing up, they're the ones who are going to be in basically every memory. One in particular has stayed close with me and knows all about this crazy kink stuff, accepts it, asks questions about it, and is eager to meet the friends I've made here, and it means the world to me.

That said, the relationship I have with IFD+Rhino is like nothing I have ever experienced. It amazes me that I picked these three incredible people to be close to, and not only did they pick me back, but they all ended up picking eachother, as well. I have never felt so perfect as when I'm with them all, and so lucky to have found such an beautiful group of people who are so different on the surface, but so similar at the core. They personify everything that I value in friendships.

- When do I feel most connected with others? When do I feel most disconnected?
Fet-wise, I feel most connected with someone during/after a session. The more intense the session the more intense the bond I feel, which is part of the reason I absolutely DESPISE interrupted sessions/aftercare. It completely fucks that up and will put you on my shit-list faster than you can blink. Otherwise, I feel connected with people when we can share something, particularly music that we both enjoy or that means something to both of us. I feel most disconnected from people when things in one of our lives are off-center, causing our relationship to feel a little off-center. I don't like it because it's not something super obvious that I can really articulate, so I often feel like I can't talk to them about it because it would just sound like, "I feel like something isn't right with us, but I have no explanation for why I feel that way, no example of your behavior that's made me feel that way, or really any reason why I should feel that way." Kinda hard to work with

- When I distance others what are the fears, resentments or other reasons behind this?
For whatever reason I feel like there is a chance, big or small, that that person will bring bullshit into my life that I don't need - pain, drama, or just annoyance.

- What do I need to resolve or change about myself to have more fulfilling friendships?
I don't feel like I need to change anything about myself. I'm very happy with the friendships that I have, and I feel more fulfilled by them than I ever thought possible. Changing the way I go about relationships now would only mean lowering my standards and letting in people who are going to derp up my life. Do not want.

- What can I do to create more meaningful connections with others?
See above.


Ugh - cannot do moar. Maybe I'll finish another day.

Excellent questions, Jo.

 

[TropicThunder]

Love

- What are ten reasons someone would be happy to be in a relationship with me?

1) I care. Maybe too much. I care about the small stuff. I always want to know how your day went and how you’re feeling.
2) I enjoy company. Even if it’s just sitting in silence together. I’m fun to be bored with.
3) I’m happy for the most part, and enjoy sharing that.
4) Anyone who’s with me will always have the guarantee to be well fed.
5) I’m pretty easy going. And I’m relatively good at discussing things and working out problems.
6) I avoid drama like the plague. I do my best, at least.
7) I’m really, really good and owning up to my own mistakes and problems.
8) I have no trouble accommodating.
9) I don’t get jealous.
10) Bedroom antics.

- Who are five people I admire for their ability to radiate and share love?

My grandfather would be one. While he had many flaws, he worked so hard to keep my family together and to keep me and my siblings well cared for. We were always poor, but we barely noticed because he did his best to provide. I learned so many great lessons from him about love and respect. He raised me from birth, and was a father to me. Losing him was the most crushing moment of my life.

- What’s holding me back from opening my heart more fully?

If anything, I may need to work on closing it up a bit. Or maybe just have a better understanding of what the heart desires.

- What are ten qualities I really value in my closest relationships?

Right now it’s hard to say because so much has changed. My closest relationships right now are my boyfriend and my son. I have friends in my life, but a lot of them are far away, and the ones that do live here in the city are people I’m not particularly close with. Not enough to be fall under that category.

Obviously the big things to consider would be trust, reliability, and above all, acceptance.

- Am I willing to take risks and create more heartfelt connections with others? If not, why not? What am I willing to do this week?

I try, but I can be incredibly shy, and I often can’t find ways to start conversations without sounding stupid. I’ve observed lots people who I know I could probably be really good friends with, but something always holds me back from even trying. For me to actually create the connections I want, I have to bite the bullet and step up and talk, rather than waiting for those I want to be friends with to come to me. Will this happen anytime soon? Who knows…


Work

- What do I need to change or develop in myself to achieve the success I desire?

Going back to work would be a great start. I need to get back to grindstone. This month is it for me. I’m going back to work.

- What are my five greatest strengths at work?

My people skills – Customer Service. What can I say?
My management skills – I’m good at working with people to help accomplish our goals. I can deal with irresponsible employees and slackers.
Perseverance – I can’t work well unless I have a goal to work towards. Otherwise I get bored and depressed.
Organization. – I’m more organized in my place of work than I ever am at home. When I’m in the workplace, I’m meticulous.
I don’t complain – I noticed that this one thing really helped me get ahead at my last job, where I worked for three years. I never complained about my work, my wage, my co workers or my boss.

- Who are two people I truly admire in business and why?

Couldn’t say.

- What would I do differently at work if I knew I couldn’t fail or be criticized?

Like I said, I need to get back into the grindstone.

- What are two things that if I did consistently for the next month would really make a noticeable difference in my quest for greater success? Am I willing to commit to these positive action steps? If not, why not? If so, what specifically must I do this week?

I’ll get the job first, then let you know.

Play

- What are ten things I really like to do?

Reading.
Writing.
Drawing.
Painting.
Coloring (Like Skip said. There’s a reason why they make adult coloring books!)
Listening to my ipod and dancing like an idiot
Spending time with friends. (It doesn’t happen as often as I’d like)
Walking. I love doing that. Don’t get out enough.
Movies.
Cooking – passion!


- What are five activities I used to enjoy doing as a child that I wish I did today?

Swimming. I miss that. I used to be a swimmer and a junior lifeguard. Kept me in shape, and gave me something to work towards. I can’t really think of any more. I have a two year old, so I get to experience the things that he likes, and I’ve got years left to go.

- How can I bring these childhood pleasures into my life today?

By biting the bullet and just doing it, instead of sitting around and feeling nostalgic and sorry for myself.

- Who are five playful partners or potential partners in my life today?

I can’t think of five. I can think of maybe two.

- What playful activities am I willing to initiate in soon?

Hard to say. These days my activities are directed by the two year old.

Friendships

- Who are my most treasured friends and why?

SnailShell
BigDogg
filthyweasel

Right now my most treasured friends are the ones who are there. I’m not exactly having the easiest time in my life, and I have a hard time reaching out. They don’t even have to discuss my issues with me; I often just need someone to chat with to be reminded that I’m not alone. That’s usually all it takes to snap me out of my reverie. I have friends who help me just by talking to me.

One of my most cherished friends is also my boyfriend. Words cannot express how much he means to me even as a friend, because he’s gone through such lengths that no one has ever gone for me before. My own blood kin have never helped me, understood me, or cared for me more than he has.


- When do I feel most connected with others? When do I feel most disconnected?

When I don’t feel awkward.

- When I distance others what are the fears, resentments or other reasons behind this?

I try not to distance others, unless they're toxic for me. I don’t distance people, but I don’t exactly engage either.

- What do I need to resolve or change about myself to have more fulfilling friendships?

I need to start talking. I know I can be social once I get going, its just that leap that I need to take to get there. I need to actually make friends here in the city too. I need to build friendships here so I have someone to call and hang out with when I’m feeling like crap, or just need to socialize. Or even just someone to play video games with. I need face to face time. I don’t have that here, and I miss it. I need it.

- What can I do to create more meaningful connections with others?

Pretty much the same as above.

Purpose/Spirituality

- At what times in my present life have I felt most passionate or alive?

Probably NEST, and when friends were visiting in July. When I’m with people I care about, and we’re having an amazing time, even if we’re not doing anything spectacular.

- What does spirituality mean to me?

Anything that you can take comfort or solace in, and be at peace with yourself.

- What activities or personal experiences feel most meaningful to me?

Any time that is spent with my son. Watching him grow.

- Which people do I admire for their strong sense of spirituality? How does their spirituality manifest itself?

I don’t really know anyone. I know too many people who confuse “spirituality” with “religious nonsense” and I’ve seen too much of that nonsense to admire anyone for it.

- Do I want to create a more spiritual connection in my life? How would I achieve this?

I need to work on my beliefs and study them more.

Problems

- Looking back at my life, what are three problems from my past that have paved the way for positive growth and how did this occur?

Discovering secrets from my family’s past that led me to believe that things weren’t always as peachy as I’d assumed.

Seeing my family fall apart.

My last relationship, and just getting out of it.

- Choose three current problems in your life today. How can these problems be turned into opportunities for personal growth?

My biggest problem in my life today is a serious lack of motivation. In the last few weeks/months, I’m finding that I’m becoming more and more of a recluse. Ever since I stopped working, I feel like my life has come to a bit of a standstill and I need to get out there and just DO SOMETHING.

- Who are three people I feel handle problems effectively? How are they different from me?

I can’t think of three people that I interact with enough on a daily basis to answer this one. The only person I could say is my boyfriend. He’s a lot more rational and smarter than I am. He’s good at discussing and pointing out every angle and he never, ever loses his cool when dealing with me.


Gratitude

- What are ten things I feel grateful for in my life right now?

I’m grateful to be here and alive.
My son.
My boyfriend.
My friends.

that’s enough for me. Everything else just seems materialistic.

- Which people would I like to thank for their help and support in my journey through life?

My boyfriend. Again. Until I met him, I was basically just treading water on my own.

- Am I willing to spread more gratitude through my life by telling people how I feel?

I try to tell people as often as I can how I appreciative I am of them.

- What are ten ways I can acknowledge myself along this journey?

This is the only question I don’t know how to answer.

I’m pretty sure I acknowledged myself a lot while answering these questions, which I probably shouldn’t have done while feeling so blue.

 

[Bothersome]

You're not the first person to broach this w/me.. & I still dont understand why it matters if I answer them or not, but, if it helps the thread, then alright. 🙂

I don't know that it really matters to people.

Maybe they just like it better knowing that you're joining in on the fun as well.

I'll probably get around to filling this out at some point, but who knows. This thing could take until Easter. xD

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Do ittttttttttttttttt. *prodprodprod*

Although, I will make today's TMI Tuesday a lot less intense. I pwomise.

 

[Bothersome]

Love

- What are ten reasons someone would be happy to be in a relationship with me?
1: I have a sense of humor.
2: I'm fairly chill.
3-10: I don't leave the toilet seat up.

- What’s holding me back from opening my heart more fully?
I'm too introverted for that kind of thing. xD

- What are ten qualities I really value in my closest relationships?
1: Sense of humor.
2: Preferably an IQ somewhere above 80.

I can't really think of anything else. Q.Q

- Am I willing to take risks and create more heartfelt connections with others? If not, why not? What am I willing to do this week?
Nope. I'm far too shy and cautious for stuff like that.

Play

- What are ten things I really like to do?
1: Video Games.
2: A good book.
3: Studying astronomy facts.

- What are five activities I used to enjoy doing as a child that I wish I did today?
1: Forts out in the forest. I miss that shit.
2: Shoot the shit with a friend in said forts, overdosing on airheads.
3: Trampoline. :|

- How can I bring these childhood pleasures into my life today?
Well, for the first two I'd need to severely diminish what remaining dignity I have, and for the third... losing weight wouldn't hurt. >.>

- Who are five playful partners or potential partners in my life today?
Erm... nobody. xD

- What playful activities am I willing to initiate in soon?
Willing? Many. Able? Erm..

Friendships

- Who are my most treasured friends and why?
I may hate my town, but I really like the friends I've met up here. Some of the coolest people I've ever met.

- When do I feel most connected with others? When do I feel most disconnected?
Most connected when gaming, in a platonic way. Most disconnected when reading.

- When I distance others what are the fears, resentments or other reasons behind this?
Just the need to be alone. Usually from an overdose of a social life when that happens.

- What do I need to resolve or change about myself to have more fulfilling friendships?
My introvertedness certainly holds back my friendships.

- What can I do to create more meaningful connections with others?
Get out of the house now and again.

Problems

- Looking back at my life, what are three problems from my past that have paved the way for positive growth and how did this occur?
1: I think my lack of a father-figure in my life was one of the best thing that could have ever happened to me.

- Choose three current problems in your life today. How can these problems be turned into opportunities for personal growth?
1: Financial problems. The only personal growth I can see from this is the ability to have a higher respect for the worth of a dollar. :|

- Who are three people I feel handle problems effectively? How are they different from me?
I could name a lot of people that handle problems better than me. They have the drive and motivation to do so.

Gratitude

- What are ten things I feel grateful for in my life right now?
1: Having somewhere to live.
2: Having a family that cares about me.

- Which people would I like to thank for their help and support in my journey through life?
My family of course, and a select other few people.

- Am I willing to spread more gratitude through my life by telling people how I feel?
No. I'm willing to show gratitude a lot of ways, but telling people how I feel is one I have never been comfortable with.

- What are ten ways I can acknowledge myself along this journey?
No idea. xD