Teaching Husband to Tickle?

[BrightEyes1082]

As most of you know by now, I'm getting married in a little less than two months. My fiance' is not a 'ler by nature, but he is stoked about getting into it. How have you ladies who have turned your man onto it taught them the best techniques? I know he'd be against having another guy "showing him the ropes." But lately I've been toying with the idea of having a lady 'ler show him how it's done. Anybody have any experience with this? Thoughts? Thanks!

 

[joeshushu]

You should have married me

 

[LoveSoles81]

Something I have always been into. When I met my current G/F she knew nothing about the fetish. Now she always wants me to tickle her. If he likes it enough I think he might get into it.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Oh I know he'll get into it, we've had lengthy discussions about it. I'm just trying to figure out how to show him what I like 🙂

 

[Eroticklee]

Oh I know he'll get into it, we've had lengthy discussions about it. I'm just trying to figure out how to show him what I like 🙂

Well, tickling and being tickled by another woman is a long time fantasy of mine. I've never done it yet, but I might be interested. And I'm a pretty good ler. 🙂

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Well, tickling and being tickled by another woman is a long time fantasy of mine. I've never done it yet, but I might be interested. And I'm a pretty good ler. 🙂

Oooo, and you are close!! 🙂 I've never done it either, and I've never really tickled anyone else. Hmm...

 

[tommytikl]

Are their any video clips or images that you like to give your, hubby to be, an idea of what you like.

 

[Mike3355]

might try teaching him how to tickle, by letting him be a lee, and you tickle him, teaching him each technique, believe it or not, but people can learn to be a ler like this..

 

[BrightEyes1082]

I'm really not sure that it's in me to be a ler. Thanks for the ideas everyone! Keep 'em coming!

 

[cloudgazer2k]

could always surprise him by giving him a tutorial. ie: tying yourself down to whatever structure you have works, and letting him explore. having a handful of tickling apparatuses and some baby oil handy may work as well.

 

[tickledorange]

I dunno....I talked to Brian about it, he said it sounded fun, so I let him try it after I told him all about it (since he didn't understand).

 

[tickles]

I can relate

well....I am a lee married to a non ler....I am a female btw....My husband knows what I like.....but....well, there is something..not there...he does tickle me....but he doesn't enjoy it the way I do...so that makes it difficult for me to approach it.....I also sense that at times he does it just for me....but he doesn't care one way or the other about it.....Because of this....I am not as open about how often I would like to tickle...and how long I would like him to....and how intense....its just gotten weird for me....you know ...a little self conscious.......when I first told about it.....he was pretty excited too........ .so, I think you should keep in mind that he likely will not share your enthusiam for the long haul.....he may tickle you...but in time he may not keep the "interest"...I hope he does.....I am grateful for what my husband and I do together......but I'm sure its not the same as it would be with a ler..

 

[kis123]

Sometimes, desparate times......

I'm really not sure that it's in me to be a ler. Thanks for the ideas everyone! Keep 'em coming!

call for desparate measures!

What better way for him to find out what you want than to show it to him? Besides, it can be a gateway to a whole lotta' fun between you two.

When I started on this forum, I was 100% ler and had no interest in being a lee. A year ago, someone opened the door to explore my lee side (which I never knew I even had). It's not something I'd do regularly, but that's just me. I admit it makes for fun times between me and my SO 😉 . You might find out you have a little ler in you; maybe just enough to keep things fun between you both.

 

[Pinktoes]

How to get a guy to tickle

I need to know how to get a guy to tickle you if he doesn't seem to have that need. Im missing it a lot. I love to have my feet tied and tickled. Don't know how to approach it without freaking him out.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

call for desparate measures!

What better way for him to find out what you want than to show it to him? Besides, it can be a gateway to a whole lotta' fun between you two.

When I started on this forum, I was 100% ler and had no interest in being a lee. A year ago, someone opened the door to explore my lee side (which I never knew I even had). It's not something I'd do regularly, but that's just me. I admit it makes for fun times between me and my SO 😉 . You might find out you have a little ler in you; maybe just enough to keep things fun between you both.

Interesting 🙂 Thanks for the insight. I'll give it some more thought. Maybe I'm just building it up too much in my head, and I will be more easily able to let myself go when it comes down to it.

Thanks to all of you for your input!

 

[Vae]

My fiance hadn't even heard of the fetish. When I told him about it, he was really excited; he thought it sounded fun. Just like everything else that we do sexually, communicate what you like. We all know that tickling has a very fine line between amazing and awful. Show him your spots. Tell him if he's tickling too hard or too soft. If you want to be taunted or teased, tell him how. You may think it's a little daunting at first, but if he's anything like my darling, he'll appreciate all the hints. He will want it to be good for you, so you communicating what is great will help him become a better ler.

Above all, he needs to practice. Make sure you communicate when you want to do something like this, so that he doesn't get the bright idea when you don't want to become a giggling mass.

What also is very cool is that usually, even if they are so new to understanding your fetish, they'll do something you could have never imagined. My fiance tickles my feet in a very particular way that I had never thought of; it's the ultimate torture for me and he does it only when we're really getting into it. When you're comfortable, let him be creative! He'll know when you're not getting that much out of it or you can tell him when it's too much.

Hope that helps!

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Awesome!! That's very encouraging 🙂 Thanks!

 

[Mastertank1]

Here's a suggestion;

The true stories posted in that subforum here cover a wide range of techniques and situations. Read a bunch of them until you find one that really clicks for you; a story where you just find wishing that you were the 'lee in that story!
Then, copy and paste the story into your word processing program and print it out for your hubby to be to read. Let him know that you would really love it if he did to you what was done to the 'lee in the story!
I think he'll be very receptive to that approach.
Mitch
aka

 

[Feathery]

Hmmmm... perhaps if you two are ever in the New York City area, you can call upon me as a kind of marriage counselor with a twist?

 

[kis123]

The true stories posted in that subforum here cover a wide range of techniques and situations. Read a bunch of them until you find one that really clicks for you; a story where you just find wishing that you were the 'lee in that story!
Then, copy and paste the story into your word processing program and print it out for your hubby to be to read. Let him know that you would really love it if he did to you what was done to the 'lee in the story!
I think he'll be very receptive to that approach.
Mitch
aka

I don't know about brighteyes, but I'm on my way to the real stories section for some fresh ideas...... I think this is a great idea!

 

[BrightEyes1082]

The true stories posted in that subforum here cover a wide range of techniques and situations. Read a bunch of them until you find one that really clicks for you; a story where you just find wishing that you were the 'lee in that story!
Then, copy and paste the story into your word processing program and print it out for your hubby to be to read. Let him know that you would really love it if he did to you what was done to the 'lee in the story!
I think he'll be very receptive to that approach.
Mitch
aka

Actually, we are very much into stories. We write each other stories often. He's practically begged me to really let go of my inhibitions when I write (I don't incorporate much tickling into them). I printed him a story from here once... but he wants to see what I write. I just can't seem to let it go when I write for him. That's a whole 'nother issue in itself. I'm getting much better though, I promise. 🙂 It's taking me many baby steps to lead him into this fetish world of mine.

Thanks for the ideas everyone!

 

[Sultrybrunette]

Sis. For your happiness and well being I would be more than happy to come down there and show him EXACTLY how its done. You know, keep it all in the family 😉.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Sis. For your happiness and well being I would be more than happy to come down there and show him EXACTLY how its done. You know, keep it all in the family 😉.

ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You've gotta be totally kidding. But if you're not, get your sexy butt down here!!!!!!!!!

 

[LindyHopper]

Actually, we are very much into stories. We write each other stories often. He's practically begged me to really let go of my inhibitions when I write (I don't incorporate much tickling into them). I printed him a story from here once... but he wants to see what I write. I just can't seem to let it go when I write for him.

You might try just writing a story for yourself, without directly intending for him to read it. You can even write with the intention of posting it on the TMF. When I do this, it's generally to work out something in my own head, and other people reading it is a bonus. After it's done, you can decide if you feel comfortable sharing it with him.

Pinktoes: I think it's highly unlikely that your guy will freak out. My experiences, and those of many others, suggest that most guys will be happy to discover something they can do that you really enjoy. 🙂

tickles: I know what you mean. My husband isn't "really" a 'ler either, and though he's as generous and indulgent of my tickling thing as he can possibly be, it's still not the same as playing with someone who loves tickling for it's own sake. I don't think there's anything you can do to really change this, but communication does help. A lot of what I had to do with my husband is just get him to understand how much, and how intensely, I enjoy being tickled. He was always afraid of pushing me too far! 😀 So I know it's gotten awkward, but I think a lot of the suggestions that other people have made on this thread may help you clarify your interest with him, if you need a fresh approach. Good luck!

 

[chickles_:)]

As most of you know by now, I'm getting married in a little less than two months. My fiance' is not a 'ler by nature, but he is stoked about getting into it. How have you ladies who have turned your man onto it taught them the best techniques? I know he'd be against having another guy "showing him the ropes." But lately I've been toying with the idea of having a lady 'ler show him how it's done. Anybody have any experience with this? Thoughts? Thanks!

Hiya Brighteyes!!
first of all!! CONGRATULATIONS GIRL!!
Second,,, who's planning your wedding?? - Sorry,😉 Shameless plug for our wedding planning business 😛

Seriously though, I really hope the big day goes well in a month and a half's time!! Remember to breathe!😉 And remember that whatever happens good, bad, or strange, in a year from now it will be just another one of the funny memories which make your big day special. And believe me i've seen many a thing go wrong -but you know what? The couple always ended up married! (even the girl who had to dash out of the church because she had the 24 hour flu! )
So, as i tell all my clients, when the day dawns - make sure you enjoy the ride!!


NOw on to your real question... Which is the same one i had when my b/f and i started getting close.. he was definitely not a 'ler. Well not that he hadn't tickled girls before but it wasn't his 'thing' so to speak.
--But he is now..

So what are some things that worked? (besides talking about it - which i gather you have done)

In no particular order:

The Carrot-on-a-stick routine,,
suggesting a simple trade.. Knowing something my b/f really likes -that gets him racing- i suggested i do it if he tickled me for 5 or 10 minutes - but he had to mean it. ( i found the time limit in the early days really helped.) But it didn't always require a watch alarm. As I soon discovered by using the --

Tickle-Game routine,,
This game combined with the carrot-on-stick worked very well. As in, letting him know that it really turned me on (always a hit with guys😛 ) i'd say something like, "guess what you get if you can tickle me into saying 'uncle'". This put a practical time limit on the tickles and (usually) made the whole experience meaningful for him by holding out the promise of a thrill if he went for it.

I-Admit-I'm-Wrong routine,,
Okay, this can be a little dangerous - but when it comes to the less important things in life it can be a good technique. Every guy i've ever seriously gone out with - my current guy being no exception 🙄 loves to win an argument. Playfully countering what he says while leaving myself vulnerable to tickleattack gives him the chance to tickle me into admitting he's right - okay i confess it's a bit devious, but given that it gives him a double ego stroke (he's macho and right in the one go) i don't have a serious conscience-attack
This can be easily morphed into the
I'll-let-you-get-your-way(watch-your-fave-sports show) routine,, 😛

Each of these simply associate ticking with playful and erotic fun.
For me it eventually led to him planning a full 45 minutes of tied and tickle-torture! I remember almost crying the whole night afterward as i watched him sleep - just for the sheer love of it all

Anyway, enough about me.. I hope these help. I'm sure we'd all love to hear how it turns out!

Many blessings and good luck!!
Chickles