Teaching Husband to Tickle?

[BrightEyes1082]

Who's planning it? ME!!! LOL!!! We're on a very tight budget, so I did everything myself.

Thanks so much for the fantastic ideas!!! I will *definitely* give them a try!

 

[chickles_:)]

Who's planning it? ME!!! LOL!!! We're on a very tight budget, so I did everything myself.

Thanks so much for the fantastic ideas!!! I will *definitely* give them a try!

Hiya Bright Eyes!
You're doing it yourself?? - I'm sure you'll do a great job!😀

--Just, if i can be so bold,,, On the actual day of your wedding may i suggest that you farm out all the details and especially the oversight of them to others? - From mucho experience-oh, it can seriously make or break the joy of the event for you.
The self-planner women who plan the day and then let others look after making it happen -on the actual day- are the ones who get to enjoy the moment and the event rather than spending their wedding day being worried about details.
--I don't mean to meddle where i'm not invited - but if you don't mind an unsolicited suggestion...

Whatever you end up doing, i sincerely wish you every rich blessing and Good luck with ALL your plans *secret smile*

hugs and hearts to you both - and may your wedding be all that you could hope for!!

Chickles

 

[Deadsea7777]

As most of you know by now, I'm getting married in a little less than two months. My fiance' is not a 'ler by nature, but he is stoked about getting into it. How have you ladies who have turned your man onto it taught them the best techniques? I know he'd be against having another guy "showing him the ropes." But lately I've been toying with the idea of having a lady 'ler show him how it's done. Anybody have any experience with this? Thoughts? Thanks!

Well group sex is togheter with bondage the two main human sexual fantasies. The odds are on your side, but I would ask before, and also take into account how would you react if he get very happy and excited with your lady ler.

Nevertheless, if your man is willing to go all the way with you and your fetish, my advice would be let the new pilot to sail for a while before calling help. Male ego is as fragile as Bohemia Crystal and almost as precious, every drop counts.
Be patient, with the right cookie any dog can can be trained to perfection. It only takes some time and, .........a lot of cookies.

 

[crydun]

call for desparate measures!

What better way for him to find out what you want than to show it to him? Besides, it can be a gateway to a whole lotta' fun between you two.

When I started on this forum, I was 100% ler and had no interest in being a lee. A year ago, someone opened the door to explore my lee side (which I never knew I even had). It's not something I'd do regularly, but that's just me. I admit it makes for fun times between me and my SO 😉 . You might find out you have a little ler in you; maybe just enough to keep things fun between you both.

someday, I want YOU to be my ler. I like your attitude. Kind of "I take crap from no one" type of thing.

 

[Dancer]

As most of you know by now, I'm getting married in a little less than two months. My fiance' is not a 'ler by nature, but he is stoked about getting into it. How have you ladies who have turned your man onto it taught them the best techniques? I know he'd be against having another guy "showing him the ropes." But lately I've been toying with the idea of having a lady 'ler show him how it's done. Anybody have any experience with this? Thoughts? Thanks!

First of all - congrats on your up-and-coming marriage!! I'm not married now, but when I was, I found one easy way to turn my man into a great tickler. I surprised him and took about 6 weeks of belly dancing, and also bought a very sexy belly-dance costume, complete with veil and finger cymbals. Just the sensual and seductive nature of the dance put him in the right mood to be "shown the ropes" as you say. You can do belly-rolls and undulations right under his nose and I guarantee you.....You'll be tickled to your heart's content. Good luck and keep us all posted!!!

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Thanks so much everybody!! I knew I could count on you guys

No worries, Chickles, the new director of sales at my venue is fantastic, and she has taken over quite a bit for me - so she'll handle everything (along with the banquet manager) on the big day. I'll do my best to just let go and have a great time.

I'll keep you all posted!!!!

 

[Kalba]

I seen a bear once!

Were it Grizz?

 

[Tissueboy]

This may help

Check out www.ticklingtips.bravehost.com , it's not a fetish site but it contains some technique ideas that you might find useful. It's very non-threatening, and designed to be read by someone who isn't really an insider in the world of tickling. Get him to have a look through, especially the sections called "What makes a good tickler?" and "Tickling Tips". Good luck!

 

[Dancer]

Check out www.ticklingtips.bravehost.com , it's not a fetish site but it contains some technique ideas that you might find useful. It's very non-threatening, and designed to be read by someone who isn't really an insider in the world of tickling. Get him to have a look through, especially the sections called "What makes a good tickler?" and "Tickling Tips". Good luck!

Hey Tissueboy - thanks for referring us to the "ticklingtips" website. I had never heard of it, and when I read it.....WOW!!!! What a turn-on!! I'm a belly-dancer and the entire time I read that site, my stomach felt like it was being tickled by some "invisible little fingers". Thanks again for the referal!!! If you find any more, let us know!

 

[Tissueboy]

That site

Hey there, it's actually my site - I run it. Glad you like it! You should think about joining the mailing list. (I don't earn money from it BTW so I'm not trying to sell something)

 

[chickles_:)]

Thanks so much everybody!! I knew I could count on you guys

No worries, Chickles, the new director of sales at my venue is fantastic, and she has taken over quite a bit for me - so she'll handle everything (along with the banquet manager) on the big day. I'll do my best to just let go and have a great time.

I'll keep you all posted!!!!

Hiya
Sorry, Brighteyes,, I didn't mean to meddle.
Anyway, sounds like you are in for a lot of fun from all kinds of angles!!

Many blessings,
Chickles

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Were it Grizz?

How'd you do that?????????

 

[Kalba]

I can't tell!!! 🙂 It's a secret!!!

How'd you do that?????????

:::: puts Hoppy in box. Calls Chad to get dumptruck!! ::::

 

[Capnmad]

If he's a little too rough in his approach:

Yeah -- guys don't like being "taught" what to do, really, and women sometimes think a guy should "just know", but it's tough when one isn't a natural 'ler, I imagine...

Some guys "go for the gusto" a little too hard at first and need to be taught pacing. It's a natural inclination sometimes when doing something to which one is unaccustomed. Male first time french-kissers will probably shove a tongue down your throat. A male virgin will probably be all about penetration the first time, giving little attention to foreplay or any other movement than that of a piston. First time (and non-natural) 'lers will likely dig in and have you screaming a safeword -- getting the reaction they think they want, maybe, but altogether too soon... Here's a thought to get around it:

Go out and buy some soft implements... Feathers, soft paint brushes, etc... Then negotiate: "If you can bring me to (wherever you want to be brought 😉 ) using only this/these, you can have (something he wants)..." Granted, he may look at you like you're Mr. Miyagi talking crazy about catching flies with chopsticks, but that's why the reward for his effort is key. Hopefully, your pleasure is sufficient enough a reward, but if not, the above negotiation isn't a bad idea...

Limiting him to one tool will force him to be creative. Offering him options will give him relief to a degree. And removing his hands from the scenario if he's too rough will demand that he be soft, because of the nature of the implements... To compensate, he'll likely try using several at once, but what isn't cool about that?

Make him use a soft approach by making the only tool he can touch you with a soft one... When he sees how turned on the soft touches can get you (if he's patient and caring enough to get there), he may very well catch on that his hands can do the same soft approach without the tools... Then you're not teaching him. He's just learning. 😀

All the best!

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Thanks Capn!! Great ideas!!

Drewby I've missed you so much! ::steals keys to dumptruck::

 

[sole7]

Best Wishes...

It's totally fine to tell a guy what you want. Tickling is more familiar than anything else because we all did it before we knew what horney meant. It's hard to say what you want I know, but THIS is not the other things that some poeple really can't admit to. It's the best to me, and still in most poeple's conversations is just,.. tickling. Laugh as loud as you like and enjoy!