Telling them what you like, who has it easier? ler or lee?

[feetclimax]

Ive been asking lots of people this quesion but id really wanna know what the people of the TMF think about it.

Ok imagine this scenario:
Person A has a tickling fetish and is now going out with someone, person B. Person B is the typical outsider to the tickling world, knows nothing about it. Person A wants to tell person B that they have a ticklish fetish and want to indulge in this desire with person B. The question is who is it easier for? This may differ when it comes to gender so i guess their are two questions here.

Is it easier for a guy to say to his girlfriend " I have a tickling fetish and i want to indulge in it by tickling you!"

Or

Is it easier for a guy to say to his girlfirend " I have a tickling fetish and I want YOU to tickle ME!"

i dont mean actually saying it exactly this way, but when it comes to telling them what you like, who has it easier?

The reason i ask this is because I think it may differ because the girl might be more likely to be reluctant to the first one it because she might really hate being tickled and the less of self control etc.

However instead, if that same girl found out that her boyfriend wants her to tickle him and reduce him to a pile of giggles, i fail to see the reluctance to that request. The reaction to the first option is more understandable because the majority of people hate being tickled but as for the second one, why the heck wouldnt someone want to be the one initiating that kind of thing especially on someone who is asking for it (litraly!)?

I realise that either way, the outsider may find it a tickling fetish unusual, its the part after that where he tells her what he actually wants to do involving this fetish, which one is more likely to be turned down, being tickled or doing the tickling? Or is there no difference at all?



And finally, would the answer to this overal quesion be different if the roles were reversed and the girl is the one telling the boyfriend about her desire? Are guys more willing when it comes to pleasing their woman with things he finds unusual just so it will make her happy?

Please let me have you views on this, it would help me quite a bit, thanx

 

[luvn2laf]

Well, I can only speak from my own experience as a lee who has a b/f who is not really a ticklefile. I didn't have a problem telling him about my fetish, but I do struggle with telling him about some of my desires. He's happy to torture me just about any time. But I struggled to bring up bondage. I finally did and after 5 months of dating, we finally tried it this past weekend. It was ok. I gave him my tickle toys to use and was thrilled when he put the mask over my eyes and he did get pretty creative. But there are techniques that would put me over the edge that he doesn't know about and I am debating whether to tell him or not, and wondering when the time will be right. He is pretty proud of his skills, so I don't want him to take my suggestions as criticism. So, I am struggling about what to say.

 

[leeboy]

I find that most of the girls I've told have jumped at the chance to tickle me ! I usually wait a while befor I tell them. Two or three months anyway, and it's usually during an intimate moment like cuddling on the couch or something when quick little tickles find their way into the scene. I'll say something like "Thats my deep, dark secret that I've told very few people - I love to be tickled." It usually get a surprised, even shocked look but it's worked in getting girls from the "outside" to tie and tickle me. It's even worked in getting a couple to let me tickle them out of curiosity !

 

[feetclimax]

The way i see it, its about power and control and most people like to have control, power and dominace over another but when its been done to you its unpleasant, this im talking in a majority view generally. Thats why i beleive its better for a lee to ask to be tickled than a ler asking someone to tickle someone. Just wondering if people here agreed or maybe its just a few.

I thought there were more people on thsi forum than 3. Doesnt anyone else have a view on the subject?

 

[ticklkitten]

I think it's easier for the lee. I was introduced to tickling by an ex bf who told me one night when we first started going out while we were getting a little hot and heavy. I responded well by say "how fun!" but he had said that he got some comments on how people think it is wierd. But it doesn't seem like it would be that hard for a girl to say that she likes to be dominated and saying that tickling is an awesome way to please her. Maybe for a man to say he is a lee that might be different... lacking a penis I don't know. 😀 Just my opinion, I haven't had to tell anyone about my fetish yet but I'll let you all know when I do!