Tempted and worse... how terrible am I?

[Lea28]

It's Sunday night; my bf is in Southern CA for a week and I went to a friends 30th birthday party last night... I met a new boy, we kissed, he tickled me, and I think I'm in love...

Quick details and then guilt... went to a party at a friends home, wore my fav black dress and black nylon, removed my shoes at some point, met a really cute guy that whispered to me after half an hour of semi-innocent flirting that he liked the way I "wiggled and flexed my toes while we talked..."

A bit stunned, I laughed... then he kissed me and whispered that he would love to suck my toes; I said "impossible becuase I am too ticklish..."

He said he already knew that (how?) and that I liked to be tickled... another kiss...

OK, we left the party, went to my apartment and had a fabulous night together. This is not what I do by the way... he sucked my toes as he very gently / lightly tickled my feet and other critical areas, and proved an amazing lover. I have never had a guy suck my toes as he tickled me... incredible sensation.

OK, it's Sunday night; I am exhausted and feeling really awful; I have a nice bf. I cheated, I suck. And I want to see the NEW boy again, like now!

Oh, he is ticklish too in 1,000,000 places and that made last night even more fun. He reads my mind, makes me scream, and I am pretty sure he had as special a night as I did... oh the night ended at 3PM this afternoon after we showered together (at 8AM thsi morning) and then went back to bed all day today... HELP!

Lea

 

[RChello]

hmmm...

maybe Dr. Phil could help...

 

[cloudgazer2k]

life works in mysterious ways. you are only human. perhaps the best thing is to come clean with your boyfriend. it'll hurt, it'll be a bad day, but honesty is a necessity.

 

[mstrtk45]

Life is short kiddo, don't look back!!

B

 

[tcklft]

Do your I-hope-soon-to-be-ex a favor: call him tonight and tell him to grab some fabulous SoCal poontang while he's here. He'll thank you for it when he gets back.

 

[tcklft]

maybe Dr. Phil could help...

That, or a lobotomy....

 

[Lea28]

Yes, you're right

life works in mysterious ways. you are only human. perhaps the best thing is to come clean with your boyfriend. it'll hurt, it'll be a bad day, but honesty is a necessity.

I need to tell my bf that I cheated... he is going to freak, and I would too if the role was reversed...

I know I can make it up to him, my bf, but not sure that I did not find my sole mate last night.

thank you very much, Lea

 

[cloudgazer2k]

I need to tell my bf that I cheated... he is going to freak, and I would too if the role was reversed...

I know I can make it up to him, my bf, but not sure that I did not find my sole mate last night.

thank you very much, Lea

just remember...denying yourself what you feel is right can only make things worse for yourself.

 

[Brutus]

If you were married to the guy, then maybe you'd be a candidate for being a 'horrible person'. But since this isn't the case, I'd say go with what feels right. Figure out which is more important to you and go with it. +

Just my two cents...

 

[barefeetarebest]

I tend to agree here.... This new potential someone could be that spark in your flame, that person that makes your whole world go round!

 

[Lea28]

Thank you... that's nice

I tend to agree here.... This new potential someone could be that spark in your flame, that person that makes your whole world go round!

I'm not looking for a justification, but chemistry really matters, and it is nice to find a guy that seems to understand me emotionally, physically... whatever...

I don't like "graphics" but this guy new I was ticklish, and suppossed I would even want to tickle him tickle him, and it felt really great to make a guy obviously ecstatic with my hands and feet... and the fact that he knew just where and when to touch and tickle me romantically, and I mean during sex, is incredible to me.

How many guys would know that I love my feet stroked when I'm top of him while making love? He was right there... I have to tell my bf, or maybe former bf, to stroke my feet?? That's no fun...

 

[godoy1030]

Previous boyfriend needs to step up. Do your part and put the ball in his court. Tell him you cheated and apologize - it's up to him. He can forgive you and try to please you the same way the other guy did, or he can find another mate. You're not married.

Tell him this though. Don't just apologize and hope for him to fill in the blanks because guys are stupid. I'm a guy so I can say this - <u>we</u> <u>are</u> <u>stupid</u>. Tell him how you want to be pleasured, and he can either take it or leave it.

Good luck have fun etc.

 

[maniactickler]

If theres no ring on your finger, you can go with whoever you want.

 

[Tickleslave07]

Congrats Lea

Hi Lea,
It's Tickleslave07 Wow sounds like you had a blast at this party..
My first peice of advice would seriously tell your current BF you met someone at a party you attended.
If he hears you explain it to him it won't be as bad if he hears it
from someone else on the street.

Another peice of advice is to try this new guy out on a real date.
Let him take you to dinner and a the movies.
In any event that would be what I'd do.
Hope I was of help,
Tickleslave07

 

[davids]

where i can find girls like you?

 

[ViperGTS]

Heh. As maniac said, with no ring on your finger, you're only as committed as you allow yourself to be. While I don't agree with what you did as far as your soon to be ex boyfriend is concerned, it's more important that you are happy with yourself. personally, if I were him, I'd be righteously pissed, as I am sure he will be. But, like I said, do what makes you happy. 🙂

 

[badreligion]

It's Sunday night; my bf is in Southern CA for a week and I went to a friends 30th birthday party last night... I met a new boy, we kissed, he tickled me, and I think I'm in love...

Quick details and then guilt... went to a party at a friends home, wore my fav black dress and black nylon, removed my shoes at some point, met a really cute guy that whispered to me after half an hour of semi-innocent flirting that he liked the way I "wiggled and flexed my toes while we talked..."

A bit stunned, I laughed... then he kissed me and whispered that he would love to suck my toes; I said "impossible becuase I am too ticklish..."

He said he already knew that (how?) and that I liked to be tickled... another kiss...

OK, we left the party, went to my apartment and had a fabulous night together. This is not what I do by the way... he sucked my toes as he very gently / lightly tickled my feet and other critical areas, and proved an amazing lover. I have never had a guy suck my toes as he tickled me... incredible sensation.

OK, it's Sunday night; I am exhausted and feeling really awful; I have a nice bf. I cheated, I suck. And I want to see the NEW boy again, like now!

Oh, he is ticklish too in 1,000,000 places and that made last night even more fun. He reads my mind, makes me scream, and I am pretty sure he had as special a night as I did... oh the night ended at 3PM this afternoon after we showered together (at 8AM thsi morning) and then went back to bed all day today... HELP!

Lea

lol well all i can say i s

guns dont kill people

boyfriends who find out there girlfriend are cheating on them do

and for the record what you did was wrong and your a pretty terrible person for it

 

[luv2tikl]

Well, of coarse committment is not required in such a relationship... But, I mean, the real question is what's going to happen when this guy gets old and you find someone else? And then same thing happens again and again?

There is no right answer here, but it is definitely wise to practice commitment, because the way I see it, while dating, you are practicing for the big committment, marriage, in which case this behavior would not be acceptable. "You are what you repeatedly do" and GIGO (garbage in, garbage out) are good prases to remember here, and I think that's fairly self explanatory.

We live in a world that's all about self gratification, and instant gratification as well, where the grass is always greener on the other side and it's ok to go for it... Well, here's a piece of advice... The grass NEVER stays green. It will die, and it's going to be greener somewhere else EVERY TIME, and that's where you have to make the decision of whether or not going for it is best in the long run. So you like this guy for sexual reasons... That's an incredibly small portion of what makes a relationship. You really can't even convince me that sex is important in a relationship other than that of marriage, in fact I've seen it ruin more relationships than it helps...

That's the best I've got. The ideas behind satisfaction are very interesting to me and I'm studying a small portion of it in school right now. Basically, it's always temporary and it will never keep you "Happy" no matter what you think. Only you can decide your happiness, not some object or person that you don't have but really want...

Best wishes.

 

[phfttklr]

Here's my two cents.

You may not be married but it's called respect. If you're in a relationship, unless expressed that it's not exclusive, then cheating is just wrong all around. The best thing to do is tell him and let things fall as they may. If you don't care for your boyfriend or at least care for this guy more, then be open with him, apologize and move on- I'm sure you would expect the same. I know it's hard to meet someone with this love of ours and to have both those loves can be even more rare. Also, where the hell were you when I went to parties?

Second point, did you ever tell your boyfriend that you liked these things done? People aren't mind readers, especially with something like tickling and toe sucking. Maybe your boyfriend isn't into this and you found a perfect match (at least as far as sexual compatibility ). What more do you know about this new guy? You said he knew about your thing but trust me, NOBODY is reading your mind, he must have been told this about you. Things worked out as far as his and your fantasies but if you were to tell your boyfriend and he decided to forgive you and he was fine with your wishes, would you still stay with him? Do you know anything else about this new guy?

Good luck in whichever way you choose to go.

 

[Coda]

Ouch. Sounds like you need to clear this up right away, but I'm totally happy you found such an awesome lover.

 

[LeeAllure]

If you think that this new guy is one you can have a real
and satisfying relationship with, and you feel that your
boyfriend has no idea how to please you, even after you've
told him what you like (really, I've met so few accurate
mind readers there may as well not be any, so if you have
not told him, you can't expect everything to be 100% as
you'd want it) then perhaps it's time to tell your boyfriend
that you want to split up.

I think it's just cruel to share that you slept with someone
else unless you plan on staying with the boyfriend, and
asking for forgiveness and trying to work it out, and even
then it would always be there in the middle of you two.

You also just met this other guy, so he may be fabulous at
sex and understanding your need for tickling (which is pretty
key for you, it seems) but he may have other traits which
you wouldn't find as desirable.

I wouldn't beat yourself up over this if it's the only time it's
happened (being a serial cheater is something different),
but it isn't the kind of quandry that I personally would want
to be in.

Does guy #2 know you have a boyfriend? Was he looking for
a relationship? I think that there are more serious questions
for you to ask to determine what you really want, and the
best way to go about it leaving minimum damage.

Lee

 

[StevePerry4Ever]

Break up with your current boyfriend, when you tell him what you did trust is gone and so is your relationship. Do him a favor and break up with him then persue the "new guy"

 

[drew70]

I think it's a pretty simple matter, Lea. Use your imagination for a moment, and simply reverse the situation. Imagine you go on a short trip during which your boyfriend goes to a party, dressed in a way to make himself attractive to girls. He meets a girl, tickles her and has sex with her. Now imagine you've just found out about all this. Think of how hurt, betrayed, and angry that would make you. Think of all the names you'd be calling him. Now take those names and simply apply them to yourself.

There's clearly a double standard here. When a girl does this, she's legitimately seeking her own happiness. When a guy does this, he's a cheating dog, scumbag, heartbreaker, asshole...etc.

 

[slap'n'ticklee]

I kind of agree to your reply drew 🙂

I think whats happened is terrible, you can't love your boyfriend if the first attempt a guy comes up to you and tickles your feet you jump in bed with him. If you truly loved your man you wouldn't have even contemplated it (well thats my reasoning, perhaps not yours, but there ya go).

Seems to me like your relationship is already over with your boyfriend, you have to come clean as otherwise it'll probably eat at you and he'll realise that somethings wrong.

If you like this NEW guy then perhaps you should sort this out with your OLD guy (tell him the truth), and maybe meet up with the NEW guy and see if you can both make a go of it. He could just be some stud and not interested in a relationship, you have to find out just what your boyfriend means to you and if you wish to sort out any problems you have and give it a go or not.

I can see that your impressed with the NEW guy and how he made you feel and you can't be slated for that, but you really need to sort this out with your boyfriend as its not on.

Good luck.

 

[Anna6-9]

Ok so I was in a similar situation 2 weeks ago. Im married and altho no sex was involved it was a form of cheating....My husband works nights and on Halloween I had a guy from TMF over for some tickling while my husband was at work. I had previous permission to do so but only when my husband was here with me. I have never done anything like this before. Ive never been reckless and done something just because I wanted to and screw the concequences. Now I did say no sex just tickling and thats mostly true (I did loose my top). He bet me I couldnt keep my hands from blocking. I thought I had the self control to do it. For every time my hands lifted off his thighs (he was stradling me) I had a button undone. I apparently done have the selfcontrol I thought I had. The next day I felt guilty and my husband could tell. So I told him what I had done. He was pissed. I was delt the most intense tickle torture I have ever had as a punishment. And Im still paying for it. I got another round of tickle torture and severe spankings last night. But it has helped me too. My husband now knows more of the ways I like to be tickled and its improving our sex life. I will never go behind his back again!