the darker side of nest,,,,

[vegasfootboy]

i always love reading the posts of those who brave the long journey to attend those " nests ",, all of those wonderfull and positive comments,, everyone having a blast!

what about what we dont hear about?,,has anything bad ever happened at a nest? im curious if there are any bad experiances that anyone would like to share for those of us who are curious about it?,, like,, has there ever been a huge creep! that showed up at a nest and started groping people without permission? or someone who got jealous?? someone who started a fight?? lol! we have all heard the good stuff but what about the bad? they cant all be good,, im sure there are some interesting stories about people who were over zealous and grabby?

anyone??

 

[chode]

How bout the many folks promised "alone time" and then were just ignored? I know there are some of those.

 

[vegasfootboy]

alone time?

for those unlucky enough to have never attended nest could you please explain what you mean by alone time?

 

[AffectionateDan]

Anything negative that happens, more often than not...

...is handled discreetly. Nobody wants to ruin everyone's fun by making a scene. If there's a problem, we handle it like adults, quietly. If there's a BIG problem, we have big guys to solve those, too. I, for one, don't understand the need to look for negativity in something we all love so much. Perhaps watching some Jerry Springer would fulfill this need.

 

[vegasfootboy]

springer?

never heard of it?? anyway,, not a bad thing to be curious,, i saw something about someone asking for forgiveness for something they did at nest and it just got me thinking is all,, not trying to be morbid and i dont see a problem with discussing this in the forum,, i think some people will be interested in knowing that its not all just some fantasy without reprecussions, for every good in life there is balance,, good,, bad,, love,, hate,,

just curious about the other side of these lil events that we never hear about : )

 

[AffectionateDan]

You're right, of course... not a bad thing to be curious. But...

...I'm sure most people prefer to accentuate the positive. Eliminate the negative. Latch on to the affirmative.

Don't mess with Mr. Inbetween. 🙄

There are also many versions of a story, everyone has their own take on the way things transpire. The only way to get to the truth is to be there.

 

[ticklkitten]

You know... there was such a comfortable atmosphere there that anything "dark" going on in the background was well dealt with by the DM's... they are the best...

although, while Jeff was tickling the snot out of me over on the bench on the first floor mkeemer's "checking up on me" consisted of "kittenyouokayfinegladtohearit"... lol.

 

[dtrell]

How bout the many folks promised "alone time" and then were just ignored? I know there are some of those.

do tell yggy............................

 

[mkeemer]

You know... there was such a comfortable atmosphere there that anything "dark" going on in the background was well dealt with by the DM's... they are the best...

although, while Jeff was tickling the snot out of me over on the bench on the first floor mkeemer's "checking up on me" consisted of "kittenyouokayfinegladtohearit"... lol.

Kitten why I never...I wouldn't anything like, Yeah ok I did it
But Jeff gave me fifty cents to leave you alone

 

[Ace Riley]

oO

Dan, can't blame 'er for bringing up something that was an obvious concern. It's easy to fall into the fantasy of it all. We're talking about more than bravery here, making a trip like this. I honestly thought it was well put out...

Especially those of us who realistically look forward to actually attending.

*shrugs*

---Ace

 

[ticklkitten]

Kitten why I never...I wouldn't anything like, Yeah ok I did it
But Jeff gave me fifty cents to leave you alone

Wow, I would have thought I'd be worth at least a buck... lol

 

[LeeAllure]

I've been to

Every NEST but the first one.

I can recall two incidents which didn't make me,
personally happy, but every other hour spent
with my friends and with strangers who happen
to be into the same thing as I am has been
great. When I go, it's generally for a weekend,
and if you add up all the time spent, it's pretty
considerable. While I have no idea what you mean
by "alone time", if people want to be social,
they are. If they want to sit in a corner on a chair
and not interact, they're welcome to do that, too.
They still get to see lots of great tickling, and
hear all the laughter. They'll also get to watch
videos, often specifically made for the NEST, or
read magazines, or eat.

Most of the folks who are invited will make an
effort to be nice to everyone, even if not everyone
is their exact cup of tea. (Earl Grey, brewed strong,
very light with heavy cream. Occasionally sweet,
sometimes not). However, as the NEST events
grow, it's not always possible to even spend time
with everyone who attends, as some people
find a group or a person they want to spend
all of their time with, and that's great, too.
(One reason I like the social - I at least get a
chance to see the people who are here, and
hear what they like and why they're here.)

Now, THAT being said, of course these are my
experiences, and no one else is going to have
the time i do. This is also my favourite weekend
and nothing really ever detracts from that.

Lee

 

[venray]

How bout the many folks promised "alone time" and then were just ignored? I know there are some of those.

If you are speaking about promises made by one to another that time will be spent one on one, that is between the 2 involved and really has nothing to do with the gathering itself or the main event where everyone is together.

People tend to change their minds about "alone time" when there is so much going on as a group. It can be very overwhelming especially for first timers. It was for me at my first gathering until the comfort level was there enough for me to want to get involved.

This happens at every get together and is not something exclusive to Nest.

As for inappropriate groping or entering a "scene" without permission....the rules are read at the social and again before the start of the main event. Those that choose not to listen are dealt with discretely and quickly by the DM s. I have never seen them have to speak to anyone more than once and very rarely do they have to speak to anyone at all, but it does happen.

I have been to 3 Nests and quite a number of other gatherings and "play" get togethers and have had the same experience at all of them as far as that goes. The difference at Nest is that there are so many of us that you can see that we really are a community.

Look how many there are registered on the various tickle forums and it really hits you that we are actually more "normal" than we are sometimes led to believe. A large gathering like Nest lets you live that out a little more....

Hope this helped......


Ray

 

[Oddjob0226]

Wasn't someone attacked by a white tiger at one of the NESTs? That's what I heard...

I've been to Every NEST but the first one.

Is this the Lee who I spoke with on the phone about Absinthe? Sometimes has red hair, sometimes dark?

 

[vegasfootboy]

thanks : )

wow! what great responses,, thanks venray for explaining in a way that makes it sound real and fun! : ) and not just like a sugar coated fantasy without structure,,i guess its in my nature to investigate things that make me curious and since ive never been to a nest ( chomping at the bit to go ) its fun for me to hear about the realism of the event,, the emotions involved,, and to be able to visualize it all in my head,, i know thats a poor substitute but for now its all i have,,

i knew some would think i was being kinda negative by wanting to know about the things that we usually dont hear about,, but hearing about both sides of it makes it more real and more exciting to ponder.... at least for me that is...

sounds like everyone had a great time : ),, maybe one day we will have a nest in vegas,, im thinking that would be an awesome time,,

thanks guys,,,

 

[venray]

Glad to have helped clarify a little....The more folks you actually get to meet in person, the more the "gathering" experience changes. This year it was all about impromptu fun for me and socializing with friends both old and new....

Ray

 

[QBWeaver]

I'm really glad Venray responded so effectively.

Yes, NEST is wonderful. Yes, there have been some issues that came up. They were minor issues that were dealt with quietly so the rest of the group was not affected by it. We've never had to ask anyone to leave.

There have never been any fights. We did have one injury in my room during a party a couple years ago the night before the event. One of our ladies broke her toe when a guy stepped on it as he was trying to tickle her! Ouch!

NEST is kinda like a regular party with bondage and laughter involved. There's no nudity or sex allowed during the event. That's why I feel so safe there. Going to NEST, as a single woman, can feel theatening. Yet the guys have always treated me with the utmost respect.

I've never felt the need to detail the negatives here. Besides, dealing with those issues are for the Hosts and the DM's to handle. The problem areas are so small when it comes to the overall event, there's no reason to bring them up. It would be like complaining about one bad call in a football game even though your team won by a landslide.

As far as promises not kept ... Been there, had that happen to me numerous times... It's life. No Biggie. Everything is moving so fast that NEST that it's hard to make sure you get to do everything you want to do. Just think of trying to meet 80 people who all came to your party and trying to spend quality time with each of them. It's impossible! I was going to have some one on one time with a guy this past NEST but couldn't get time to do it. He was busy. I was busy. They get distracted or you get distracted... who knows. It happens. It will happen again... Just let it go and move on and have fun. That's what I do! There's always next year.

You really do need to experience it yourself to understand the dynamics of this event. The folks who come back year after year are family. The new folks who join us... become part of the family. I've met lots of new folks this year that I know will be life long friends. I had never met them before this year but they are very dear to me now.

Jan