The Forum Personals

[DannyMc]

Do you look at or use the personals of this forum ?

 

[steph]

Oh sure, mostly because I'm a nosy one, I like to know what folks are up to (former reporter and all that...) 😛 Actually, I've met some nice pen pals there!

XOXO

 

[DannyMc]

Hi Steph , I recently added a personal and was surprised by the different people and different personals that are in there . Sure a good place to start if you happen to be looking for someone or something in particular .

 

[TicklishLurker]

Never even been tempted to open it. *shrugs*

 

[DannyMc]

Ticklish Lurker you should , never know what you'll find until you do ....Fun Awaits ......

 

[TicklishLurker]

Ticklish Lurker you should , never know what you'll find until you do ....Fun Awaits ......

What's the point for me though? I have overprotective parents who, even though I'm nearly 30, treat me like I'm 12 - and are getting worse the older they get. I'd never manage a phone call or meeting. Might as well not get anyone's hopes up.

 

[BLUE_THUNDER]

ive never checked them out, i always figured it was a 100 to 1 shot at best id meet someone through those, but then again nothing ventured nothing gained, so maybe at some point ill browse through there........

 

[steph]

Ya, I saw that--you must get on our gatherings list honey, we've some GREAT people here!
XOXO

Hi Steph , I recently added a personal and was surprised by the different people and different personals that are in there . Sure a good place to start if you happen to be looking for someone or something in particular .

 

[DannyMc]

Jami , I'm sorry things at home are that way , but still one has their own life to lead .There lies a time of decision in everyones life and it's not to be the easiest thing to do but a necessary one .

 

[DannyMc]

Thanks Steph I'll check into that .

 

[steph]

YAY! (giggles...)
XOXO

Thanks Steph I'll check into that .

 

[isabeau]

I never check the personals, unless on the first page i see something unusual or else when a friend of mine posts a personal, i will post a comment, vouching for that person..as i did for you Danny..

 

[TicklishLurker]

Eh, I've given up hope anyway....

Jami , I'm sorry things at home are that way , but still one has their own life to lead .There lies a time of decision in everyones life and it's not to be the easiest thing to do but a necessary one .

Besides, most personal ads are nothing but exagerations and out and out lies.

And let's face it, when you're a female on TMF, you're going to get approached no matter what anyway. So personals are frankly unnessasary.

 

[maniactickler]

I rarely get responses from anyone off the personals.

 

[MrPartickler]

....or else when a friend of mine posts a personal, i will post a comment, vouching for that person..as i did for you Danny..

I know it's well-intended, but I always felt that vouching (in that way) only encourages fraud.

 

[isabeau]

I know it's well-intended, but I always felt that vouching (in that way) only encourages fraud.

um why?

 

[MrPartickler]

um why?

It's just that if such vouching actually works (or guys believe it works) to get responses, then the best strategy for guys to employ would be to create female-sounding names, post a few time (to increase their alter-ego's post count and gain a "standing"), then "vouch for themselves" in their own ads. Sure it's a bit unethical, but since it's so easy to do and essentially harms no one, I'd think many would try it.

I'd say if someone wants/needs a reference before responding to a personal, they should probably just seek out that reference themselves--i.e., no unsolicited "vouchers." Actually, IMO, I think if someone really needs an unknown online reference before responding to an online personal ad from another unknown, then they're probably not ready to do much at all....but that's another discussion.

 

[steph]

Hm, interesting take. I've had a lot of success vouching for my girlfriends and having them vouch for guys to meet with for fun and safe play.
XOXO

It's just that if such vouching actually works (or guys believe it works) to get responses, then the best strategy for guys to employ would be to create female-sounding names, post a few time (to increase their alter-ego's post count and gain a "standing"), then "vouch for themselves" in their own ads. Sure it's a bit unethical, but since it's so easy to do and essentially harms no one, I'd think many would try it.

I'd say if someone wants/needs a reference before responding to a personal, they should probably just seek out that reference themselves--i.e., no unsolicited "vouchers." Actually, IMO, I think if someone really needs an unknown online reference before responding to an online personal ad from another unknown, then they're probably not ready to do much at all....but that's another discussion.

 

[MrPartickler]

Hm, interesting take. I've had a lot of success vouching for my girlfriends and having them vouch for guys to meet with for fun and safe play.
XOXO

Awesome. Sounds like more guys should get themselves a voucher to me.

 

[isabeau]

No one asked me to vouch for them...i chose to do it because i knew the person posting the personal and was trying to help..silly me...

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Let's see..... I've been a memeber here for about 5 years. I think I've been to the personals a half dozen times? Those few times were just to see what kinds of stuff was being posted.

Ann

 

[steph]

I'm serious honey, I've met some really nice guys at the green light of respected girl friends...
XOXO

Awesome. Sounds like more guys should get themselves a voucher to me.

 

[maniactickler]

I'm serious honey, I've met some really nice guys at the green light of respected girl friends...
XOXO

Steph, have i been given a green light by anyone yet?

 

[lk70]

When I don't feel like doing anything but play on the computer and I've already read every new thread and story, sometimes I'll look at the personals as reading material.

If I were looking for someone to date or have a play date with I wouldn't use them because I prefer to get to know someone through posts while they have no idea I'm watching 😀

I'm sure some people do use them to hook up though.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I put in an ad, once. When I saw the opportunities that arose, I realized that I could do better just by not using the personals board.