The real reason why I keep coming back to the TMF (and possibly you too ;))

[Tenebrae]

I was chatting with a colleague just now, who is an avid World of Warcraft player. Me, I can't stand MMORPGs; tried EVE Online once, I didn't hate the experience, but it was taking too much time for not enough satisfaction. I largely prefer offline gaming.

So we were talking about that and then he said: "When I started to play WoW, it was because I was a fan of Warcraft III. I came for the universe. But the reason why I stayed for so many years is because of the people I met on it. I keep coming back for them; some of them even became my friends IRL."

And then it hit me: it's the same here. I came here because of the universe: the fetish material. Endless discussions, pictures, videos, etc about my favorite fantasy. But it's the people that made me stay. Over time I've struck actual friendships, and even when interacting more casually there is something unique to find with every one of you: I come here for Wolf and his sarcasm, Milagros and his wisdom, Captured Doll and her caring side, Chicago and her biting wit, Leo and his musical knowledge, etc... Not to reduce you guys to that, but hopefully you see what I mean.

I keep coming to this awesome community because of the people who populate it. Oh and also to improve my English while having fun, let's not deny it 😀

I wonder whether it's the same for you who also come regularly. Either way, thank you all! You're the reason why I come here; can't believe it took me so long to realize it, lol ^_^

 

[milagros317]

Thank you for the complement, my friend. 😀

 

[GirlMeetsTickle]

Awww this is so sweet. Okay, I still consider myself quite new to TMF...(I've only been a visitor in chat for like 4 months) and lurked the site every so often for years prior to joining, essentially to just read stories. But you're right, even in the short time I've been here, it's the people that make it! I enjoy hanging out in chat (understatement of the millennium 😛 You MAY have noticed me in there) because it's like I'm making up for 20+ years of never having talked about this with anyone! Lol

 

[duderino84]

I was chatting with a colleague just now, who is an avid World of Warcraft player. Me, I can't stand MMORPGs; tried EVE Online once, I didn't hate the experience, but it was taking too much time for not enough satisfaction. I largely prefer offline gaming.

So we were talking about that and then he said: "When I started to play WoW, it was because I was a fan of Warcraft III. I came for the universe. But the reason why I stayed for so many years is because of the people I met on it. I keep coming back for them; some of them even became my friends IRL."

And then it hit me: it's the same here. I came here because of the universe: the fetish material. Endless discussions, pictures, videos, etc about my favorite fantasy. But it's the people that made me stay. Over time I've struck actual friendships, and even when interacting more casually there is something unique to find with every one of you: I come here for Wolf and his sarcasm, Milagros and his wisdom, Captured Doll and her caring side, Chicago and her biting wit, Leo and his musical knowledge, etc... Not to reduce you guys to that, but hopefully you see what I mean.

I keep coming to this awesome community because of the people who populate it. Oh and also to improve my English while having fun, let's not deny it 😀

I wonder whether it's the same for you who also come regularly. Either way, thank you all! You're the reason I come here; can't believe it took me so long to realize it, lol ^_^

I know what you mean....take it slow, you don't wanna see what happens after you realize what all the fantasy leads up to.

 

[Sensualswitch10]

I agree 1,000,000 percent! Hyperbole aside, I'm sure sure I would have gotten sick of this forum after a few months if not for the interesting, engaging people on here. It doesn't hurt that I've met quite a few of them at gatherings in real life, but yeah. This is a great community. Much love peeps!

 

[Tenebrae]

Thanks people! I know this post will look somehow unnecessary to some because I am kinda stating the obvious. Yet I really had a late epiphany, so I just felt like sharing my feelings.

I know what you mean....take it slow, you don't wanna see what happens after you realize what all the fantasy leads up to.

I am sorry, I am not certain to have understood your meaning: are you saying that I'll be disappointed if I meet TMFers in real life? IMO it's a pretty pessimistic view to hold, though I guess it must come from personal experience. I've met a few already, and they are just as awesome IRL as online, if not more. I still think that what makes this place great is the people ^_^ Apologies if I misunderstood you view, but I find it rather unclear.

 

[CapturedDoll]

Thanks Tenebrae. Its nice to know you enjoy me in this way. 🙂

 

[Sensualswitch10]

Thanks people! I know this post will look somehow unnecessary to some because I am kinda stating the obvious. Yet I really had a late epiphany, so I just felt like sharing my feelings.





I am sorry, I am not certain to have understood your meaning: are you saying that I'll be disappointed if I meet TMFers in real life? IMO it's a pretty pessimistic view to hold, though I guess it must come from personal experience. I've met a few already, and they are just as awesome IRL as online, if not more. I still think that what makes this place great is the people ^_^ Apologies if I misunderstood you view, but I find it rather unclear.

English is my first (and only) language and I had no idea what he was getting at either

 

[CapturedDoll]

English is my first (and only) language and I had no idea what he was getting at either

Me neither. But I assumed he just meant the "pains of reality".

 

[sonnymadler]

I was chatting with someone from here on Skype the other day. They said that they've been a member for years here, but only recently started frequenting this place, particularly the chat room, thanks to the awesome people they’d met here that make it worth coming back here.

And I wholeheartedly agree with them. Though the forum has its crisis moments that make me want to quit altogether, I still end up coming back LOL. It's the lovely people that I've met here that make me want to come back and spend too much damn time in the chat room. 😀 But it's worth it. It certainly made me feel part of a family of outcasts almost, when I didn't know there were people like me who gather up here and chat.

 

[Tenebrae]

Thanks Tenebrae. Its nice to know you enjoy me in this way. 🙂

Aww come on: everybody here loves you, not just me. Like Leo said, 2016 was the Year of the Doll! You are trying so hard to be nice, even to people who aren't, and to bring us together with your lovely ideas and encouragements!

 

[duderino84]

I am sorry, I am not certain to have understood your meaning: are you saying that I'll be disappointed if I meet TMFers in real life? IMO it's a pretty pessimistic view to hold, though I guess it must come from personal experience. I've met a few already, and they are just as awesome IRL as online, if not more. I still think that what makes this place great is the people ^_^ Apologies if I misunderstood you view, but I find it rather unclear.

No problem...I'll elaborate...I'm not sure if there really is much of a population outside the TMF (recent posts of Myriads have led me to think there isn't) and it would probably be positive if there were, but generally I think it's a bit more difficult for people who define themselves as fetishists to avoid getting sucked into the idea of going out and trying to find people that fit their fetish preferences rather than find people that fit themselves. For example, like we talk about people from the tickling community; I think I met a person or two from the TMF online but those were pretty disconnected impartial conversations, one who wanted to talk about everything but tickling and another who kept trying to convince me to meet at some random motel and get tied up (I like some bizarre but let's face it...even I have my limits). I did meet one girl who defined herself as a "lee" but she turned out batshit (I hate to give people the impression I'm really judgmental but as far as I'm concerned people get what they give). But I think knowing the reason you keep coming back is almost the same as knowing what the endgame for this lifestyle is. After all, the real question here is... what is love?

That? Or this



I keep coming back for that sweet sweet vidya and the variety of conversation!

 

[Tenebrae]

Ahhhhhhh now I get it... I think ^_^ I wasn't talking about love, but about friendship, and all the little things that happen in the community besides the mere fetishist aspect. Like, you know: Bugman and his cultural posts, CD cuddling pretty much everyone, Ned and his vast knowledge, etc... It's worth logging in just to give someone I like a shout out, following a discussion or checking on an old friend. This place is so much more than just a "gathering-of-pervs-who-exchange-wank-material". It's men and women, of all ages, nationalities and backgrounds (although most of them Americans, but for me it is kind of a good thing) who all have something to say. And what they are saying is usually super interesting.

The art section alone is awesome. There is SO MUCH creativity going on there! And you get to talk to the artist directly, how awesome is that? Instant feedback, suggestions: you name it! It's great to be able to interact in this way!

I don't want to pry but you sound a little bit depressed. Or maybe a tad pessimistic. I am no Captured Doll, so I don't know if what I am gonna say is gonna warm your heart, but think of a world without the TMF for an instant. Can you imagine passing up on all those friendships, those discussions, and more generally all these little "wow" moments we had here? I don't wanna live in a world without Bugman, Chicago, Milagros, Bohemianne, etc... Without the TMF, MTJ would be a distant organization whose artists would be just funny Internet names, instead of the unique men and women we got to know. There would be no gatherings either, like NEST and munches and whatnot; we'd never get to meet like-minded people in the flesh. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you may feel lonely, but you're not alone. And you may be closer to what you seek than you even think. Granted, if this time I understood you correctly lol 😀

 

[duderino84]

Ahhhhhhh now I get it... I think ^_^ I wasn't talking about love, but about friendship, and all the little things that happen in the community besides the mere fetishist aspect. Like, you know: Bugman and his cultural posts, CD cuddling pretty much everyone, Ned and his vast knowledge, etc... It's worth logging in just to give someone I like a shout out, following a discussion or checking on an old friend. This place is so much more than just a "gathering-of-pervs-who-exchange-wank-material". It's men and women, of all ages, nationalities and backgrounds (although most of them Americans, but for me it is kind of a good thing) who all have something to say. And what they are saying is usually super interesting.

The art section alone is awesome. There is SO MUCH creativity going on there! And you get to talk to the artist directly, how awesome is that? Instant feedback, suggestions: you name it! It's great to be able to interact in this way!

I don't want to pry but you sound a little bit depressed. Or maybe a tad pessimistic. I am no Captured Doll, so I don't know if what I am gonna say is gonna warm your heart, but think of a world without the TMF for an instant. Can you imagine passing up on all those friendships, those discussions, and more generally all these little "wow" moments we had here? I don't wanna live in a world without Bugman, Chicago, Milagros, Bohemianne, etc... Without the TMF, MTJ would be a distant organization whose artists would be just funny Internet names, instead of the unique men and women we got to know. There would be no gatherings either, like NEST and munches and whatnot; we'd never get to meet like-minded people in the flesh. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you may feel lonely, but you're not alone. And you may be closer to what you seek than you even think. Granted, if this time I understood you correctly lol 😀

You did. I'm hard headed lately when it comes to topics...I isolate that one area (Like love vs friendship) and hit the head of the nail redundantly. I know what you mean, I enjoy kind of peeking in and seeing posts from people that seem new to it where it's fresh and there's these new perspectives, Tickle gamer with the gaming posts, Mariowuitomari's randomness or seeing rickytickly's posts etc. I mean, to me the difference between TMF and prettymuch...well, everywhere else, is there is the forum aspect to it. It does make the porn optional in some respects. But is it still not a porn site? lol. So I was going to originally post some real truth here, maybe an extra paragraph really, and people probably would make it seem like how you're describing it (depression). But let's just riddle me this: what good is a social network forum that nobody externally widely knows about? Moreover, what form does that question being asked make the forum? It's really more of a blog. It used to get me pissed to hear people refer to forum posting as blogging, but without the depth of interpersonal connection (Something that you believe is present, I think we differ in this regard), it's like a communal diary.

But all things considered, when I say I'm here for the vidya and some banter, this is pretty good vidya banter.

 

[Bohemianne]

... what is love?

LOL, of all the... I can't believe you're one of them who came here in pursuit of [cough]... love! XD

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Anyway, here's my simple explanation of coming back here. As years passed me by, I think I developed a TMF fetish already, especially with the Silly Stuff Forum. Getting acquainted to learn, with the maybe uncommon English idioms and vocabularies, could be a plus (but I forgot most of them already - as some of them are bad, lol).

 

[Bohemianne]

I don't wanna live in a world without Bugman, Chicago, Milagros, Bohemianne, etc... Without the TMF, MTJ would be a distant organization whose artists would be just funny Internet names, instead of the unique men and women we got to know.

Aaaaaaaaw! I could live with that for now...

 

[Rickytickly]

I've been on and off this site several times, with several different names over the past 15 years, but only started posting and going in the chat room now. But the reason I keep coming back is, yeah, I'm addicted to my fetish. I never actually left, I just kept losing my username and password. Why haven't I been active on the site until now? Because before, I only came to look at the clips and feet pics, but now I realize there's so much free stuff along those lines elsewhere on the net. No, this time I came back because I was so tempted to actually talk to other tickle people in the chat room, of whom I've never met before, and was I in for a big surprise. Firstly, I never anticipated getting PM'd by nothing but men, and over and over again at that. Secondly, I had no idea there'd be such hostility in the chat room as I've experienced, certainly not by everyone there, but by enough to make me be afraid to go in. And thirdly, I had no idea it would be empty most of the time due to people PM'ing. This means I'm supposed to do the same myself, but I'm sorry, I just don't have the confidence to go knocking on a complete stranger's window, and run the risk of them slamming it on me. Or even asking them when they're outside, and them telling me...NO!!@!!! Oh, I did ask someone just recently when I was last in there, and she said yes, but while we were PM'ing, she stayed on the main board at the same time...yeah that's right, so she was having two conversations at once; one with me, and one with the other people.

I was kind, but I said, OK, I'd rather not continue, because I get the feeling you're not really that interested in me. I admit I'm not always an interesting person to talk to.

As I said elsewhere, I don't think the chat room is quite for me...I think I do better in the forum.



And as someone else here always ends it; "that's just my opinion, man."

 

[BlasterMaster]

Why do I keep coming back?
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......the porn. The mountains of porn. THE MOUNTAINS AND OCEANS AND RIVERS OF PORN! A WHOLE MULTIVERSE OF PORN! PORN! PORN! PORN!
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......just kidding. That's only ONE of the reasons. 😉 😀

 

[duderino84]

Why do I keep coming back?
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......the porn. The mountains of porn. THE MOUNTAINS AND OCEANS AND RIVERS OF PORN! A WHOLE MULTIVERSE OF PORN! PORN! PORN! PORN!
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......just kidding. That's only ONE of the reasons. 😉 😀

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[Tenebrae]

Aaaaaaaaw! I could live with that for now...

You're awesome

 

[Tenebrae]

Why do I keep coming back?
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......the porn. The mountains of porn. THE MOUNTAINS AND OCEANS AND RIVERS OF PORN! A WHOLE MULTIVERSE OF PORN! PORN! PORN! PORN!
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......just kidding. That's only ONE of the reasons. 😉 😀

Lol I knew there was a good reason for me to come back to this thread. Love your post

Actually the TMF's content is not as plentiful as one may think. Lots of advertisement, less free stuff compared to, say, an artist's deviantART. But the discussions, the people are the lifeblood of this site.

Your post did make me laugh though 😉

 

[kevin_kidnapped]

LOL, of all the... I can't believe you're one of them who came here in pursuit of [cough]... love! XD

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Anyway, here's my simple explanation of coming back here. As years passed me by, I think I developed a TMF fetish already, especially with the Silly Stuff Forum. Getting acquainted to learn, with the maybe uncommon English idioms and vocabularies, could be a plus (but I forgot most of them already - as some of them are bad, lol).

Yeah, dont make the mistake of coming here for love. Even if someone tells you that they love you, don't neccesarily believe it. Not trying to be a downer, just a realist.

The real reason for coming here is the people. So many varied people from all walks of life that share a common interest. Its the people that make TMF what it is and keeps me coming back. Knowing that we all share something unique that the vanilla world doesn't get is what makes this a special place for me 🙂

 

[duderino84]

Yeah, dont make the mistake of coming here for love. Even if someone tells you that they love you, don't neccesarily believe it. Not trying to be a downer, just a realist.

The real reason for coming here is the people. So many varied people from all walks of life that share a common interest. Its the people that make TMF what it is and keeps me coming back. Knowing that we all share something unique that the vanilla world doesn't get is what makes this a special place for me 🙂

Well, I let it go once, but since my misplaced wording naturally erodes fucking everything. I wrote "what is love" as in "what is love when it prettymuch becomes whatever fantasy someone's looking to fulfill" (just my opinion). Like what does it become then? I know a lot of other people seem to find people whose thoughts are aligned with their own or there's some deep bond or a "click" but really I'm just too good at calling people as I see them (usually on their own shit) and I haven't found that person who balances me out or someone who seems to share any characteristics I do. I've been pretty clear I'm here for bullshitting/porn.

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

I can't say my reasons are the same as yours honestly. I come here cuz i have friends here only but that's about it.

 

[Wolf]

I dunno, I think the Dude has a point; a lot of the warm, fuzzy feelings people claim to have for others may be based on fantasy, and sometimes, reality can be jarring. Unless you've had the opportunity to meet a TMF member and deal with them in person, or at least have a voice chat, where you can pick up on all the nuances of speech, you're really only getting a partial picture of who someone is, and a lot of bonds people think they've made are bonds with who they imagine these people to be, based on what they've shared in the forum. It's one reason a number of people have to deal with things like "OMG we're soulmates! I'm flying cross-country to meet you tomorrow, ok?". There are people here who I think I'd like if I met them in person; people with similar experiences or outlooks, or people whose posts seem to show traits I admire. But I'm only going on partial information.