The tickling leading to sex thing.

[MAJ0718]

For me, tickling a woman's feet can automatically make me excited enough to make love on the spot.

Although my sentiments exactly, I found through experience that I have to restrain myself to get to know the ticklee (potential partner) better as a person in hope for a lasting relationship. To me, the lady is more than a piece of meat, she should be a companion and confidant. And this is the very reason that I joined the TMF in the first place, as I felt so out of place in life for my passion for tickling, especially a woman's feet. Just my thoughts...

 

[featherfingers]

This past December my ladyfriend and I broke up precisely because of the sex issue, after SIX years of her being my tickle buddy. It eventually had to happen. I was giving her a sensual massage (lots of light tickles all over her body) when my hand brushed against her love mound (Yeah, I guess it was a little intentional). Anyway, she asked me to do it again and before you know it, I was making her very happy down there (not exactly full blown sex but the next best thing). Problem is, she's got a fiance. He was always okay with me giving her tickle sessions but we took it a bit too far this time. I mean, six years without an incident and now THIS! He forgave us this time...

...however, the next time she and I got together I refrained from touching her there... but she asked me to suck her toes. How could I resist! And the time after that, we went another round with the... well, you know. So, we called it quits. Six years down the drain because we could no longer control ourselves. From now on I will have to practice self-restraint with whomever I'm tickling. After all, not all women want to go beyond tickling. But I will admit, and I've seen this happen many times and not just with the lady I mentioned, a lot of women I've tickled have gotten incredibly turned on. Tickling can be fun but it can be incredibly arousing, too, as a lot of you have already mentioned. I just wanted to confirm that.

 

[Illtcklu]

hmm, not sure if I'm allowed to answer this since I'm a ticklee 😛 but it's the same for me - if I GET tickled by someone I am attracted to it turns me on a lot

This seems to be the view of most 'lees'. Some I think can do it without the attraction, but if there is one I think it makes it better.

 

[toyou444]

Does this relate to you?

I like to tickle. I love it. It gets me very excited when i tickle a member of the opposite sex i find even remotely attractive.

Does this apply to anyone else? Does tickling someone you like even just a tiny bit get you thinking about having sex with them?

What are your thoughts? Please share.

Yes, it can definitely happen to me. I love tickling for the sake of tickling. Sometimes I even get turned on when I'm tickling someone other than my wife, but I NEVER wanted to have sex with anyone else. I may have a certain PHYSICAL response to tickling and being tickled (read: erection) but to me sex is much more mental. That mental/spiritual/psycological bond with my wife. So tickling between myself and her often leads to more intimate activites, but never with anyone else.

She has a hard time udnerstanding this. I can't explain it except to say just because I have a hard on it doesn't mean I want to have sex. I believe we are slightly above animals and can make decisions using our big brain instead.

Just my 4 cents.

~ toyou

 

[Capnmad]

Meh. It's always fun and a nice thing to do, but the degree to which I'm turned on by it is context specific and depends on the person I'm with.

 

[kis123]

Yes, it can definitely happen to me. I love tickling for the sake of tickling. Sometimes I even get turned on when I'm tickling someone other than my wife, but I NEVER wanted to have sex with anyone else. I may have a certain PHYSICAL response to tickling and being tickled (read: erection) but to me sex is much more mental. That mental/spiritual/psycological bond with my wife. So tickling between myself and her often leads to more intimate activites, but never with anyone else.

She has a hard time udnerstanding this. I can't explain it except to say just because I have a hard on it doesn't mean I want to have sex. I believe we are slightly above animals and can make decisions using our big brain instead.

Just my 4 cents.

~ toyou

This is a very mature answer and I agree with you. However, I also agree with your wife. I don't think it's about your wife trusting you; she's probably like me and isn't very trusting towards women. I'm not trying to insult any of our beautiful TMF ladies-I believe most of them are more progressive and free-spirited than any chick I know. However, there are some women out here who don't know how to keep things simple. What do you mean kis? I'm glad you asked.

If a woman gets turned on when someone else's husband is tickling them, what is to stop her from trying to continue the relationship beyond the experience? I've always said I'd allow my SO to tickle someone else at a gathering only, but no one who is local. I don't want tickle dates made behind my back or a tenacious woman coming after my man.

Sometimes men don't see a woman coming after him, but a woman can spot it 100 miles away! Maybe your wife is trying to protect her husband and family from potential predators-I understand how she feels.

 

[Strider]

Well, it depends on who's involved. If I'm playing with somebody I'm attracted to, then yes, obviously there's certain things hovering in the back of my head that wouldn't be there with someone I'm just tickling for the sake of tickling.

As a sidenote, my ex used to tickle me whenever she wanted sex, because she knew it turned me on relatively quick

 

[brianspencer66]

I had an experience with a married women whos husband thought tickling was "childish". We agreed to meet and her hubby was fine with it as she repeated several times to me "no sex" which I had no problem with. To cut to the chase we did eventually meet but I soon found out (with her husband in the next room) that she became increasingly aroused from being tickled. Now I dont think this was intentional on her part it was just somthing that just happened as she at one point asked me to tickle her "lower". Ever since then I made a vow not to play with married women in that context as it could lead to unexpected complications. But to address the question in this thread yes with the right person it is indeed a turn on.

 

[toyou444]

This is a very mature answer and I agree with you. However, I also agree with your wife. I don't think it's about your wife trusting you; she's probably like me and isn't very trusting towards women. I'm not trying to insult any of our beautiful TMF ladies-I believe most of them are more progressive and free-spirited than any chick I know. However, there are some women out here who don't know how to keep things simple. What do you mean kis? I'm glad you asked.

If a woman gets turned on when someone else's husband is tickling them, what is to stop her from trying to continue the relationship beyond the experience? I've always said I'd allow my SO to tickle someone else at a gathering only, but no one who is local. I don't want tickle dates made behind my back or a tenacious woman coming after my man.

Sometimes men don't see a woman coming after him, but a woman can spot it 100 miles away! Maybe your wife is trying to protect her husband and family from potential predators-I understand how she feels.

Now there is an interesting perspective that I did not think of. I would only disagree (and this may need to be a seperate thread, sorry for the hijack) on the grounds that it "takes two to tango" if you will. I have been in situations where my wife thought a woman had a thing for me and told me so. My response is always that it doesn't matter what the other person thinks if I disagree. I have never, repeat: NEVER, cheated on a girlfirend before I was married or my wife since we've been married. Its not my thing and not my idea for a good idea.

With my wife I think another part of it is that she only see tickling as something sexual between me and her, so if I am tickling someone else she automatically associates it with sex. She cannot understand how I seperate the two things in my mind. My only way of explaining it is what I said in the above post. Sex is more that an erection and getting it on. It is deeper for me and the physical reactions I get I think should be controlled by my big brain, not the little one.

~ toyou

 

[Eternal Tomboy]

I might be in the minority here, but 9 times out of 10, tickling is all I need to feel satisfied. Even when I'm with my husband, and I'm "in the mood", most times, if he gives me a prolonged tickling session first, the need for sex seems to dwindle for me - which I think is probably contrary to most here. Tickle me for an hour, and I'll fall asleep shortly thereafter - in much the same way most guys do after sex If my husband has any hope of keeping me in the game until the bottom of the ninth, he's better off only tickling me for 10 minutes or so... enough to get the motor running, but not enough to stall the engine

As fas as tickling with other guys, it is strictly a fun and playful thing for me - my body registers this kind of tickling like the feelings I get riding a roller coaster (butterflies, adrenaline, etc.). I've never been with a guy friend and gotten tickled and experienced feelings of wanting to have sex with him. Tickling and sexual feelings are completely separate in this instance. With no attraction, no emotional connection (speaking romantically here), or no intimate physical contact, my brain doesn't link tickling to sex.


Maggie

 

[Texas_Tickle]

Does this relate to you?

I like to tickle. I love it. It gets me very excited when i tickle a member of the opposite sex i find even remotely attractive.

Does this apply to anyone else? Does tickling someone you like even just a tiny bit get you thinking about having sex with them?

What are your thoughts? Please share.

While tickling is a excellent form of fore-play, it does not have to lead to sexual encounters.