The "you wouldn't understand explanation"

[tickleteasing]

You know every year when I go to nest or to another gathering I always feel like that I want to say to the people who ask where I go the words you wouldn't understand. The thing is that explanation is really not accurate, its not a matter of you wouldn't understand its a matter that it would change everything if you knew. Let me explain, and I am not trying to make anyone sick, I am just trying to make a point here so go with me ok.
First let me give you some background information on my family, my father is a retired doctor, so if there is anyone who really "Understands" sexuality it would be him, my problem is not him or for that matter my family understanding, I think logically they would understand. Its the fact that they would know would change the emotions attached to the event. For example sex, is part of life, I know this is a tickling forum but I think you can understand what I mean here by the connection between tickling and sex. If they know exactly what I am doing then my approach to it can never be the same, if they knew exactly what I was doing at a gathering I could never approach it with the same mindset. So in my opinion on a biological explanation my father would understand, but if he were to know it would just change everything about my ability to approach it. Am I right in this opinion?

 

[Benny1386]

I kind of agree

I must agree that if I were to go to a gathering and inform my family where I was going, it would be an uneasy situation for me. I would have in the back of my mind that they know and can only imagine what they are thinking. They knew i had a "tickle fetish" when I was younger but they believed that I outgrew it..far from it. Being that your dad is a retired doctor, it may be something that you and him could keep between ya'll. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with him but if he's someone you can truely trust it may take some weight of your shoulders. Thats just what I think, but what do i know haha.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I don't think it's a matter of right or wrong. The way we feel is the way we feel. Everyone has a slightly (at least) take on what tickling means for them. So, the answer will vary from one person to the next. 😉

 

[ticklebunny 2]

I understand what you are saying tickleteasing. I can understand and relate to what you are saying. While yes my mom knows I like to be tickled and I like to tickle-much more than that-she doesn't really know the heart of it to be honest lol. It is a long story don't want to get into it, lets just say my mom accidentally found out my love to be tickled and to tickle a real long time ago. Anyways-yeah she knows this-however she doesn't really know how deep the passion for tickling goes. That is the way I want to keep it. Not that I think she would think strange of me either, just it is personal and it is not really her business.

So even though she knows about my love for tickling-like I said she doesn't know how deep it runs, she thinks it is silly and goofy and lighthearted being the reason me and my husband like it. However I get what you saying-however if she had any idea how big time of a passion tickling is for my hubby and me-knew that it is not just lighthearted casual fun-but for hubby and me it can be sensual and exciting and sexual as well-well I don't think my mom would take that too good-I mean sure she knows this deep down hubby and I being intimate-but again something natural granted sex and tickling that is-but something she would not want to know about.

So I can understand what you mean friend. It is something personal and private not something you want your parents or family members to hear or see or know about-not that it would change one's view on tickling and view also on what can be exciting and what can also be sensual and sexual-however it just too much information for a parent or family member to hear. So I agree with you totally-something that should stay private-I agree if your parents or family truly really knew why you go on vacays-tickling being involved in vacation time-it would ruin your fun totally and not be the same thrill. Totally agree and totally get what you mean. Great thread. I think you are doing the right thing, be true to yourself and keep it private-no need to have to share that with them. Hugs