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This Touched Me....A Special Reminder of Age

Mimi

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What do you see, nurses, what do you see?
What are you thinking when you're looking at me?
A crabby old woman, not very wise,
Uncertain of habit, with faraway eyes?

Who dribbles her food and makes no reply,
When you say in a loud voice, "I do wish you'd try!"
Who seems not to notice the things that you do,
And forever is losing a stocking or shoe.

Who, resisting or not, lets you do as you will,
With bathing and feeding, the long day to fill....
Is that what you're thinking? Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes, nurse; you're not looking at me.

I'll tell you who I am as I sit here so still,
As I do at your bidding, as I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of ten ..with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters, who love one another.

A young girl of sixteen, with wings on her feet,
Waiting for her soul true love to come and meet
A bride soon at twenty -- my heart gives a leap,
Remembering the vows that I promised to keep.

At twenty five now, I have young of my own,
Who need me to guide and a secure happy home.
A woman of thirty, my young now grown fast,
Bound to each other with ties that should last.

At forty, my young sons have grown and are gone,
But my man's beside me to see I don't mourn.
At fifty once more, babies play round my knee,
Again we know children, my loved one and me.

Dark days are upon me, my husband is dead;
I look at the future, I shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing young of their own,
And I think of the years and the love that I've known.

I'm now an old woman ...and nature is cruel;
'Tis jest to make old age look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles, grace and vigor depart,
There is now a stone where I once had a heart.

But inside this old carcass a young girl still dwells,
And now and again my battered heart swells.
I remember the joys, I remember the pain,
And I'm loving and living life over again.

I think of the years ....all too few, gone too fast,
And accept the stark fact that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, nurses, open and see,
Not a crabby old woman; look closer ...see ME!



The origin of the poem:

When an old lady died in the geriatric ward of a small hospital near Dundee, Scotland, it was felt that she had nothing left of any value. Later, when the nurses were going through her meager possessions, they found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital. One nurse took her copy to Ireland.

The old lady's sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the North Ireland Association for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on her simple, but eloquent, poem. ...And this little old Scottish lady, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this "anonymous" poem winging across the
Internet. Goes to show that we all leave SOME footprints in time.

Remember this poem when you next meet an old person who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within... We will one day be there, too!
 
One word: Euthanasia... (cue the Delta Airlines music) it's the only way to die...
 
Well NOW you did it Mimi....Making a grown man tear up from words on a page isnt cool....😉

I found a response to this one...A Nurses reply......



A Nurses reply - - by Liz Hogben

What do we see, you ask, what do we see?
Yes, we are thinking when looking at thee
We may seem to be hard when we hurry and fuss
But there's many of you and too few of us.

We would like far more time to sit by you and talk
To bath you and feed you and help you to walk
To hear of your lives and the things you have done
Your childhood, your husband, your daughter, your son.

But time is against us, there's too much to do -
Patients too many and nurses too few
We grieve when we see you so sad and alone
With nobody near you, no friends of your own
We feel all your pain, and know of your fear
That nobody cares now your end is so near.

But nurses are people with feelings as well
And when we're together you'll often hear tell
Of the dearest old Gran in the very end bed
And the lovely old Dad and the things that he said
We speak with compassion and love, and feel sad
When we think of your lives and the joy that you've had.

When the time has arrived for you to depart
You leave us behind with an ache in our heart
When you sleep the long sleep, no more worry or care
There are other people, and we must be there
So please understand if we hurry and fuss
There are many of you and too few of us!!
 
makes you see both sides with love and tenderness, never take anything for granted.
 
Okay Ray, you got me on that one. I cried. Actually, I cried when I found the first one, but you got me crying again with the reply.

I just read both of those to my mother, and we shared a good long bawl over the phone. She has been a nurse for nearly 30 years, and all of her years on the job have been spent working in nursing homes with elderly patients. She has always been one of the true good nurses, dedictated to her work and to her patients. She has always taken the time to talk with her patients, learn about their lives and experiences, and treat them with the respect and admiration they deserve. And everytime a patient on her ward passed on, she mourned as she would for a friend.

It makes you sad to think about the pains and frustrations on both sides of the fence.

Mimi
 
Ray said it best Mimi... it's not nice to make a grown man tear-up. For that matter, it's not easy to do either.

Thanks Mimi and Ray for the poems. Very poignant.
 
I can definitely appreciate these. Having spent most of my life caring for people in their homes, I've seen a lot. The fact that it's too short staffed to take proper total care of people is one of the reasons that I chose to stay with home care rather than hospital or nursing homes. When I was training in a nursing home (all those years ago), I was told that the woman I was assigned to was a totally non-responsive parkinson's patient. Before the first day had ended I found that, though she could no onger speak, she DID respond...and initiated things. You just had to be paying attention to her...something the understaffed regular crew was too rushed to do.

Every one of my former patients was a gift to me. Each taught me things that I needed to learn...about love and compassion, about patience, about real listening....so many things. I really miss that now that my own health doesn't cooperate long enough to commit to anyone as a caregiver. Thanks for sharing those, guys!

Ann
 
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