Thoughts on others tickling your partner

[feedursole]

I've seen this topic absolutely soar in popularity recently. Mostly people sharing their experiences or fantasy thoughts on the matter. What I notice is some people getting hung up on the "right and wrong" of it. That or some sort of form of shame/guilt around it.

At the end of the day, isnt it about what makes you happy? As long, and of course, as its 2 (or more) consenting adults. I dont think that there is any validation needed when it comes to your style and how you get down with it.

That being said, this isnt some sort of "oh you gotta try it" advocation post. Its not something we dove into. Rather just kind of evolved this way over time. Years of time. And lots and lots and LOTS of talking/discussions on anything remotely related.

It's also not as easy as "I enjoy watching my wife get tickled" either. There's no context to that statement. Because most of the time, thats not the case. Its not very practical either.

However, because we have had experiences in the past that happened organically, she has figured out that she just loves being tickled on her feet period.

If we use my roller coaster analogy, like my wife has explained, it would be like riding the same roller coaster that scares you just as bad every time, but you know where all the scary stuff is. I know precisely where my wife's worst spots are, and accordingly she knows that I can take her to 10 immediately. I know all her secrets.

On the flip side, with a new roller coaster, you have no idea where the turns and drops are. You know what your reaction will be if they're good enough to make you react, but its more of the anticipation that plays a factor in all of the excitement. Knowing that you're capable of losing it at any moment IF the roller coaster makes the right move.

She knows exactly where and how ticklish her feet are, but obviously somebody who isnt familiar with them would be completely oblivious. So that anticipation plays more of a factor in the thrill and ticklishness as well.

Its uncharted territory for both the tickler and ticklee. The rush of feeling new tactics and sensations and not knowing any secrets yet. Hoping that your do or dont get exposed and used against you.

So it's all case by case. Whatever works for you both and makes you happy when you lay down at night. I think the entire spectrum is awesome and interesting and I love exploring it all!

We've enjoyed reading feedback and look forward to hopefully reading more!

 

[WickedTouch]

I've seen this topic absolutely soar in popularity recently. Mostly people sharing their experiences or fantasy thoughts on the matter. What I notice is some people getting hung up on the "right and wrong" of it. That or some sort of form of shame/guilt around it.

At the end of the day, isnt it about what makes you happy? As long, and of course, as its 2 (or more) consenting adults. I dont think that there is any validation needed when it comes to your style and how you get down with it.

That being said, this isnt some sort of "oh you gotta try it" advocation post. Its not something we dove into. Rather just kind of evolved this way over time. Years of time. And lots and lots and LOTS of talking/discussions on anything remotely related.

It's also not as easy as "I enjoy watching my wife get tickled" either. There's no context to that statement. Because most of the time, thats not the case. Its not very practical either.

However, because we have had experiences in the past that happened organically, she has figured out that she just loves being tickled on her feet period.

If we use my roller coaster analogy, like my wife has explained, it would be like riding the same roller coaster that scares you just as bad every time, but you know where all the scary stuff is. I know precisely where my wife's worst spots are, and accordingly she knows that I can take her to 10 immediately. I know all her secrets.

On the flip side, with a new roller coaster, you have no idea where the turns and drops are. You know what your reaction will be if they're good enough to make you react, but its more of the anticipation that plays a factor in all of the excitement. Knowing that you're capable of losing it at any moment IF the roller coaster makes the right move.

She knows exactly where and how ticklish her feet are, but obviously somebody who isnt familiar with them would be completely oblivious. So that anticipation plays more of a factor in the thrill and ticklishness as well.

Its uncharted territory for both the tickler and ticklee. The rush of feeling new tactics and sensations and not knowing any secrets yet. Hoping that your do or dont get exposed and used against you.

So it's all case by case. Whatever works for you both and makes you happy when you lay down at night. I think the entire spectrum is awesome and interesting and I love exploring it all!

We've enjoyed reading feedback and look forward to hopefully reading more!

It's funny you use the roller coaster analogy, as that is the same way I often describe it. My wife and I are both switches and play with other couples and women. We feel the same way about the novelty of the surprise and anticipation. Everyone tickles differently and everyone has their own level of ticklishness and signature of expression while being tickled. We have several reasons we like to play with others, but a big part of it is being able to see different angles of each other and building a closeness through that. We are careful with the management of feelings like jealousy and insecurity through a lot of communication, and we take a lot of care in discernment in who we play with, which really helps. So, yes there's a lot of work in it to make it fit, but when it does, it is very fun and rewarding. I've been amazed at how it has improved our already great communication and helped us to better understand each other.

 

[feedursole]

It's funny you use the roller coaster analogy, as that is the same way I often describe it. My wife and I are both switches and play with other couples and women. We feel the same way about the novelty of the surprise and anticipation. Everyone tickles differently and everyone has their own level of ticklishness and signature of expression while being tickled. We have several reasons we like to play with others, but a big part of it is being able to see different angles of each other and building a closeness through that. We are careful with the management of feelings like jealousy and insecurity through a lot of communication, and we take a lot of care in discernment in who we play with, which really helps. So, yes there's a lot of work in it to make it fit, but when it does, it is very fun and rewarding. I've been amazed at how it has improved our already great communication and helped us to better understand each other.

Really super appreciate this feedback, thank you so much!

Right. Anybody we've ever "let in" has been close and trusted for a long time. I (we) would react to a stranger touching my wife's feet the same as any other body part and they would regret it. As Im sure everybody reading this would feel the same. I am not a small man. That's my queen.

So obviously that trust and connection is needed first and foremost. I wont say there could NEVER be a situation in the right place, the right time, with the right amount of alcohol hahahaha. But that's more along the lines of something fantasy.

Not that some fantasy ideas dont pop in, but in all reality they are super highly unlikely and just that...a fantasy!

 

[WickedTouch]

Really super appreciate this feedback, thank you so much!

Right. Anybody we've ever "let in" has been close and trusted for a long time. I (we) would react to a stranger touching my wife's feet the same as any other body part and they would regret it. As Im sure everybody reading this would feel the same. I am not a small man. That's my queen.

So obviously that trust and connection is needed first and foremost. I wont say there could NEVER be a situation in the right place, the right time, with the right amount of alcohol hahahaha. But that's more along the lines of something fantasy.

Not that some fantasy ideas dont pop in, but in all reality they are super highly unlikely and just that...a fantasy!

No problem—you are very welcome. Yes, the level of entitlement and ego that we are approached with is frequent and disturbing. I don't know why so many think that attitude is the right way to go. We treat play with others as something of a mutual gift or like-kind exchange that is to be approached with a sense of respect and gratitude. I think if more in the community held those values and conducted themselves in concert with them, they'd be more successful. It's refreshing to hear a like-minded perspective. Thank you for sharing 🙂

 

[TheMasterTouch]

For me, the fantasy is one of my fiancée's longtime female friends tickling her. Primarily, the nurses she's worked with over the years. She knows this is a fantasy of mine, and she's told me about which of her fellow nurses are "naughty" (as in the kind of person who would tickle her if given an opportunity).

There was an incident at her job a few months ago that could give me an opening. She works on a small team, and without giving too many direct details, she revealed her ticklishness to her colleagues. She's part of a small, close-knit team, and at times, they have events outside of work. Her boss has hosted events at her home in the past, and she even asked her if she was ticklish and that she should be careful not to reveal that. 😁

There are also occasional "road trips" where they visit nursing homes to provide consulting services and need to stay overnight in a hotel. I've gone with her on some of these trips. Should the opportunity arise, I would definitely think about how I could instigate something. 😏😈

 

[feedursole]

For me, the fantasy is one of my fiancée's longtime female friends tickling her. Primarily, the nurses she's worked with over the years. She knows this is a fantasy of mine, and she's told me about which of her fellow nurses are "naughty" (as in the kind of person who would tickle her if given an opportunity).

There was an incident at her job a few months ago that could give me an opening. She works on a small team, and without giving too many direct details, she revealed her ticklishness to her colleagues. She's part of a small, close-knit team, and at times, they have events outside of work. Her boss has hosted events at her home in the past, and she even asked her if she was ticklish and that she should be careful not to reveal that. 😁

There are also occasional "road trips" where they visit nursing homes to provide consulting services and need to stay overnight in a hotel. I've gone with her on some of these trips. Should the opportunity arise, I would definitely think about how I could instigate something. 😏😈

Sensational! I hope that this comes to fruition for you. Thank you for your feedback!