Thoughts?

[KnismoUK]

Someone posted this on Tumblr the other day. It's an interesting point...

"I don’t like the fact that certain fetishes like spanking or other activies that cause pain are more socially acceptable then liking something like tickling or having a tickle fetish. Like, really? A kink that cause PHYSICAL PAIN is fine but OOOOO no tickling is just a bit on the weird side"

I'm just curios to know what people's thoughts are 🙂

 

[mindy]

I have long believed that the difference is that getting tickled makes someone feel panicky and out of control, and that's something even the most hard core subs tend to shy away from. I think people feel they have a grip on themselves and how much they can handle when it comes to pain.

When I used to hang out on irc it was almost funny to hear a lot of subs bragging about how they'd take anything, then mention of tickling was a hard limit. (Leading, in part, to my belief that most online "subs" are really just attention seekers).

 

[chicago]

I never understood the fascination or desire for the mainstream to accept tickling. I've never personally come across anyone that thought it was creepy. If someone wasn't into it, they'd just say that and that's fine. Anyone who feels the need to be cruel about it is just an ass hole. Whatever people want to do, pain or otherwise (and tickling can be just as uncomfortable), as long as it's consensual, who gives a fuck haha

 

[Comfort Eagle]

I never understood the fascination or desire for the mainstream to accept tickling. I've never personally come across anyone that thought it was creepy. If someone wasn't into it, they'd just say that and that's fine.

Over the years I've noticed a lot of people who are obsessed with "acceptance" or terrified of being "outed" tend to not have a lot of sexual experience and seem to blame the fetish on it, regardless of whether it's a case of only being turned on by tickle stuff or just it being an otherwise minor part of what gets them off. Almost like a crutch people lean on as an excuse for not having a lot of sex or kink experiences; "if only it were a little more accepted".

Which is moronic because what's the 'biggest fetish'? Spanking? BDSM stuff? See how that's still a constant source of jokes and hilarity for people who don't get off on it? How accepted to people really expect it to be, it's a sex fetish. By almost definition it's encouraged to be kept in the bedroom.

 

[chicago]

Over the years I've noticed a lot of people who are obsessed with "acceptance" or terrified of being "outed" tend to not have a lot of sexual experience and seem to blame the fetish on it, regardless of whether it's a case of only being turned on by tickle stuff or just it being an otherwise minor part of what gets them off. Almost like a crutch people lean on as an excuse for not having a lot of sex of kink experiences; "if only it were a little more accepted".

Which is moronic because what's the 'biggest fetish'? Spanking? BDSM stuff? See how that's still a constant source of jokes and hilarity for people who don't get off on it? How accepted to people really expect it to be, it's a sex fetish. By almost definition it's encouraged to be kept in the bedroom.

Exactly. It's like "I'm scared to have a good time," basically lol and with the popularity of BDSM overtones in music and movies, clearly society is a lot kinkier than they might seem.

 

[b0xr]

I believe the pain fetishes are more acceptable, and it's always baffled me too. I had a meeting with a girl once,and we just really talked about our tickle fetish. She told me that she told her friends she was coming to meet with me, but she told them it was for a spanking fetish because That they would understand. You mention tickling fetish to people look at you as if you were stabbing puppies with pencils. smh

 

[PiedPiper]

The more prominently recognized activities of the BDSM community come with a somewhat more objective initiation/exploration procedure. You're either into it,.. or not,... and both parties know what's happening all along. Trust is a frequently mentioned issue. Nobody's privately plotting to attempt an experimental spanking on an office-mate or try to put their room mate's girlfriend in chains. However some of the zealots on this forum seem to think that literally everyone out there is a potential candidate for a fleeting and uninvited tickle, and they can be creepier than the whips & chains crowd by quite a margin.

Comfort Eagle,....... good one.

 

[Teal]

The more prominently recognized activities of the BDSM community come with a somewhat more objective initiation/exploration procedure. You're either into it,.. or not,... and both parties know what's happening all along. Trust is a frequently mentioned issue. Nobody's privately plotting to attempt an experimental spanking on an office-mate or try to put their room mate's girlfriend in chains. However some of the zealots on this forum seem to think that literally everyone out there is a potential candidate for a fleeting and uninvited tickle, and they can be creepier than the whips & chains crowd by quite a margin.

Yeah, I totally agree.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

I will just post from my personal experiences. When I was living in the Hampton Roads area of VA I met up with people in the local BDSM scene and went to a local play party. People in that area were heavily into impact play. At the one party I went to regularly the host had a whipping post and all through out the night people kept getting hit with various toys. Now don't get me wrong I love me some impact and I like to watch, but tickling will always come before impact play. I heard a lot of people in the Hampton Roads scene who I knew could get beaten until they were black and blue say they hated tickling. I also felt a lot of people thought my fetish was strange or a joke. Man if only I could've gotten 100 bucks for every time someone I played said wow I've never tickled someone before or you're the first person I've ever really tickled. Heck if I am going to be completely honest some people were completely against tickling me. Just about every play partner or Dom I had hooked up with in that area was not what I would've called a tickle fetishist. I wouldn't even call my current boyfriend a tickle fetishist. He was a service top and into sensation play, so he was very willing to do it. Now the reason I think most masochist are against tickling is because their brains don't know how to process the sensation. Getting hit and being tickled are two very different sensations. I've personally noticed that a lot of people can take a spanking more so then a tickling and because of it there are more people into impact play, so therefore that would make it more popular.

 

[mb7700]

I will just post from my personal experiences. When I was living in the Hampton Roads area of VA I met up with people in the BDSM and went to a local play party. People in that area were heavily into impact play. At the one party I went to regular the host had a whipping post and all through out the night people kept getting hit with various toys. Now don't get me wrong I like some impact as well and like to watch, but tickling will always come before impact play. I heard a lot of people in the Hampton Roads scene who I knew could get beaten until they black and blue say they hated tickling. I also felt a lot of people though my fetish was strange or a joke. Man if only I could've gotten 100 bucks for every time someone I played said wow I've never tickled someone before or you're the first person I've ever really tickled. Heck if I am going to be completely honest some people were completely against tickling me. Just about every play partner or Dom I had hooked up with in that area was not what I would've called a tickle fetishist. I wouldn't even call my current boyfriend a tickle fetishist. He was a service top and into sensation play, so he was very willing to do it.

Wow. Very interesting. Thanks for sharing your perspective and experiences.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

I like that tickling is weird. Fuck em if they don't like it. Strap one of those pain folk to a St. Andrews Cross and see how they react to a finger in their armpit...

"...who's the bitch now pain-slut?"

You better not be around when they get out. A lot of people on fetish sites say they will get violent.

 

[KnismoUK]

Loving the responses. Thank you all for sharing your thoughts, very interesting 🙂

 

[Aeveirra]

Yeah, your totally right. 🙂

 

[ticklemepls]

Maybe if people spent less time judging each other and more time just enjoying what they're into life would be a bit better. To each their own- those who live in glass houses shall not throw stones. People have their reasons for not being into things - tickling included, some people just do NOT like it period. Not a big deal. At least to me. If you're not into it, whatever. If you're into something I'm not- ok good on you. If you're into something I havent tried, that might be an opportunity to learn about something new. People need to quit being so damn judgmental 🙂 But that'll never happen.