Tickling a woman when she's angry/sad

[CaptainQuantum]

Anyone have any good stories of tickling a woman when she was mad at you, or sad, or just plain not in a good mood? Especially when she was angry, did she fight to keep from laughing? And how long did it take to break her? Details please. 🙂

 

[BellaRisa]

Um...

When someone is sad or angry with you, you don't start tickling them unless you have no respect for them as a person and you're looking for a fat lip . A good friend and/or lover tries to help them with whatever's wrong. THEN, once you've dealt with things, maybe some tickling fun would be a good idea for stress relief *if she wants it*. Ticklish women are people first, forget that and your nose can be what gets broken

Bella

 

[CaptainQuantum]

When someone is sad or angry with you, you don't start tickling them unless you have no respect for them as a person and you're looking for a fat lip . A good friend and/or lover tries to help them with whatever's wrong. THEN, once you've dealt with things, maybe some tickling fun would be a good idea for stress relief *if she wants it*. Ticklish women are people first, forget that and your nose can be what gets broken

Bella

I know what you mean Bella. Of course if she's really upset you don't trivialize it by tickling her. But I didn't have anything quite that serious in mind. I think everyone has had the experience of being angry, and someone tickles you to try to get you out of that mood. Like a little bit of a game almost. Naturally, if she's really upset about something she'll make it clear that it's not the time to tickle her. Fat lip example noted 😛 But I think if it's just that you're having a an argument about something relatively minor, she'll simply try to keep from giving in to the tickling, just to piss her tickler off. Then it becomes kind of a game. That's all I had in mind.

 

[steph]

I'm with Bella and I'd like to take it a little further. I don't know if this will make sense to guys but I think a lot of woman can relate. I don't feel this way so much about anger but sometimes being sad (as long as it's over nothing too tragic) can just feel good. A good sobfest can be cathartic once in awhile! So for me, even though most anytime is good to "get" me, I probably wouldn't appreciate it just then.
XOXO

 

[Luv2Tickle69]

Bella's dead-on.....if my lady is angry/sad/in a bad way about anything.....I make sure she talks about it and we deal with those feelings as they exist until she feels she's gotten a little peace of mind from doing so.....then...after the fact....I might tickle her feet to make her smile/laugh.......in so much that if she's NOT in the mood, and says so....I don't push it....(she is, most times though... 😎 )

 

[Abellytickler1980]

Anyone have any good stories of tickling a woman when she was mad at you, or sad, or just plain not in a good mood? Especially when she was angry, did she fight to keep from laughing? And how long did it take to break her? Details please. 🙂

Plenty of times. Most times, it actually puts them in a better mood. Sometimes, they even thank you for it.

 

[kis123]

Plenty of times. Most times, it actually puts them in a better mood. Sometimes, they even thank you for it.

My ex tried this with me a couple of times when I got angry about his famous finances. He got hurt each time!

I guess it's in the person you pick. I took it as a way to show he was in control since he wasn't ticklish and he knew I wasn't in the mood to play. So he pretty much got what he deserved in my opinion.

 

[Abellytickler1980]

My ex tried this with me a couple of times when I got angry about his famous finances. He got hurt each time!

I guess it's in the person you pick. I took it as a way to show he was in control since he wasn't ticklish and he knew I wasn't in the mood to play. So he pretty much got what he deserved in my opinion.

That's right. You have to be able to tell how the person responds. If you're the person that made them mad, then you should probably back off.

 

[cerebraltickles]

It depends of me on the level of my anger, or sadnes, as others have eluded to. If I'm just lightly sad, it might actually eleviate the blues into a fit of giggles. This has happened to
before and lightened the mood.

However, if I'm in a depressed mood, something specific happened that day, or I'm really feel blah, then being tickled will just make things worse. Sometimes I've been tickled when I have been sad, I tried to hide it and give into the tickling and I just ended up crying. The tickling brought out more intense feelings in me, making the sadness, or anger worse. And the tickler is on the receiving end of this, feeling terrible for me and the tickling they dished out.

That is my story!

Cerebral

 

[Gothmog]

I think it would be very mean and insensitive to tickle someone when they're upset.Because it trivializes how they might feel,and that's not right to do to someone.

 

[Abellytickler1980]

An example

Here's an example of how tickling a person when they are down can elevate their spirit. I didn't know the girl was feeling down that day, but I seemed to help her out.

This is one that happened in the same chemistry class that I spoke of before. I sat in the back of the room and the girl that was next to me was always stretching and her bellybutton was always showing (lucky me, huh?) Well, one day, we both got detention because of returning “late” from lunch. We were already in the room, but because our teacher (who was a fill-in for our regular teacher, who was out because of pregnancy) was on an ego trip and no one liked her anyways, she gave us detention.

ALRIGHT!!!! ON TO THE GOOD STUFF!!!!


When students got detention in her class, they had to clean the room for her while she went about her “business” which involved nothing more than harassing students that were still in the halls after school was out. Anyway, I cleaned papers out of the desks while she and the other girl in detention swept and cleaning the blackboards. It was a warm spring day outside and she was wearing a pair of capris and a belly revealing midriff shirt. So, the other girl (a goodie two-shoes) got to leave early, so that left us alone. I then knew what I had to do. She went over to the blackboard to start wiping it off. I walked casually over to her with the broom. She’s not that tall, so to get to the top of the board, she had to stretch up, which would leave even more of her belly, ribs, and sides exposed. I stood right behind her while she was cleaning the top of the board and I reached out and grabbed her sides. She “eeped”. The teacher was standing right outside so the goal was for her laughter not to be heard. I put my hands right in front of her on her belly right above the bellybutton and began to rub her stomach, which caused an abundance of silent laughter. She turned to me and mouthed, “Stop it!”, but I persisted. She tried to ignore me and continue cleaning, but wherever she went, I went. Eventually, she did finish the top part of the board, but before she could put her arms down, I stuck my hands in her armpits and started tickling there. She was making all kinds of faces and trying to get away from my tickling fingers, but no such luck. After a few minutes, I returned to her belly and planned to get into that bellybutton, but she pulled her shirt down and continued to wipe the board.

DO YOU THINK THAT DETOURED ME AT ALL?!

No way, I lifted her shirt up, inserted my hands under it and starting tickling her in the area right above the bellybutton. She was definitely losing it!!! I rubbed and massaged her tummy and she could not stand it! She started to crack and audible laughter started coming forth. Then, for the piece de resistance (pardon my French), I put my finger in her deep bellybutton. That was it!!!!! She started to laugh so loud that we were sure to be caught. Apparently, I was too caught up in the tickling and the delight of hearing her laughter that I just did not care. I lowered her to the floor and just went nuts on her oh so ticklish tummy. She was just a little chubby (and that’s my favorite kind of tummy to tickle) and I was working that fat. Monster-clawing, massaging, probing, I gave her the works for about 10 minutes. I then went into a raspberry on her and she screamed!!! Amazingly, no one came running in to see what was going on. Then, eventually I stopped and I check to see where the teacher was and lo and behold, she had gone home. I went over to help her up and to my surprise, she just smiled and said, “Thank you for cheering me up.” She kissed my cheek and I escorted her out. I had my hands around her waist and under her shirt so as to prolong the tickling, squeezing her sides until we got outside. She gave little giggles and was smiling all the way. I had not missed the bus, so we went our separate ways.

 

[kis123]

I think it would be very mean and insensitive to tickle someone when they're upset.Because it trivializes how they might feel,and that's not right to do to someone.

I agree!

And for those of you who have done it and gotten away with it to this point, good for you! But I don't agree with it at all and if it were done to me, he'd be injured in a way that would remind him to never do it again.

 

[battlecat]

I don't know if this will make sense to guys but I think a lot of woman can relate. I don't feel this way so much about anger but sometimes being sad (as long as it's over nothing too tragic) can just feel good. A good sobfest can be cathartic once in awhile! So for me, even though most anytime is good to "get" me, I probably wouldn't appreciate it just then.
XOXO

Steph, I agree completely with what you are saying and it makes total sense to me. I am a bloke and there are times when even I need to 'let it all out' once in a while and I'm not ashamed to admit it... maybe have a shout or shred a few tears. To me thats a healthy thing to do. It's a release of all those emotions we would otherwise bottle up. So I understand totally that there is a time to tickle, a time not to, and a time just to put your arm around someone and let them know you care....but there's also a time when occasionally you just want to be left alone.
Personally I wouldn't dream of tickling a girl who's sad or angry, not because I value my health but because there's a time and a place for that sort of thing....and that's so clearly not it !!
To me tickling someone in that much of an emotional state would be like forcing yourself on someone...it's just emotional torture and so wrong on so many levels.
As all of you who have read my posts before know, I think of tickling mostly as a fun and playful way of showing a lady that I love her and if you really love someone you have respect not only for them but for their feelings and if you've made them angry you say sorry...if their sad you comfort them. I know it's often more complicated than that but it's hardly rocket science...no that's love !!!
If you really care about them, then tickling does not even enter the equation...that's for another time and another place hopefully when it's all over and both of you feel in need of a little fun!!

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

It sounds like everyone can pretty much agree that tickle-attacking your freind/lover/other when they're obviously in no mood whatsover for it is a very knuckleheaded thing to do.

I have to say that the fantasy of tickling someone against their will, or where they're in no position to avoid it, is a tremendous turn-on for me. Probably doesn't speak very well of me as a person, but it's there, and I'd rather never be cured of my desires. It would be similar to losing a long-loved friend.

 

[GoForTheLaugh]

I absolutely agree with the many wise words posted in this thread. There are only a small number of people I have ever let get very, very close to me, and these are the folks I count on or who count on me when world-weariness fills us with tearfulness, anger, anxiety, or whatever.

I do think it is possible for someone who is only a little sad to ask for a cheer up tickling--uncommon, perhaps, but possible. Emphasis here: only a little sad and something the lee requests. Could that be what the first post was about?

If the person doesn't request it, though, tickling is indeed off limits; human compassion is the appropriate response.

 

[BellaRisa]

I do think it is possible for someone who is only a little sad to ask for a cheer up tickling--uncommon, perhaps, but possible. Emphasis here: only a little sad and something the lee requests. Could that be what the first post was about?

From the first post:

"Especially when she was angry, did she fight to keep from laughing? And how long did it take to break her? Details please."

This was the telling line for me. You mentioned asking, which is a whole different ball game. No one who *seeks* tickling play from a trusted friend or lover to get over a bad mood needs 'broken'. In my experience, a woman who's truly P.O.'d or unhappy, frightened, etc. isn't ticklish anyways, which is why this topic is the stuff of fantasies. I know the non-con fans want to get their torches out everytime I mention this fact, but there it is, sorry boys .

One caveat I'll give: I'm known as a switch but I'm quite submissive to a select few (you know who you are ) , and 'lees like myself have been known to brat their way into a decent tickling (and/or spanking, but that's another forum) from someone we know will understand the vibe we're sending. Giving up that control can be quite the necessary balm for an ill mood, but the 'ler HAS to be sure that's what's going on. I don't believe this type of scenario is what was meant in the original thread, but I could be wrong

Bella

 

[CaptainQuantum]

Well like I said earlier, I wasn't referring to a situation where she's VERY upset. Maybe a little spat where she's a little annoyed with you at the moment. In that kind of scenario, tickling her can turn into a bit of a game, seeing if you can get her to laugh or smile (that's what I meant by "breaking" her). I also had in mind using tickling as a way to make-up, telling her he's sorry while trying to get her to smile. That, or when she's a little down in the dumps, but again not VERY upset. Also, I was assuming that the tickler in the relationship can tell the difference. Didn't mean to give the wrong impression.

 

[b0xr]

I would never try to tickle my wife when she is in a sad mood. She isn't a true 'lee to begin with so tickling her would only irritate her more than she already is. Tickling her when she is in a bad mood is a real no no. She would have none of that and I'm sure she would lash out at me...and rightfully so.

 

[BellaRisa]

Well like I said earlier, I wasn't referring to a situation where she's VERY upset. Maybe a little spat where she's a little annoyed with you at the moment. In that kind of scenario, tickling her can turn into a bit of a game, seeing if you can get her to laugh or smile (that's what I meant by "breaking" her). I also had in mind using tickling as a way to make-up, telling her he's sorry while trying to get her to smile. That, or when she's a little down in the dumps, but again not VERY upset. Also, I was assuming that the tickler in the relationship can tell the difference. Didn't mean to give the wrong impression.

You gave the right impression, I know exactly what you meant, hon. It's just that many women, myself included, tend to dislike the type of scenario you describe even if we're just a little annoyed with you. It means you're not taking our annoyance seriously, which bugs the tar out of a woman-even a 'lee like myself. Most any male here who actually *has* a lady over the age of 17 will attest to this.

As I said, often a 'lee 'will' provoke her 'ler with her attitude to get needed attention in the form of tickling. That's one thing. But what I usually see, and hear of, and have experienced myself, is when a guy tries to get a girl to laugh and smile when that's the LAST thing she wants to do, purely by physical reaction. If he can get to her, he wins in his mind. Deny that aspect if you like, but I've seen it too many times. Yes it's a game, but only for the 'ler. For the girl it's annoying as all hell and only makes us angrier. Basically you're deciding for her how she should feel at that moment, and that's disrespectful and a little hurtful. For some reason many guys fantasize that they can make an issue lighter, or make it disappear completely, if they can get the girl to laugh and smile. And unfortunately, all it takes is one young girl who allowed it once for a guy to think that's how you treat grown women 🙄

I imagine you must think I'm making too big a deal out of this, and I don't blame you. Forgive me, but my issue is that this is one of the reasons SO many women out there loathe and despise tickling; bigger and stronger people use it as a subtle and not-so-subtle means of control, even after we've become adults. We feel silly protesting something so seemingly harmless, but its obnoxious and frankly nonconsensual all the same, and helps keep tickling as something pesky that women want nothing to do with. And that just sets us back in this community.

Bella

 

[CaptainQuantum]

Well I can be pretty thick sometimes, Bella, but I finally see what you mean. I thought we were talking about 2 different things at first. I'll keep that in mind the next time a woman I know is in a bad mood (and hopefully it won't be because of me 😛 )

 

[GoForTheLaugh]

Bella: As I hope I made clear in my post, I think tickling someone who is not in the happiest of moods is absolutely unacceptable unless the lee requests it.

I think you have made some excellent points, ones true of all people, I might add. You are not belaboring a point unnecessarily; rather, you are stating something that needs to be said. It is sad that so many folks hate tickling. This is true of every one of the friends I have confided in. They have no problem with my being involved in a consensual fetish, but they just plain hate the idea of tickling. A few of them (both men and women) have indeed talked about long-term tickling against their will when they were younger.

Because so many people hate tickling, I have always been down on myself for my interest (my only real fetish). Until I came to terms with it this year, I had relegated myself to the type of very short-term mainstream/vanilla tickling (a few seconds) I see around me, and was very judgmental of anything that was not the same. You are 100% correct when you state that abuse of tickling harms all of us tickle fans in the end.

As for the lee provoking the ler with attitude, I am afraid that I have no idea what this means, and I would be willing to bet that a lot of the straight guys reading this also do not fully understand. One cannot understand what one has not experienced. Perhaps this would be a good subject for a new thread linked to this one.

 

[BellaRisa]

As for the lee provoking the ler with attitude, I am afraid that I have no idea what this means, and I would be willing to bet that a lot of the straight guys reading this also do not fully understand.

Now this surprised me, with all that I've read on this forum of people starting tickle-fights and such. I'm guilty of it myself, in a fiesty mood. You know what I mean: not letting him have the remote control, arguing over something trivial for no good reason ("whadaya MEAN Napoleon Dynamite sucked??"), kicking the edge of his book with your bare foot over and over...that kinda thing. Something you *know* will get you tickled without you having to specifically ask for it, which sometimes just doesn't feel right. That whole control thing again...most 'lees I know have behaved this way on occasion, it's a safe way to cause trouble and often turns into something...else . There's a big difference between this type of playfulness and the situation the rest of the thread describes. 🙂 Make sense?

Bella

 

[steph]

Thanks battlecat!
XOXO

 

[Eroticklee]

Anyone who tickles me when i'm angry can expect nothing less than the smackdown of death upon their head. The same adrenaline that causes great excitement in me when I'm tickled in a good mood, turns to pure hostility when done while I'm in a bad mood. Big no no over here.

LOL

 

[GoForTheLaugh]

I'm surprised that you're surprised, Bella. 🙂 We all come at this fetish with widely varying life experiences. I, for one, am not ashamed to admit my ignorance.

I have never engaged in a tickle fight (not even as a kid) and have no idea how tickle politics works. It isn't the same as sex, after all. If a guy wanted to have sex with me, I hope he would not pick a fight about the remote in order to get it! What you say, though, does indeed make sense in a tickling context.

Clearly, arguing over the remote is not going to make me have sex with a guy; I would have no idea what was going on, and I would either try to put an end to hostilities or, if the other person was being ridiculous, stand up for myself.

Again, I can't know tickle politics unless I experience it, and, because I am often pressed for time, I read only a few of the threads posted here.