tickling and cerebral palsy

[tickleteasing]

First of all I want to start off this thread by saying I am not talking about this for sympathy but rather for hope that people will understand. Since I have graduated from college me having cerebral palsy has been an irrelevant fact in most situations, except occasionally it comes up when people find out I can't drive etc. But when it comes to tickling or someone wanting to tickle me I have wondered whether or not its relevant or should it even be brought up at all. I know whenever you do something physical, physical problems are brought up, my fear though is that the cerebral palsy will make people not want to touch me or have people be afraid of laying there hands on me. The truth is my cerebral palsy is minor at the most, I do not mind people knowing it is there but I do not want people afraid to go near me because of something like this. Often times when your chatting online and you tell people you have cerebral palsy, the assumption is I am in a wheel chair(Yes people have thought this from chatting with me online) I may walk strange but I am not in a wheel chair. I guess the point of this post is people with physical problems can be kinky too, and just because something that may be worth bringing up does not have to be a hindrance for enjoying yourself. Or, also allowing
others to enjoy being with you, tickling you etc.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Well I think that it is really brave and great that you made this thread tickleteasing, so bravo and thanks for making this thread. It is very insightful and very well thoughtout and well expressed, so thanks. I think that it is good that you are sharing like this and letting others get a closer and deeper look. That takes great courage and great strength so I commend you on this. I think you are going to have a great time at NEST, try not to worry about this, you are a great person, very kind, and very fun to be around and I think you making friends is going to go great and smoothly.

So best wishes to you and remember just be yourself and you will go far and you will do great-only befriend those that will like and accept you just for who and for what makes you up who you are -those that don't paid no heed.
You are a great person and I feel so fortunate to have you as such a great best friend. Have a great day. Hugs

First of all I want to start off this thread by saying I am not talking about this for sympathy but rather for hope that people will understand. Since I have graduated from college me having cerebral palsy has been an irrelevant fact in most situations, except occasionally it comes up when people find out I can't drive etc. But when it comes to tickling or someone wanting to tickle me I have wondered whether or not its relevant or should it even be brought up at all. I know whenever you do something physical, physical problems are brought up, my fear though is that the cerebral palsy will make people not want to touch me or have people be afraid of laying there hands on me. The truth is my cerebral palsy is minor at the most, I do not mind people knowing it is there but I do not want people afraid to go near me because of something like this. Often times when your chatting online and you tell people you have cerebral palsy, the assumption is I am in a wheel chair(Yes people have thought this from chatting with me online) I may walk strange but I am not in a wheel chair. I guess the point of this post is people with physical problems can be kinky too, and just because something that may be worth bringing up does not have to be a hindrance for enjoying yourself. Or, also allowing
others to enjoy being with you, tickling you etc.

 

[jj82277]

when you find that right person you will know and it will definately not matter.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I think you make some good points. I think nearly everyone has at least one thing that they worry will put others off. Often, letting people know about things up front is a big help. It lets them know that you're honest and want to let them know that you're okay before they even have a chance to question it. Good move.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I'm a little confused about if you're asking if it's necessary to bring it up, or if you're just trying to inform people that it's not a hinderance to you enjoying yourself via tickling or anything else. Maybe both 🙂

At any rate, if you're asking the question, I have no idea, because I don't know anything about cerebral palsy and how it may or may not effect you, your partner and/or your session. If there is a chance that something could go wrong and the other person would need to know, then I feel like it should be brought up. If you don't suffer any complications from engaging in tickle play, I wouldn't worry about it unless you want to tell the person.

As far as saying people with physical disabilities can be kinky, too, I couldn't agree more 🙂 And like Ann said, everybody has SOMETHING they worry will put people off. Just because it isn't something that can be diagnosed doesn't mean it's not something people can feel insecure or self conscious about. So in that aspect, you're in just about the same boat as everyone else 🙂

 

[50greg]

I have CP, too, as many of you know.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Hey nothing wrong with having CP or disabilities-each person has each their own troubles and trials in life. It is not a crime and it is really sad that there are still many people out there in this world-that don't try to understand and don't even try to empatheize or put themselves in another's shoes to be honest. Sorry but that is something that is a huge pet peeve for me. So I think it is great too that you made this thread tickleteasing-think it will help those that could or that might be struggling w CP or other disabilities or troubles- or learning disabilities-menth health disorder/issues-that he or she is not alone. That is important that those that are going through struggles know they are never alone.

I think you are going to do great and be fine tickleteasing and also think you are going to do fine 50greg. You both seem like very nice guys and sure you will make friends and that things will get lot better and smoother for you both. And I believe that yeah things may look tough now, but believe things will start to look up for those that are struggling now-with whatever storm he or she is going through-believe that he or she is going to blessed and things are going to improve. Just remember like they say-struggles and storms that come upon us all-to make us stronger and to build more character, that is a good thing. Even though sometimes it feels horrible and we would rather skip the pain, I know about that, I have been there done that, still going through that.

Yet I hope your goal is accomplished tickleteasing I hope you have a great time at NEST and that you make many friends there-feel at ease and comfortable-for this weekend you forget your stresses and worries for a short while-enjoy this great blessing and wonderful vacation before you. Life is short, might as well do what you can to enjoy it. You deserve it dear friend. Those of you struggling and hurting-just try to remember and know that good times are coming ahead-may not feel or seem that way-but keep holding on and lean on your friends-try to fight the good fight and try to keep the faith that good things will happen-I believe your breakthrough and blessings will come pouring out to you. Have a great day tickleteasing and to you all. Hugs.

 

[mike273273]

I have hemiplegia which is like cebral palsy but not as extreme. It is a left sided weakness. I went to a fetish house and had a session. The mistress still tickled me. Of course when she tied me up she had to be careful. I can still drive etc... I don't think the disability matters at all!

 

[loveofmystery]

Thanks for posting this!

I also have mild CP and had people treat me like I'm "fragile" or "breakable" because of it. As for kinky, well, people tend to peg me as the "sweet and innocent" type...boy, are they wrong! 😈

But, you know, I've found the best way to help people get over their "fear" is to tickle them first! They'll get over it pretty quickly in self defense.

Although I've never done a formal session (still too shy, I guess), I think I'd probably agree on a safeword, then they can rely on me to communicate that "everything is really okay."

 

[fightinggirl666]

I guess it comes largely from misunderstandings hun (to be honest I would have thought a wheel chair at first), you're brave to post this and I hope that people will how be more aware in such situations and understanding. I would hope that you explaining this would make people less inclined to jump to conclusions and treat you just as they would another. Good luck with having a long life of tickles sweets 🙂

 

[WorkInProgress]

Actually--and you'll be the one to know this better than I do--I would think that when people meet you in person and see up close how you function, they should be able to see fairly plainly that they can relate to you normally, and start the relationship from there. In that context, as you get to know people closely, and as the topic of fetishism comes up, you can just tell them what special needs you do and don't have. If you're a lee, then I would think it's mainly a matter of assuring the other person that you like to be tickled. When it comes to meeting people online, I think the best thing is probably to assume that it won't be an issue, and to state it as matter-of-factly as possible, maybe leading off with "I use a pair of canes to walk around" (or whatever the adaptation is). But all this needs a larger context to be really understood, in terms of what kinds of contacts you look for and how you look for them. For my part, if I'm negotiating tickle play with a woman who has any kind of physical challenges, I just need to make sure I know what's okay for me to do, so that I'm not in any way taking special advantage of anything uninvited.