Tickling and relationships

[WillingTicklee]

Hello,

I am just curious, has anyone here met someone and either dated long-term or married that person based mainly on an interest in tickling? Has anyone broken up with a partner because of a lack of interest in tickling? Lastly, has anyone stayed with a partner solely because of a mutual interest in tickling when absent that, there would be no other reason to stay in that relationship?

Thank you.

 

[lite]

I don't know if my answers fit your questions, exactly...

but kwildoctr and I met here at the TMF, and we're to be married next year. Tickling, however, is only a part of our relationship; I don't believe that I could be with someone forever if tickling were the only thing we had in common.

Before I met kwil, I had broken up with someone. Although the issue of tickling, for various reasons, was a part of the problem, it was not the only problem. That relationship would not have lasted even if tickling had not been an issue.

Finally, IMHO, a passion for tickling could never substitute for passion for a person. I might enjoy the play with someone, but I can't imagine staying in a dead-end relationship solely because I found someone who also enjoyed tickling. I think it would be possible to find someone to tickle me without having strings attached (so to speak). 😎

 

[Shem the Penman]

What lite said. I met Nightfall in a tickling chat room, and we got together in person the first time for a tickle session, but we wouldn't have stayed together, let alone gotten married, if we didn't appreciate a lot more about each other than ticklishness.

 

[Em Es]

No; no; yes

Willing Ticklee asked:

" . . .has anyone here met someone and either dated long-term or married that person based mainly on an interest in tickling?"

No, I haven't. I wish I could meet such a woman. As others in this thread said, of course you need more in common than a shared tickling passion to make it as a couple. But meeting another tickle enthusiast would make for a great start!

"Has anyone broken up with a partner because of a lack of interest in tickling?"

No. But that's because I'm a man, and it's usually the woman who calls it off. I've dated women who weren't ticklish. Looking back, would I have stayed tickle-frustrated had those girls not blown me off first? I wonder.

"(H)as anyone stayed with a partner solely because of a mutual interest in tickling when absent that, there would be no other reason to stay in that relationship?"

Yes. Years ago I had a fling with an older woman. While I can't say she was a fellow tickle enthusiast, I can say she was eager to please me. So she went along with my tickle games; starting with our third date, I tied and tickle her every time we got together. If not for the tickling, I doubt I would have dated her long. The same goes for a cute little nurse, whom I wrote about in this thread:

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=34428

Good questions, Willing Ticklee!

 

[Cyclic]

Lastly, has anyone stayed with a partner solely because of a mutual interest in tickling when absent that, there would be no other reason to stay in that relationship?

Yeah, I can honestly say I've stayed in relationships longer than I should have because of the whole tickling-sex thing.

 

[natural tickler]

Actually willing ticklee, in a way, that is how me and girlfriend hooked up, not necessarily for the tickling, it just happened that way. I had asked her what she wanted in a man, and said the usual things, and then said something that threw me for a loop. She said to keep her laughing and her tummy full and the problems are few. well, the one sure way to keep her laughing was to tickle her, and she didn't mind, as long as I didn't get carried away with it. So, as the relationship went on, and the tickling became a way of life, she just got used to it and pretty much expect it almost every day. the funny thing is she doesn't put up a fight, which leads me to the conclusion that she loves it, but is never admitting to it. this is a question to everyone in the forum: Can anyone explain to me why that is?

 

[Em Es]

Maybe it's YOU she loves

Natural tickler said when he tickles his woman, "she doesn't put up a fight, which leads me to the conclusion that she loves it, but is never admitting to it. this is a question to everyone in the forum: Can anyone explain to me why that is?"

ALL the women I've tickled probably did not like tickling as much as they liked ME. So that would be my answer to Natural tickler's question.

I've known a few who did not like being tickled, period. Unless you meet her through TMF or some tickle enthusiast gathering, any woman who puts up with her man tickling her is doing it because she wants to please him.

That's why the girls I tickled did it. They put with me driving them nuts to make me happy. It's just how some women are. Not enough women, but at least some!😉

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

My hubby and I met because of our mutual love of tickling. (He wrote me after finding my site and we went form there.) Would we have met had it not been for tickling? Probably not. Had we met and NOT shared a love of tickling, would we have stayed together? I'd like to think so. There is MUCH more to us than our love of tickling. You can't base a relationship solely upon one aspect of your life. You're either right for one another or you aren't. Tickling (or anything else) is only one aspect of things. It's not something upon which to base a relationship.

Ann

 

[natural tickler]

yeah Em Es, you're right, however, I would wish sometimes she would put up a fight sometimes instead of "here it is come get it" what's the fun in tickling without a "little" struggle hmm?

 

[Em Es]

I know what you mean, Natural tickler

Natural tickler, I agree. A little resistance makes the tickle game more fun. Between Faith, the older woman I tied and tickled, and Maria, the little nurse to whom I did the same (see my link, above), I would take Maria again if I had the choice.

Faith was so eager to please me that she would have tied herself up if she could. But Maria asked me at least twice not to tickle her anymore, so that made getting her that much sexier. And Maria's will to satisfy me won out over her dislike of getting tied down and tickled.😉 It was awesome.

Plus, sometimes I wondered if Faith pretended to be more ticklish than she was just to turn me on. But I KNEW nurse Maria was faking nothing, the way she struggled when I tickled her. Hee-hee, Maria, where are you today?

 

[trepak]

what's the fun in tickling without a little "struggle" ?

well, for some people it's never enough. Always be grateful for what you're getting. If you've found someone who is fine with being tickled, be happy about it. If she really is ticklish - it's ok. It may be just an 98% satisfaction but that's better than nothing. Imagine how many people here would kill to get what you already have....or how many people are sorry for the rest of their lives because 98% were not enough

and to EM ES:

...it's usually the woman who calls it off

never knew that are you sure about this??

 

[natural tickler]

very true

you're right, trepak I should be grateful. not too many people are in the position I'm of tickling without a fight. To me, sometimes it feels unnatural to tickle without some resistance. spoiled, I guess. And you're right, 98% is much better than none!!😛

 

[natural tickler]

also, trepak, as far the people who would kill to be where I am: hmm,. isn't killing still illegal???😀

 

[BigBrownEyes]

I was in love once. The physical aspect of out relationship was great. She even had a borderline tickle fetish. She used to let me tickle her and I loved it! But as time went on, she took me for granted, we found out that we didn't really have a lot in common, and got in fight after fight. In short, she turned out to be real beeach.

So the the mutual interest in tickling wasn't enough to save us. Not even close.

 

[shygirl]

I met my honey here too on the TMF and although it was our interest that brought us together, there should be more then just that to keep a relationshir healthy. My ex hubby was not interested in our fetish , but we also lacked that passion and communication, so therefore we did not last.

 

[Havsoker]

My hubby and I met because of our mutual love of tickling. (He wrote me after finding my site and we went form there.) Would we have met had it not been for tickling? Probably not. Had we met and NOT shared a love of tickling, would we have stayed together? I'd like to think so. There is MUCH more to us than our love of tickling. You can't base a relationship solely upon one aspect of your life. You're either right for one another or you aren't. Tickling (or anything else) is only one aspect of things. It's not something upon which to base a relationship.

Ann

Well said Ann. My GF and I met because of our mutual interest in tickling. It is what brought us together, but not what keeps us together. 🙂

Hav

 

[MaxSpeer]

I dated a girl for a few years and there was a lot of love in that relationship. Hoever, we were very different people, and it eventually seemed like the ONLY thing keeping us together was our love of our tickling/sex sessions.
After a while, it became unbearable to be with her and as amazing as our sex life was, and our total emersion into the tickling/BDSM play, we broke up.
This was the first time in my life that Tickling became the only thing my lover and I NEVER fought about.

So, as much as I need a woman in my life that enjoys our tickle play, there has to be more in order to have a satisfying relationship.

Max

 

[trepak]

also, trepak, as far the people who would kill to be where I am: hmm,. isn't killing still illegal???😀

Oh, I guess that depends on who's the victim.....

 

[njjen3953]

Re: No; no; yes

"Has anyone broken up with a partner because of a lack of interest in tickling?"

No. But that's because I'm a man, and it's usually the woman who calls it off.

Talk about a generalization. If that is your experience, Em Es, you might take some time to think what you are doing in these relationships that makes the women end the relationship.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Right on target, Jen...
But then, I find that you are a good deal of the time 😉

For me, it's always been the resistance that's the fun. Funny how the Big Guy upstairs exhibits his wild sense of humor now and again...he matched me with someone who is physically stronger than me, and more often than not, I wind up on the receiving end, for a time. That's what tickle fights are all about.
Too many people in this place sittin' around thinking there's absolutely no one out there for them, and too much negative energy expended living and breathing in that sorry mindset. Like that old Eagles song, you live your life in chains, and you don't even know you have the key...

 

[natural tickler]

Might I suggest that you start working out a little more, and maybe you could start winning those tickle fights😉

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Ha! If it were only that easy!
Life should only be that easy...
She's physically much larger than me. Ain't love grand? And therein lies Big Guy's sense of humor!

 

[natural tickler]

laughing uncontrollably.... well then Knox, the only other thing I can tell ya is, the next tickle fight you have, pack you lunch. you'll need it. My sympathies to you.

 

[Mischief]

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[trepak]

Tryin' to help you, Mr Knox

I can think of 4 ways to beat an enemy (may not be the right word, but we are talking 'bout a tickle-FIGHT either): the first three are STRENGTH, NUMBERS and SPEED (or AGILITY):
STRENGTH - you said - won't work, we have to accept that
NUMBERS - I don't think you want to call some friends to help ya, so scratch that one too
SPEED or AGILITY - well, if your opponent isn't VERY slow ........you decide that.

B U T

we still got the last one and it is

the T R I C K

If you are not strong or fast enough and got no one to help you, use your mental skills - they are the most effective weapon of all!
And they work - if used wisely..............